U want to be friends with her. U care for her. But she loves u, and wants more. How would u ideally want her to tackle ths? See other guys? Not call you and give u space? Or stay in touch with u and Try to be just friends with you. What's ur ideal choice guys, if u could choose. How would u want her to handle this situation with u.
2007-01-28 17:18:37 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you are having the same situation as I am except change the genders.
Actually there was one girl like that. She was a freshman while I was senoir, she was also one of my girlfriends friends (my girlfriend was senoir too). She constantly flirted with me and such, but knew that I wouldnt cheat on my girlfriend nor liked the freshman like that (I wouldnt cheat on my girlfriend, cause I loved her, but I also loved another girl hence the first sentence. But the girlfriend and I are now engaged to be married.)
I would tease her and flirt with her, but I always made sure that she knew that she couldnt have me.
So my best suggestion is, let this guy know that you like him, but if he is not into you like that you would still want to be his friend. Cause most people would value friendship rather than going with, should I abandon this person or choose to force myself to like them type deal. You must also submit to this fact and you can try to get him to be a closer friend, and eventually he might begin to like you the way you want him to. But dont get your hopes up and be on the lookout for someone who will respect you and return your love.
2007-01-28 17:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by rezruf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if I see ever ever becoming more than just friends.
a) If I know within myself that I want to be with her in the near future but i want to make the most out of the relationship first then i'd tell her that i can relate to her feelings but i'm just not there yet but i know that's where i want to be. - In this case I'd want for her to bear with my and allow me to reach that level in my own time... If she really loves me then she wouldn't feel the need to force my feelings.
b) If I know I really only want her as a friend and I'm not looking for anything else then I wouldn't string her along I'd tell her straight up, I mean, we're already good friends so I'd assume we've had a few serious conversations before. It wouldn't be fair to her if I knew how she felt and took advantage of it. It would ultimately be her choice whether or not she thinks she can still handle our just friends status... There will be a few awkward moments... especially if at some point I actually hook up with somebody else... hopefully our friendship was on a solid enough foundation to begin with.
sorry for the super-long answer
2007-01-29 01:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by THE M.D. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she let you know how she feels? Most of the time we don't even speak our hearts to people we care about, especially ppl we love. First and foremost she is my friend meaning we are absolutely honest with each other. I know where i stand she knows where she stands. if the feeling isn't mutual she should know. But then again all i could really be looking for is some space. And then again i could feel the same way but am afraid to loose our friendship. All it comes down to is let him open up as long as he knows how you feel he'll come around.
2007-01-29 01:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by nocirpac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want her to be my friend. As long as she was careful about it and did it for the right reasons, I would have no problem with her dating other guys and enjoying herself. I wouldn't (necessarily) want her to assume that there was no chance, but I'd just want to stay friends. If we have a good thing going, and I'm not ready for anything else, why mess with it? No reason we can't stay friends, I should think.
2007-01-29 01:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn this hurts, I would want her to respect my feelings. Grant it I know she wants me and I like her but she is my friend and I don't want to hurt her either. This almost sounds like the one I should have grabbed when I had the chance but I was to stupid to see how special she was because I was either looking at big breasts or all the other crap us blind bastards look at. This is where most of us screw up! Because by the time we figure it out you are tired of waiting on our dumb @ss and have found someone else, and we sit there crying about what we could have had. I hate when that happens!
2007-01-29 01:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i must like her if I am friends with her and if she is a sweetie i would tell her to give me a little time and lets see where it go i would tell her not to give up on me just yet. But that's me I am not like other guys
2007-01-30 00:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To try to just be friends... Girls are so easy to read.. I don't know how else to put it.. But if that girl is having a off day like upset & stuff I think she shouldnt hang out with him that day because most guys can tell when a girl is upset... well I can anyways
2007-01-29 01:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
2 is better than one.....
2007-01-29 01:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋