I've always been attracted to older guys but they never seem to take me seriously. Once in awhile I come across a good one but sometimes they're downright rude and they expect me to date them. I'm 25 and I'm seeing one casually who's 34 and he doesn't grasp the concept that I don't have sex outside of relationships and he said he probably won't be able to see me anymore if I don't have sex with him. He said he'll only want to be friends. He also comments on other girls. Tomorrow I'm going to tell him that I'm done with him. I really liked him alot and I feel like a fool. Do men not take younger women seriously? 25 is no baby.
2007-01-28 18:02:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For that man u are dumping, he probably just don't take women seriously anyway and think that sex is all that matters. It has nothing to do with u being 25...although at your age, he is probably hoping that you are more gullible. I do not think it a dumb idea to date older men as they are more mature and usually more established in their careers and hence able to provide to women a sense of security. So go for it if they are your cup of tea. I must caution however and say that sometimes there may be the generation gap problem especially when things are more serious and you have moved on from mere chit chat to sharing life experiences. You may then find that both your interests are totally different and his idea of hanging out is going to the golf course!!
2007-01-28 18:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Older men have lived longer and have more life experience. That's wonderful in many ways. Often they see a 25 year old as a sex object but not someone that can stimulate them intellectually beyond the bedroom. So, no, they don't take you seriously. If you dated a man who was 45 right now, then when you were 45 he'd be 65 and ready to retire. They keep getting older. That can be a draw back for some.
2007-01-29 02:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong conclusion I think. I think you picked a stinker. He is a narcisstic sob who doesn't show you proper respect whereas another man just might meet you needs. You were smart to delay the sex. I was like that bastard. I did the same thing. But I am older now and retired and maybe someone who is alot older would be good for you. not the sex but to spend qualityh time and learn a little more about men that, apparentlyh you dad didn't thjink to tell you. My daughter is 10 years older than you. she finallhy just cut of communitcation becaue i didn/t show enough inteestin her soirts, school, friends eet. I was doing my thing trying toget ahead,. Wont be her, but i would like to help someone like her. young men are trouble. the testosterone and enviroment to succeed and chase girls, any girls, is a hormonal thing. the really sutdious ones don;t have time. it is a delimma. wish only the very best but you a smart level headed girld. kieep up the good work. LOL Doc McHack call
2007-01-29 02:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not dumb. What you need to realize is that the only time age should matter is when you are in the danger zone. 16 to 20. At this point both sexes lie about their age. The law is very specific about this issue. If you are 17 years old I would make sure of the other person's age by asking the parents to verify the person's age. OTHER THAN THAT AGE IS JUST A NUMBER.
BUT you must also realize that a person's age has nothing to do with MATURITY. I know some 50 yr olds who still act like 2 yr olds.
2007-01-29 02:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not dumb.
Don't ever let anybody make you feel like a fool.
Good for you for not giving it up to him. Let him move on.
I wouldn't even be friends with this one. Sounds like a user.
I've had some of the best sex I've ever had with an older man, much older. 34 can still be immature, depends on the guy. Be careful out there, guys can be snakes and diseased ones at that.
I was 23 and he was 53. He took me VERY seriously and we had a great time. His wisdom and experience made him a great lover and partner. Just move on, look to what you find attractive and if it's not happening keep on going. God isn't going to have you marry the one you don't belong with.
2007-01-29 02:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by wow 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, yes, older men DO take younger women seriously depending on how big of a age difference there is. In your case, the age gap wasnt THAT big and the guy sounds little mature. Find someone that is willing to be an adult and not a horny teenager.
2007-01-29 02:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by jayfreeze18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikkity my friend,
there is nothing wrong with dating older men. I've always been attracted to older men too because they are more mature and they ain't boys! In fact, I'm engaged to be married to my fiance who is 8 years older than me. We get along well, so the age doesn';t really matter.
No honey, you're not a baby. Some men are just dumb and they treat sex as casual as a cup of coffee. They don't understand that for some women it just isn't like that! I think you're doing something very wise for your age by telling him that you're done with him. You deserve someone better, who understands you and who doesn't act like a loser as this man is clearly acting. He;s a 34 year old acting like a 4 year old.
Good luck and God bless you.
2007-01-29 02:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does it take for you to be serious with an older man? Men who are older may not have the same patience to hang out with you if they do not share the same interests you have, and may just want the nookie to form the basis of a relationship. It seems you need someone who's more interested in you as a person rather than sex object.
2007-01-29 02:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nikkity, who you date will depend on what messages you're sending out and what you are looking for. There doesn't seem to be a real age regulation about dating and romances, older women and younger men, older men and younger women, same age couples, whatever. Each case is individual. The only thing to remember is to honor yourself by the choices you make in your dating.
2007-01-29 02:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case, age may not have anything to do with it. As an older man he may just be looking for a little side action without the commitment.At least he told you up front. Some men will lead you on, get the best of you and then dump you and laugh.You have to at least respect his honesty with you. chalk it up to experience. You and he are not looking for the same thing.
2007-01-29 02:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋