true love and not wanted!?

Question

don't say i'm too young, or too young for him.
i'm 13 and he's 16, he knows i like him, and i know he's not sure. but what he doesn't know is i love him. ( and i wasn't raised to use the word love very lose,) i know it's true love, like, once in a life time love. and i'm not just being silly. i know what i feel. it's not like a crush where it's shallow, where the first thing you think is love.
it's hard to explain, but i feel ture love and i know what that is. but i don't want it, i wish it would go away! is it nurmal to not want to have it, when some ppl would kill for it? why me? why do i feel this.
it only makes me sad because i know he proberbly doesn't like me back, and i know he doesn't love me, so i'm sad just to think about him. i love him, real love, and i don't want to. wha should i do?

ok let me elabrate: i live in a small town of maybe 100, (Montana), and i have known and loved him for almost 4 years now, and i've been out with the only 3 other guys in the area, and one from somewhere else. no change with the love i have for the one boy.

oh yeah, and i've told him i like him. and asked him, he said he didn't know.

Answer 1

distract yourself with others
u r lucky it will go away in a few months

Answer 2

my advice which i have given to a few other girls is that love comes and goes. Not that I think of love as a crush or anything, but everyone had a first love, and the probability of staying with that first love is very low, im not saying it doesnt happen it happens, but lets say like your scenario, you feel so much more for him , and you can sense he doesnt understand those feelings yet.

We can't REALLY judge people by their age, sometimes some are more matured for their age than others. I dont know if you have ever felt that, some people dont act their age.

This should be an example for you, you are more matured than he is and that is why you feel a certain way and he doesnt.

your answer is TIME.
When people break up they still have feelings for one another, but its time and how they use their time over and over again, that makes them forget about the break up and move on.

So lets say for you is a situation of a break up wether he knows it or doesnt, but you are breaking up in your heart, you dont want to fall for him , so you PHYSCIALLY and MENTALLY are trying to tell yourself that you should move on , but EMOTIONALLY your heart is still with him.
Emotions dont work with logic.

So basically keep yourself busy, find an alternative for your feelings. For instance if you are reminded of him, go do something else and after a while once you do that you get used to the new task.

Some girls who break up become FAT, because their alternative factor is munching on chocolates and food.

So maybe you can try sports, pick up a sport for yourself and hopefully in time you will see that you dont notice how you have taken away that attachment you had towards him.

I would suggest sports, because it keeps you healthy, fit and distresses you when you have other issues as well.

Good luck and stay smart

Answer 3

Although you may feel you know what true love is at your age, you have yet to expereince the meaning of true love. I don't question your ability to love, but what do you have to compare this love to in order to determine if it is true love? I also don't question that you have deep rooted feelings for this guy. What you are feeling is uncertainty. Although you may be mature for your age and feel like you do know what true love is, if you truly did understand it then you would be able to explain your feelings. I would have to say that you don't want to feel this way, because what you are feeling is helplessness. You feel helpless because you are experiencing feelings you never have before. I would say that you are developing into a healthy young woman that simply is learning what emotions are all about. Cut yourself some slack and just enjoy this guy's company.

Also, true love isn't uncertain about another persons feelings for them. And although you don't believe this to be a crush, it may just be an infatuation you have....try not to grow up too fast in this area of your life hon. Take this time to explore who you are and not so much what you should do.

Answer 4

True love at 13? I thought the same thing back in the day. When I got older I realized there was more out there. Maybe you need to get out and hang out with differnt people. You'll see what I mean a few years from now. Its real easy to mistake love with a crush... Good Luck.

Answer 5

i do believe you. love is love. it may not be the same as when you grow older but i do think that those feelings are real. my only advice is wait. not popular when youre young i know, but right now youre becoming an adult so its natural for you to start feeling this. youre very smart to realize that you might not end up with him. i wish that i could tell you something to help right away, but life isnt like that. thats another thing youre about to learn. youll get over it one day. everyone has.

Answer 6

oh my God.Love,love,love.I promise i wont tell you that you too young to love because this thing comes naturally and sometimes it is very hard to block it but you can always do something about it.This guy does not love you maybe because he feels you are too young or he is in love with someone else.Love is good very good but also very dangerous especially if you do not know anything about it.I would advice you get one grown up(but should be agood person and alady)who will guide you in this matter.But if you could wait just alittle longer am sure by the time you are about 18 or so this guy you love somuch will love you or you will get abetter person whom you will love and will love you back

Answer 7

No you're not too young and you're not to young for him. Three years isn;t that bad, my parents have about 12years difference in their ages!

You love him, and it's normal. I understand when you say you feel sad when you think of him because he probably doesn't like/love you back, but you gotta give it a shot right? I know it must be hard for you to say it, but maybe you can indicate it instead.

Love is love, and there's nothing like it. Atleast let him know, otherwise you might regret it later... You never know if he really likes you or not till you tell him...

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

you're not to young to love. love has no bounds. embrace the feeling, it'll go away if you want it to if you embrace it.
and, you shouldn't ever tell him that you feel so strongly for him. it'll only make things worse with the lies and stuff from your other questions. and it's ok that it makes you sad. sadness is what helps us know we're alive, and humen. besides, you don't have to be sad anymore. LOL, (my e-mail)

Answer 9

Like him first..be friends first get to know him well first then in about 2-5 years then see if you stil love him

Answer 10

Um, you're 13, sorry honey...but at that age we think we "know" so much...look back on this at 23 or even 33 and laugh. You won't believe me, but you don't know love yet.

Answer 11

listen YO your not the only one!!!!
i have been in that spot before but hey i got over that person and well yeah : ]
look youll have way more love interests in ur life dont stick to 1 guy!