my bf and i decided to take a break for school a few days ago.. and earlier he just sat in my work for 2 and a 1/2 hours doing nothign to wait til i get off of work. we technically werent together. he told me there would be a good chance and i thoguth he meant it. cause he always means what he says.. but he said its over between us and he didnt want the relationship anymore. he told me he loved me and now hes going to try to stop loving me is that possible/./?? i just cant stop crying. no matter what anyone says i cant feel better.. since weve been on this break. before the break i mean we always talked on the phone b4 we went to sleep.. since weve been ont he break we havent been talkign to eachother at al and i keep having nightmares and restless sleep. i dont kown what to do with my self. i dont konwk how to get better.. we are both sophmores in college and were dating for over 2 years. we were eachothers first for everything... im just so depressed...we even talked about marriage..
2007-01-28 19:03:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was my only friend now i dont have anyone to spill my feelings to.. i just feel so alone and depressed...i wanted to marry him.. but he says its over... how do i get better? i dont have anyone to talk to about this. i jst feel liek dropping out of school. it feels liek the end of the world. i loved him so much i dont see how he could do this to us.. he keeps sayign hes sorry to me.
is it possible not to love someone especially a first love? that lasted for over 2 years?
(and no there isnt another woman involved...so please dont comment on that.) we decided to take a break cause we both work alot and have tough classes. so ter is alot of stress and tension..
2007-01-28 19:06:18 · update #1
i loved him so much and he loved me too. i just dont understand... im so hurt and broken.. i just feel liek falling asleep and never waking up again...
2007-01-28 19:08:16 · update #2
he wants to stop loving me.. i asked him if he loves me and he said while we were dating. but since were not anymore he wants to stop.. i told him its not possible especially since we were eachothers first love...
2007-01-28 19:11:02 · update #3
Yes. Time is the only thing that will stop the hurting and help you to move on.
2007-02-05 17:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep cool. Even though it may seem to be the end of the world it is not. Feelings are really tough and can be even worse than physical pain. This is a phase, which can last long and maybe will not get much better, but it will get better over time. If you are on a break then you should wait for him and please do not try to hook up with someone else, that would be the worse mistake. Not everything is lost, just have some patience show him that you are devoted and he will come back. It is just a matter of time and long nights without any stars or a moon, long unwanted diets. Too many tears and too little hopes. As a final note, I want to tell you that you have known what love is and how it feels. You never know love until you are really hurt, then you know it was really love. That is something many never experiment.
2016-03-15 01:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, yes. it feels like the end of the world, but it will get better. Time is your best friend right now. It is an asset you need to keep right now. And, no, to answer your question. To me it is very hard to just stop loving someone. The feelings you have for that person can change, but the love will always be there. You just need to take time for yourself and try to do other things that did not include him. Try to get together with some of the girls at you school and have nights out with them. you'll soon find that the world is not that bad and it will go on. It's always good that you have that someone else in your life but they are not NEEDED in your life. You can make it on your on and you will.
Take Care.
2007-01-28 19:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by gord's360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel it will eventually get better for you. You need to give yourself sometime to grieve. But try to find something you enjoy to occupy yourself to get your mind off it as much. 7 months ago I became a single mother of 3 baby's. It hard no matter the situation. Just give it time.
2007-01-28 19:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable on the feelings you are having from losing some one that you love.
It is okey to just cry your heart out if it would ease the pain. But remember don't live in the past but make yourself opened to any new comers.
2007-01-28 19:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might have been a commitment-phobe or maybe he was seeing someone on the side. Either way its over and I know it sucks but just think. You are in collage these are the best years of your life. Now its OK to cry and get all that out but you don't need to waste anymore of your tears on him. Especially if he said that he is going to stop loving you. He is clearly just not into you anymore...sorry for being harsh. Anyway you need to detoxify yourself. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him, including things he gave you. Get a good girlfriend you can trust and use her as you breakup-buddy. Call her every-time you feel like calling him or meeting him somewhere or anything like that. Let her calm you down and do anything to get your mind off the past and look to the future. Buy a new outfit go out dancing have fun YOUR STILL YOUNG!!!. You'll find someone new and forget all about how he hurt you. Hope this helped.
2007-02-05 18:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in pretty close to the same boat. My ex and I had a really strong loving relationship. Well I won't go into details but it ended while we were both still in love. We went from seeing and talking to each other every day to nothing at all. Not even a friendly nod across the room. She was my all and I was hers. We shared all of life and firsts in everything. I'm a loner by nature so I have nobody now. The whole ordeal was about 7 months ago. For the most part I'm fine but every now and then I get a pang. So what I'm saying is that time does heal but depending on who you are or your circumstances you may ever really lose the love. Our hearts always hold the hope of love and familiarity again. My only suggestion is to surround yourself with life. I know you would prefer to hide and give up but it'll be better for healing to force yourself into the world. Strike up conversations make yourself outgoing. The past is the past the present is all you can hold at a time and the future will take care of itself when it chooses. Life is to short to dwell on anything longer than it takes to answer or enjoy.
2007-01-28 19:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur always gonna love him and hes always gonna love you but considering u were each others first u guys no nothing about life all u know is each other some times its necessary to move on in order to grow he was ur love but as u grow u will experiance other loves maybe even better ones except that its over but remain friendsi know its hard to want some thing you cant have learn from this and dont be afraid to fall in love try not to dewell on this cuz its not doing you any good only time can heal your pain but living life makes it move faster
2007-02-04 22:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok to cry in such circumstances. you should not neglect yourself, though... you need to make friends with someone... since you don't have any, why don't you do something (chores) or learn something (music/art/plants/language) that will take your mind away from your pain... reading a book on positive thinking will help too... just don't give up :)
2007-01-28 19:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I really think he's doing something stupid. You look like a great girl.
The reason he broke up with you is that he doesn't want to love you anymore? Now that's a little silly. There more to it. Think about it. It's gotta be something else. Either school, family, or just you.
Maybe he wants to concerntrate on his studies just a little while. Maybe he has problems with his family. Or maybe he thinks that there really something wrong with the both of you.
Now for you to cope over this, don't cry. Yes, crying does makes you feel better but i won't do anything else. I think you should really talk to him and ask him really what's on. If he doesn't feel like saying anything don't worry. He'll open up to ypu one day.
At the mean time, you should also try to do something else to distract you. Life is not all about one small thing like this. Try mediatating, yoga, sports to get this out of your mind.
Don't worry, everything has an end. And it hasn't ended yet. He needs time. You need time.
2007-01-28 19:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by Addicted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋