I'm in love with my bestfriend (she's a girl) (I'm a guy) what should I do?

Question

ok I'm in love with this girl named Brittany but she is my best friend and also has a bf. I love her more than anything in this world but she is in love with her bf... there is also an age difference she's 13 and I'm 17. We tell each other everything I've even told her I love her and written songs but she always says that's sweet or yeah right. I want to show her that she means everything in this world to me. I really need some ideas on how to win her heart from her current bf. This feeling is not new I have loved her for 2 years, 17 days, 6 hours, 15 minutes and 13 seconds. Please help any ideas or advice would be great.

and yes I have shown her through actions as well. I stand up for her whenever someone talks about her. I am alwasy there and always talked to her even if she called at 2-4 in the morning. I did everythign and anythign just to be near her. Age difference doesn't bother her she once dated someone that was 21.

Answer 1

I'm a girl, my bestfriend is a guy. Kat told me he was in love with me since we were 14. We're 24 now. We share the same birthday. I have a boyfriend - Fred, that i have been with for 5 years. Now tell me what should i do? Actually, things between me and Kat not really good, caz i trusted him and had faith in him, to me he wasn't like other guys, he took care of me, he did what was best for me and blah, blah, blah. When he told me he's been in love with me since we were 14, everything juz reeled back into my head, everything that we did together. All that was done not because he saw me as a friend but as a potential girlfriend. We fell out soon after that, but we still talk to each other now. Don't let me scare you, in the end you have to make the decision if you want to sit and talk with her about your feelings. Get her to understand, but i think she's a bit young. But then again who am i do say anything. Just don't get yourselves into trouble. Good Luck.. and if things don't go the way you planned, hope you guys remain as friends. Who knows maybe you'll get closer to each other.

Answer 2

First I want to say she is 13 your 17 and that alone is almost danger in itself not because you love her but because of the age, when you turn 18 and she is 14, you can serve 1o yrs in jail, even IF the parents are ok with it. ever hear 5 will get you 10 that is where it comes from. But I can see you love her maybe to much and you need to wait for anything if you have known her this long that means you will know her longer, doesn't mean you have to give up on her, it just means wait be patient she will catch up, be true to yourself and everything will come in TIME.

Answer 3

wow, she dated a 21 year old when she 13... Dude I hope you really love her because she sounds like she is the type of girl that has already opened her legs (mind you she just may be more open minded, but alittle dimmer than most girls, but she can still be a virgin. I have no way of knowing.) I sorta understand, cause I have a similar scenario.

Anyways, try to get some alone time with her and ask her to listen to you for once and to take it under serious thought. Also let her have time to make her decision. Let her know that you would like to be the one to care for her if she ever breaks up with her boyfriend.

Also find out if her boyfriend knows as much about her as you do. Sounds like she puts alot of trust in you as a friend.

Answer 4

If you've loved this girl for two years, she was 11 years old when
it started! I don't mean to downplay your feelings for this girl,
but at 13, she's way too young to be making any romantic decisions or reactions that you are expecting. She's got her
whole teenage life ahead of her and its not fair to take that from
her. Neither is it fair to youself. There are plenty more fish in the sea with whom you would be better off. On the other hand, if
its meant for you two to get together, it will happen...but at the
right time....and now is not the right time.

Answer 5

dude....... i`m sorry to say it but you are firmly rooted in the "friend zone". There isn't much you can do about this either. My advice is to get her to set you up with a nice girl, she would know your type, and she would want to see you happy. I know you will probably just ignore this advice (i would have at your age and your state of mind) but try to understand that , from what you've written, she sounds happy with her current bf and will only resent you if you try and ruin it for her.

Answer 6

Maybe she thinks you just kidding with her because she is only 13. I'd just continue to be her friend, girls at that age usually don't know what they want yet, or the real meaning of love. Just let thing form naturally, then when she needs you, after she breaks up with her boyfriend, you can tell her.

Answer 7

It sounds mean, but the age difference between 13 and 17 is huge, and I dont think that girl can ever go out with somebody that is so much older than her.

Answer 8

let me first start out by saying that you sound absolutely adorable.lol. it does depend on how long she has been with her bf. but honestly i would say kiss her and see what happens. you need to break out the big guns if you've already done all that other stuff. and not a peck on the cheek i mean a long meaningful kiss and then take it from there...good luck sweet heart
ps if that doesnt work you could always show her this question i think that might just make her melt <3

Answer 9

You need to get out and met some women YOUR age! Dude there are WAAAAY more women out there than men so there's plenty to go around. Also she has a BF! How would you feel if some dude tried to take your girl from you? HuH? Sit down and think about this!!

Answer 10

I believe it can happen i think Girl and Guy friendships(especially BESTfriends) can lead into the perfect relationship im happy for you all!