My fiancee of over a year approached me this weekend, wanting to know if it would be ok for her to have a woman on the side to be intimate with. This would not be a problem with me except I feel like I'm letting her down and can't satisfy all of her needs. Also, I'm not allowed to do anything past flirting on my side. Please help me with your answers......
2007-01-28 19:58:25 · 10 answers · asked by Fireguy07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to dump her now. Seriously. She is using you. She thinks its ok to have something on the side and not you? Wise up fast or she will be wearing the pants and you will be her whipping boy.
2007-01-28 20:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why she wants a lover on the side. If she is bi and needs to fulfil some of her needs with another woman then you are not letting her down since you can't be a woman. Make sure you are really comfortable with the double standard before you get married.
2007-01-29 04:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't stop her from doing whatever she wants to, but there will have to be some ground rules for her or the deal is off. Either you BOTH get to see other people outside of the relationship, or she has to share the girl she's seeing with you. That's it...what's good for the goose is good for the gander!
2007-01-29 04:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the old double standard, hypocrite and child raising issues to me. Probably has nothing to do with you except to test your trust. Lust is usually never satisfied would be my warning she may run off with this girl at some point.
2007-01-29 04:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by sirromo4u 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your partner is a lesbian and staying in this sort of a relationship is not a healthy one. Let her go to find what she is looking for with another woman.
2007-01-29 04:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Oldies from Country Victoria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this question? Are u a guy or a lady? Are we handling a gay/lesbian case here?
2007-01-29 04:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jen2man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm you might wanna get out of that relo then... sorry but if she wants someone else she is not 100% committed to you
2007-01-29 04:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by sammy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude thats b/s let her and then when they go out follow them and kill them both!
2007-01-29 04:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by sportsfreak61787 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not be for it. Why would you want to approve of her cheating on you?
2007-01-29 04:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get out and get out now!!!
2007-01-29 04:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋