how to get over being shy?

Question

all my life im shy with people and eating with them .. i dont know why ? i dont know how to get over it ? i feel im missing out in alot of things socilay and meeting people for this reason

Answer 1

well i was shy as a kid up until 7th grade. i think i was shy because a was afraid of being rejected by others.i now know everyone is different. i also felt better about myself and in my body in 7th grade. i have more confidence than ever. i let people get then chance to know me then love me or hate me. i am even a little cocky at times. but don't look in the mirror too much like me.lol but get afriend to help you rehearse what you will say to people. getting tongue tied was also a problem of mine hope this helps.

Answer 2

- Join a weekly speech and drama class for fun
- Join an interest group or hobby club
- When you're in a group, just quietly observe the rest and you'll realise that most of the time they are not really focussing as much attention on you as you think they are! You'll also come to realise that nobody really cares if what you say is extremely smart or witty or accurate - unless of course, you are giving a speech or in the company of actors, comedians, writers, intellects or big society names! And even if you were in such company, just be true to yourself and let yourself take time to warm up; and if you do finally gather enough courage to break the ice, then that's great; but if not, no worries, don't beat yourself up over that. You'll gradually do better next time and the next time and the next time... Just aim for baby steps ( ie set yourself a small goal - eg at today's gathering, i will try to smile at 2 strangers seated next to me; at the next one, i will try to smile at 2 people and take the initiative to introduce myself; at the next one, i will smile, introduce myself and maybe share 2 sentences with them about my interest/ work/ what's happening around us etc... ) .

Just remember that sometimes we succeed and sometimes we fail. Doesn't really matter. Go with the flow..... No need to put so much pressure and such high expectations on yourself...

Someone once said, we are our own own worst enemy. And that the only way you can feel inferior to someone else is if you allow yourself to feel that way.......

All the very best!

Answer 3

baby sit....sounds a little, maybe not my thing kind of idea,...but take a little sibling out for lunch or if you don't have any young relatives, sign up for a big brother activity thing and see if there are any children with the same shyness and you can both get through it... maybe if you don't have that....volunteer for a grade school/preschool helper...depending on your age that is, even if you are young volunteer to tutor younger students....start with younger ages and move up to your own peers.....sounds crazy but it might work...

Answer 4

I'm shy and I accept it, because there are a lot of hurtful people out there

Answer 5

Same with me. Just think this: you're not going to be able to please everyone and not everyone is going to like you, and it's the same with everyone. Maybe this will help you be more confident. I forgot what this idea is called, but it kind of works sometimes to boost my confidence.

Answer 6

just think that other people are not thinkin of you and you can juz be yourself ^_^