Well my g'f is going through some ruff times with her dad. I don't know how to help her everytime i ask her if she's ok or wants to talk she starts getting mad at me for asking. Wwe just blow up into a huge fight and try to break up with each other everytime we do talk. I love her more than anything, but it's also difficult because we are in a long distance relationship right now, but i'm moving back next week. I just want the best for her, and i can always tell when something's bothering her but when i ask boom a fight. Please help.
2007-01-28 18:07:57 · 7 answers · asked by Jarrod S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's got to deal with whatever it is that is going on with her dad, and the emotions that she's going to have probably have nothing to do with you. Just let her vent them, that is the best you can do - and don't take it personally if she is upset or angry. It's not at you. If you just try to reign in your defensive response for a while, you'll probably see that she gets all of her anger out, and then it's ok between you two again.
2007-01-28 18:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer w/out knowing why she is having a rough time w// her dad, but i would wager she isn't mad at you but instead is taking her excess anger and frustration out on you. It is something most couples do becuz in their hearts they believe the other person will always be there. And that is what you have to remember when she is gettting mad and yelling and just remind her you love her and that you are there for her. Try telling her that you want her to know you are there if she needs you but dont push for to talk about it. Sometime you have to wait for the other person to be ready to talk bout it... so after you tell her that ask her bout something totaly unrelated. All she needs from you is reassurances that she is not alone and that she is loved. And all you can do sometimes is to be patient and ride the storm out... sometimes that enough too. Hope this helps.
2007-01-28 18:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long have you been going out with her ? Maybe she needs time to tell you. For a start tell her about your family ... all the good times and bad times . Make her feel important . Tell her all the things that make you sad or happy. let her know everything about you. Once you've told her everything tell her how easy it is for you to share what you've had in your heart ... she will tell you whats on her mind. And if she gets angry dont get mad at her. Just listen !
2007-01-28 18:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit asking her.Living with the problems are hard enough and she probably doesn't want to re-live it by telling you. Talk about anything else. Although it is good of you to want to talk and help her, she may just need to forget about it when she is talking to you. So, keep the conversations light and cheerful.
2007-01-28 18:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and be there for her if she needs you.. Let her ask you for help if needed. Be a friend right now. It will pay off in the long run
2007-01-28 18:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her until she can be sane.. she will continue this game for a while until everything in her life is straighting out. (Sorry ladies who just don't open up.... you need to exp. when your boyfriend husband asks whats wrong)
2007-01-28 18:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by ompie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK she is hurting. JUSt be there 4 her. AND dont push its tuff enough. IF she breaks up dont take it personal.
2007-01-28 18:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋