I caught my husband looking at ethnic websites of naked Asian,Latin,African women and I'm Blonde Blue eyed...Is that normal?..He says I'm what he wants, but, I feel so...uneasy. not about the interracial thing but..how can he change what he likes? Is he lying?
2007-01-28 19:51:16 · 19 answers · asked by sandra t 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While very happy and in love with my wife i still have a perv from time to time, and my wife knows that.
2007-01-28 19:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course men (and people in general) can change the "type" of person they are attracted to. However, in a marriage compatibility must be based on much, much more than physical attraction. You seem to feel threatened by your husband's exploration. This is a healthy, normal reaction! Try to focus on the non-physical aspects of your relationship (common interests, activities, support for each others goal, etc...) in order to keep the bond between you and your husband healthy.But keep in mind that looking comes before acting and if his activity regarding the porn makes you feel uncomfortable in ANY WAY, tell him. Ask him not to look at it, tell him you feel like you should be enough, after all he's enough for you! If he resists, does it anyway, or gets upset with you for asking, then you have bigger problems. Be aware of the host of issues that often accompany the viewing of pornographic material, particularly when one is married.
2007-01-29 04:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by bw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much, as long as you have a health marriage otherwise. He married what he was attracted to. Sometimes married men just like to look at what is still out there. I always had a deal with my wife that I could look at all the produce I wanted, but I couldn't squeeze the tomato's. I don't think you have too much too worry about.
2007-01-29 04:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what you're telling us is: You never look at another man; and if you happened to see a scantily clad, musclebound hunk, you'd lose your lunch??? C'mon...be real! He's just varying his eye candy. He might love you to death(we have no way of knowing the type of relationship you have!) but just likes to augment his everyday view with a little strange stuff. Unless you find stains on the front of his pants, stop dreaming up drama.
2007-01-29 04:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's almost impossible to change what he like. but it is completely normal to check those kind of web as long as he doesn't do anything else.. everybody has his own fantasy.. You maybe a regular blonde blue eyed girl, but he love you otherwise he wouldn't marry you, that's all that matter right?
2007-01-29 04:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by AY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really feel uneasy because of the fact that he is looking at ethnic websites, I think the bottom line is that he seems like he is not totally committed to you and just might cheat on you "just because" he is looking at other women at other websites. It has nothing to do with you look like, girl, it has entirely to do with him and your relationship with him...
2007-01-29 04:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must realize all cheating starts with a thought then a look then a action. If he is looking then he is thinking. That's a fact! Men wonder if they made the right choice or he is bored is all, you can fix that easy enough color you hair look like a china doll and make an effort to look sexy will usually do the job before it is too late
2007-01-29 03:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by sirromo4u 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He just likes looking at a variety of women. If you were black, he'd be looking at Asian, Latin, and white women. If you were Asian... you get the point. Don't read too much into it.
2007-01-29 03:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lee Harvey Wallbanger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like women of all races but I did'nt want to admit it to myself while I was growing up because of the stigma some older adults had against it, especially regarding blacks.
2007-01-29 04:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by I.M. Puffin' Stuff~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys dont just have a "type" they are eclectic individuals. I wouldnt feel threatened unless he actually brough one of them home... what he is doing is harmless and normal and he may just find them more exotic/mysterious because white ppl tend to be more common. Actually its been proving fantasising about other ppl is healthy for relationships... you should just give him his space to do what he wants there it is a highly personal thing
2007-01-29 03:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by sammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I know a guy who was married to a white woman for a long time, and now he wants anything but. Most men are attracted to women of all races. Beauty is beauty no matter what shade of color you are.
2007-01-29 03:54:54 · answer #11 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋