In the years i spent growing up and racing towards that finish line that said i was a man, it never realized that it wasnt a finish line, but the real starting line and now that i am here i feel totaly inadaquet to the job... worse still i am bringging this amazing woman in to the race with me and i feel like i am setting her up for failure to. i have never felt so traped in my life, but i am 23 yrs old this is the time i am supposed to be spreading my wings and learnning to fly free right?? Or is this how i am supposed to feel, i really dont know anymore...
2007-01-28 17:02:42 · 10 answers · asked by Smurfy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
deer in the headlight look, is it? Yea, been there and done that.
Yup, how in the world is all this suppose too work, her and I, and in the future kids????? bills, power, gas, food.. etc..etc..etc..
I clipped an article from the newspaper, it was about a couple who had been together for like 65-70 years or something, he was 17 and she was 14 when they got married, he was a dishwasher, she was a waitress and their first rental/place they shoved newspapers in the walls for insulation and their baby slept between them during the winter...as this was in Idaho and that is cold, cold country. Any way, here they were 65-70 years later, raised their kids, lived a life and coming too the end.
You can take what you want from the story, but I felt that if anything they had faith, love and simply, lived. It may not have been perfect but they did it, together.
Your perspective has change from that of a boyish immaturity to that of a man and with that it means you have to take a stand in faith, doesn't mean it will be easy nor succesfull but to not try could be the worst mistake in your life.... but it is your decision.
and... one last thing, even if you were the most educated, had more money then you ever would need... it still would not prepair you for being a husband and father.
Get back with us in 60 years and let us know what you decided.
2007-01-28 17:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wrote a reply to a different person
put up personals ads offering to fund using a sperm donor to have kids. point out that as much as 4/5 of personality is genetic n that a woman could have really happy children if she chose a happy donor. Then as cosmo says start "hooking up" between the sheets, or just groove on the shy persons company then order sperm online
you could be an applied eugenics conversationalist as a method of going on outrageous dates where the result is happier people.
If Smurfy thinks on this, perhaps there is an option bring the woman success with ordering online sperm if children are thought of. The reply to Smurfy is: if Smurfy life sucked "hard/complicate/trapped" then make the idea of life, that is being a living human better using effective direct methods. Create happy children.
2007-01-28 17:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by treonbarleyverdery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I think it's different for everyone and it changes all the time. You may simplify your life or make it more complicated at any point in your life. So I would say that the feeling of life being harder and more complicated comes and goes through out our lives and that we have the option of finding solutions to our problems and taking action in our lives to make things better. To have a simpler and easier life. Good luck.
2016-03-29 07:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHMYGOD!!! You are a baby!! Slow down cowboy, take it one day at a time!!! You have your entire life ahead of you. How are you setting your woman up for failure? What do you think you are failing at? You haven't even begun the race!! Where are you in your education? career? At 23, you are only beginning. Don't be to hard on yourself. My daughter is 23 and is still trying to figure out who she is. She wants to be a rap artist and has illusions of grandeur. My son, is 25 lives at home with us and has a wonderful girlfriend (or two or three). Now if you were 35 and freaking out, I would understand it.
2007-01-28 17:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We learn by our mistakes. That's the hard part.If you are unsure of your feelings, don't commit to anything. Wait it out. Take one day at a time and try to focus on today instead of the future. Let go of some responsibilities and relax more.It sounds like you are engaged to be married or just found out you are going to be a parent.Just remember we all make decisions that aren't always right but everything usually works out in the end.Good Luck.
2007-01-28 17:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes growing up stinks, especially if you don't have any good role models to mimic in the process. Don't ever give up.
2007-01-28 17:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just experince. thats what life is, not a goal or somthing to finish. you have to expeince as many people, things, places...ect. find something you passionate about. know that failing is not an option.
2007-01-28 17:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by T-RoZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress, Honey. You are very young. Wait till your fifties before you start wondering what it is all for.
2007-01-28 17:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make it...When you reach the finish line, Life is over....You die.
2007-01-28 17:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u scared n its ok to be...jus relax n enjoy
2007-01-28 17:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by GiiGii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋