It has been a month now since we broke up. She was with another guy 1 day after we decided to break apart. But I went back to her asking her to come home. She said no and now I am hurting so much. I knew her to 3 years and dated 1.5 years. My love I feel for her is so strong but it seems she has moved on. The pain is terrible.
2007-01-28 17:25:55 · 19 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looks like she had already emotionally abandoned your relationship with her before the breakup...it will not be easy to get over, but time...good friends, and a healthy hobby will help you get grounded, whatever happens dont 'rebound' into something you really arent into with your heart...good luck
2007-01-28 17:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by doingitright44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she got over it quickly but it sounds like it was already over well before
she broke up with you. There were probably
signs but maybe you ignored them because
you didn't want to accept that there were
problems. It's just to weird that all of a sudden
out of nowhere, she ups and leaves and has a
new bf the next day.
It takes time to heal from being left. You will heal if you let yourself. Getting a new girlfriend is not the solution for you right now. Save that for after you have figured out what actually happened in this relationship. Maybe you were both too young to be so serious or maybe she felt too tied down - could be a lot of things. It will become more clear to you eventually. Ultimately, you will move on and love again. Let yourself feel the hurt and know that it was worth it and it will be worth it to try love again in the future.
2007-01-28 17:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by danamarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's been dating another guy since a day that you 2 broke up, there is a posibility that she was cheating before you broke up. However, there is also a possibility that the guy that she's been dating is just a rebound. You won't know for sure why she move on so fast. but instead of thinking about that, why don't you focus on yourself and find another girl for you. Maybe that girl is not the right one for you. Right now maybe the hardest time for you.. but after some time you're gonna feel better..But if you are not ready to find the new one don't rush.. not having a girl friend does not neceserily mean that you don't move on.. I've have similar experience to you..first i was extremely stressed but it disappered after a couple of months... time will heal
2007-01-28 17:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by AY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is that you must not judge her. The only
way to feel OK again, is to let love in your heart by forgiving her. A lot of girls do move on having another boyfriend right after you and you
are not alone in that agony. There are also reversed cases. Anyway, the best thing you could probably do is to meet someone new. She'll help you to forget your ex ;)
2007-01-28 22:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Marko C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously didnt allow herself time to properly grieve or get over the previous relationship...instead she substitutes one for the other. I have a good friend who does this....she has yet to really have a meaningful relationship, because she wont go a day without one, and will break up with a guy and only to go into the next guy that comes alongs arms. Her self esteem is low and has no independence. This could be the case with your ex, or maybe she was cheating on you with this guy she calls her bf now
2007-01-28 17:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up? Maybe she doesn't feel the same way about you. Maybe it was best that you two broke up. I mean, she was with another guy a day after you broke up?! That just means either she's trying to make you jealous or she was over you before you two broke up. The best thing to do is to forgive and forget. Move along.
2007-01-28 17:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mechiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude i've had a stedy relationship for 7 years n now broke up, i've seen the girl going around wid sum1 else.
We guys become emotional fools, find another girl n u wont feel the pain...
Be resilient
2007-01-28 17:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is a girl!!!! act like you dont care as best as you can and go to the strip club or go play pool or something. go have fun and meet some new girls. no girl is 10 or pretty enough to be stressing over. theres a new batch turning 18 every day so just find another and always upgrade as much as possible.
2007-01-28 17:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by bakagaijinmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she hasn't really moved on.
Different people deal with pain in different ways.. for some it's ... "best way to get over the ex is to move to the next" and for some, they prefer a "mourning period" before embarking on a new relationship. Maybe y'all had a bad breakup and she's just trying to get back at you and make you feel jealous.
Then again.... maybe she just wasn't as deep in it as you were.. :shrug:
2007-01-28 17:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by THE M.D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't put yourself through more pain by kidding yourself into believing that this relationship can be resurrected. Stop dwelling on the past and concentrate on the future.
2007-01-28 17:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋