and we were talking about her dreams for her child. She said she really wants it to be a boy so he can be a "kick-as* soccer player". I asked what she would do if he didnt want to be a soccer player and she said she would make him play basketball, I asked what she would do if he didnt like that. AND SHE SAID THAT HE WAS GOING TO PLAY A SPORT NO MATTER WHAT.
This just really shocked me because she knows that when I was younger (till I got to college) my parents forced me to play sports when I didnt want to and now theres this giant rift between us because I didnt fulfill my parents dreams. I feel like I should talk to her about it and explain what could happen so she doesnt have to go through it but I know she is stubborn. Would I be out of line talking to her husband (the baby's father) about it and trying to get him to reason with her??
2007-01-28 20:00:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you're taking this a little too seriously, and are projecting your own life experience onto this child, who may just love sports.
Tell her and the father of your personal experience and how it affected you and your relationship with your parents and then leave it at that. It is their business how they parent their child so long as they are not abusing the kid.
Making a kid play a sport (which promotes health and physical activity) is most certainly NOT abuse. And remember, this is not your life, or your kid.
2007-01-29 04:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just let it go for now. Lot's of parents say those kinds of things, how the boy is gonna be a huge sports star, or how their little girl is gonna wear nothing but frilly dresses everyday.
But they mostly get over it and just let their child be who they are. And it could just be hormones talking there, when she said 'no matter what'.
If, once the child is growing up, she still tries to force things upon him that he really hates, then you should try to have a talk with her about how things are between you and your parents.
But hey, maybe it'll all work out in her favorand he'll grow up to be the next David Beckham or something.
Good luck, and tell her congratulatioins!
2007-01-29 11:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the following options:
(1) Tell her how you feel. Say that you don't mean to force your ideas down her throat, but you had a traumatic experience, and because you care about her, you're opening up and sharing your experience with her.
(2) Don't say anything. After all, no one like to be told how to take care of their kids!
Which choice you make depends on how close you are with her. If you have a relationship that is strong enough to weather some disagreement, I'd go with option 1. Otherwise, go with 2.
Just don't go behind her back and talk with her husband! That might be viewed as a betrayal.
2007-01-29 07:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is her baby and she is going to raise the child how she wants. why ruin a friendship over this? this is an issue that will not occur for another 6,7, 8 years.
2007-01-29 07:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's only pregnant it's not like she has the kid forced in sports right now. i wouldn't worry to much about it. it's one thing to say things and it's another to do them. my parents forced me into a lot of things growing up and i'm actualy glad they did. maybe i hated band but ithink it built chacter in me. i'm sure all moms havge dreams of what their kids will be like befor they are born.
2007-01-29 04:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by smile182 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her she cant go through life forcing him to do what she wants him to do or he will grow messed up or just a serious mummys boy.
2007-01-29 04:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Krayden 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is only pregnant lol wait until the baby comes, the baby will have a mind of its own and trust me parents don't have as much influence as they used to on what their kids do.
2007-01-29 05:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the department of family services the minute that child is born and have him/her put in foster care. no one should have to go through life with a mother like that
2007-01-29 04:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Czech_Mark 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
do you really think you can reason with someone who has such a closed mind as this?
2007-01-29 05:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋