I'm a tomboy somewhat...I do wear some guys' clothes and I like a good football/basketball game as much as the next person. But, I try my hardest, when I'm around guys that I want to like me, to act & look as girly as possible (i.e. wear make-up, do my hair up, dress sexy, etc.) and I get nowhere! Some of my guyfriends are like, "Don't be a girly girl! It's not working for you."
Well, what do I need to do to be a girly girl (without losing my tomboy ways) to impress a hot guy?
2007-01-28 17:56:11 · 3 answers · asked by Erynn. :-] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be yourself, it's the best advice in the world.
But sometimes that doesn't work, but don't change. Just add in a little flirtation. Smile at him, share some conversation, invite him to places. And impress him in your own way. With sports, or maybe watching sports and showing how much you know.
You don't need to be some prep with a short skirt to get a guy to like you. It's better to have a guy like you when you're comfortable, then having to wear short shorts and a belly ring.
2007-01-28 18:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy you like is a sports nut impress him with your knowledge of his favorite game. Let him see you can hang with the guys and be comfortable, but also be feminine. A guy listens to what his friends think so if they accept you, chances are you will do fine. Also, never over do the make-up thing. Lite make-up compliments a females features....instead of wearing dark, thick make-up and looking like a clown. Don't go for the girly girl clothes. Buy a cute pair of jeans and a stylish top. I guess in short what I am trying to say is be yourself...don't have him fall for someone you are not. Once you get in a relationship with someone and you don't have to "win" him over you don't want to be stuck acting like a girly girl all the time.
2007-01-28 18:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by christina s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . they're probably just used to seeing your tomboy side. I'll give you a hint that lots of women don't seem to understand. Men hate to compete with women.
Given the comments you get from your guyfriends, I think your problem(s) are possibly:
1) You don't know how to dress and behave in a feminine manner, so it looks fake and/or bad.
2) Your friends are used to seeing the tomboy side of you, so you look "wrong" when you dress like a woman.
3) Your body is not quite feminine enough. (It happens, but I really hope you aren't one of these unfortunate girls.) If you're a teenager, you might grow out of this if it's the case.
Personally, tomboys usually creep me out. Feminists creep me out more (most of them hate men openly or passively, in my experience), but a tomboy probably wouldn't have a good chance of getting my attention right off. In my experience, there are two types of tomboys -- the plain semi-masculine ones (who usually act boyish; this physical condition can be outgrown sometimes), and the ones that look normal and just act boyish. Without a few pictures of you, I can't tell which type you are. As long as you're not a manly woman, I don't think many guys would have a problem with you playing outdoor games once in a while or anything. But being really loud, aggressive, rude, excessively ambitious (only gold diggers like workaholics), etc., are big turn-offs.
Also, I'll let you in on another hint that most women don't seem to get -- or implement. Men like to be asked out sometimes, much more than we actually are. So if you start asking some of these guys out, you should have better luck. Try to avoid the mistakes that guys make when they attempt to get dates with girls -- typically not chit-chatting enough before asking, or not recognizing subtle rejection when they should. If the person you ask out doesn't come up with an answer in a reasonable amount of time, take it as a refusal and move on. Average guys have like a 10% success rate, so I wouldn't expect you to have much better luck if you're plain looking. But I'm sure you probably know many more single guys than single guys know single girls, so you might have better luck. Also, I don't know what you consider to be hot, or what you look like, but don't be surprised if you get disrespected at some point in asking these guys out if they're a lot more attractive than you are. Don't take it personally . . . . Good night!
2007-01-28 18:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with the guys, but dont act like one. You are still a lady, even if you like you wear guy's clothes. You can get guys just by acting like yourself, I think your friends are right, acting like a girly girl is not working for you. Probably the guys are confused that one day you are a tom-boy and the next you are a girly-girl. So just be your self and see where that takes you.
2007-01-28 18:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe wear just enough make-up to cover your flaws but no eye shadow or nothing. You could wear girly clothes in a color that suits you rather than pink maybe orange or red or green. And make sure you keep your way of conversation the same. Try not to fake an "oh my gosh" but let the real "dude that rocks" come out. Hope I could help!
2007-01-28 18:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already know who you are and want you want, i like the be yourself answer too, and "it" will come to you! i'd have given my left.......elbow to find a girl, or to have found me, who is as you describe yourself, take a lot of the pressure of just to accept each other for who you are, YOU GO (TOM) BOY!!!!
2007-01-28 18:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by jetatp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just be yourself, that way, you know they like you for who you are.
2007-01-28 18:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋