scenes and pictures in my mind. It has been almost 7 years, I am wondering will it ever stop. The man who did it got off on a rights violation technicality. I went to therapy, yet these memories are still disturbing off and on.
Anyone with experience or advice/ suggestions to offer?
2007-01-28 16:58:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry for your lose and for your pain. I lose my son to suicide in July 2005. The only thing that helps me live in this world without him is knowing that there are other parents who know what it is to lose a child. Here is a link to a wonderful website.
http://childlossgrief.proboards92.com/index.cgi
This board has a chat room and message boards. There are mothers who have also lost there children to murder in this group. It may help you to talk to others who know what you're feeling.
2007-01-28 19:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa t 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i had a grandson murdered at the age of 2 months old, and i was out of town and his mother was working. i still think of that, and what the boys must of gone through, and what they were thinking at the time someone was killing the youngest one. You really do not get over it , and they did not get the right guy in our case, i had a son that died too, so you see, i can feel what you are going through here, it has been a long time for these events too, and i still see them, i think you will always see them, but at least you know they are safe now, and in the care of the lord. Sometimes that just is not enough, but we can not turn time back and stop what has already happen, so we need to learn to say our good byes, which is a name of of book too, that is really helpiful. I am not going to say that you will not see it any more, cause almost everyone i know that has lost a child, or someone they loved been murdered, they have not forgot, or lost the images they see in thier minds daily, you just need to remember them as they were when they were alive, and remember they did live, and they have the right to be remember each year since their death.
2007-01-28 17:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of pain never disappears it just becomes less intense. If you think about the perpetrator you only prolong your pain. Forget that person they are not worth your time. Keep busy with other things and other family if you have family. Get involved in a church that gives you pleasure and companionship. Remember the purpose of churches it to help their members live a happier healthier life. If your church doesn't know that find another and keep looking until you find a loving environment. Remember 1John 4:8
2007-01-28 17:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Bullfrog21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance commited suicide October 2002. I was the one who found him and did cpr until there was no way of reviving him. I thought I would never get over it. It came in to my work and affected how I worked. Finally I went to a grief and loss group and it turned my life back around. I cannot understand what you are going through I can just suggest what worked for me. Because eventually the pictures in my mind and the anger changed in to something else, something good. I learned that I had to let go of all the anger in order for me to get past it. By holding on to it I have it power over me.
2007-01-28 17:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Check on Ebay for a book called, "Hind's Feet in High Places!" Also a book called "Good Grief." These were awesome to read.
Remember, that this murderer will never get off Scott Free. It will follow him and torment him until his dying day if he does not seek your forgiveness. My Prayers go up for you.
2007-01-29 01:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so so sorry to hear this devastating news. i wish wish you the best if you need someone to talk to i am here for you. just know that god is still there for you.
my name is jean
2007-01-28 17:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by sssexygenie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, only www.dianetics.org can help with the pictures.
2007-02-01 15:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by robthomasjr2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋