We broke up, he likes another girl , he's almost sure she doesn't like him. I've changed too much and I want to become the girl I was, so that he'll fall in love with me again. It's possible, I know it is, he even says it is. But he has problems, like within himself. How can I recreate the feeling he had for me to where we have that again? To push the fear he has back. He says he knows we can be together and be better, be wonderful again. He misses it. I just don't know how to make him act upon it. Please help, I really love him and this ISNT just some puppy love, nor is it one of those lusts/loves that you're able to just get over. Thank you guys in advance.
2007-01-28 17:04:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have some issues here, first of all he has someone else
and that the main one regardless of what he saying to you
and if that the case then you need to leave it along, because
you can make your self something that you are not, both of
you have changed. and now that you have it may not be the
same as it was before even if you got back together, sometime
it just a realtionship tha grow part and time to let go of the
past and move on to the present and the future.
2007-01-28 17:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 word....Time
You need to give it time. trust me i know it sucks to hear that, but you dont want to pressure him and push him away further.
You said ............I've changed too much and I want to become the girl I was, so that he'll fall in love with me again. It's possible, I know it is, he even says it is."
then u said "But he has problems, like within himself. How can I recreate the feeling he had for me to where we have that again? To push the fear he has back. He says he knows we can be together and be better, be wonderful again. He misses it. I just don't know how to make him act upon it. "
ya answered ur own question. u changed, maybe he doesnt like the girl u turned into?? u need to take time out, figure out what it is ur doing that he doesnt like, and go from there
good luck
2007-01-28 17:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. If he doesn't like you the way you are now , then chances are, he won't like you at some other point either. Change happens as you get older, you learn more, experience more and it molds you into a stronger person. I am pretty sure he has changed , too and you love him so much that you want to grow with him. The problem? He doesn't want to grow with you. You are worth more than that. You deserve someone who will love you for you and forever. Do you really want someone that has feelings for someone else. Sure, it will hurt, but what if you are missing out on something better by clinging to the past?
2007-01-28 17:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you then he wants you for who you are why do people think they have to change for someone. The reason it is not the same is because you know each other better now than when you first started dating. Maybe invite him over and make it very romantic for the two of you. Sounds like he is out doing what he wants to do so don't go through to much trouble!
2007-01-28 17:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're there. Keep it light. Ask him if he'd like to browse a museum, if he likes that, just so you two can stroll together and not have to talk too much, esp. about anything heavy. In other words, start slow. Maybe let him make the first move, again, if he's that kind of guy. You know what i mean. (kiss, hold hands)
2007-01-28 17:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by theedman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice? don't change for ANY man. be yourself. if he can't love you for who you are now, provided you like yourself now, then you don't need him. i understand you love him, but if it's one-sided, then you'll never be happy.
2007-01-28 17:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋