is it wrong to feel weird when your parents say 'i love you'?

Question

my parents get me so mad sometimes. its unbelieveable. it gets to the point where i wouldnt give a **** if they just dropped dead.
then there are those rare times when they say 'i love you'. sometimes i cant even say it back. i mean it doesnt happen a lot. that they say they love me i mean. but when it does happen i just feel weird.
especially when my step-dad says it. he cares for me way more than a regular step dad does. and ive really hurt his feelings in the past. still he loves me.

any advice would be appreciated. really.

Answer 1

it feels weird because it has not been a normal thing for your family to do. to express feelings. have you tried saying it back just once? going out of your comfort zone is hard but doing so will allow you to get comfortable with it. good question though. this is so normal in many families. my husband's family is the same way. here they don't feel comfortable saying I love you. Yet my family always end our phone conversations with i love you.

Answer 2

Most teenagers go through an unattachment phase with their parents as they get older sometimes you may even feel dislike or hate for them, it's like most in the animal kingdom... you crave responsibility and independance. When emotion is shared with your parents you subconsciously feel as though you're being kept a child. When parents say I love you it only really comforts you as a child and when you get oloder and appreciate them alot more.
I wouldn't read too much into step-father loving you unless he gives you reason to believe that he loves you romantically. Regardless of you sharing the same blood or not, a step father can love you the same as, if not more than, a biological father.
Just know that this phase will pass eventually and in the time being be grateful that you don't have parents that say you were a mistake and they don't want you etc. like some people out there do.

Answer 3

You should be glad that you have parents that love you. Especially a step parent. All kids are not so lucky.
But you sound like a spoiled brat. What a hateful thing to say "wouldnt give a **** if they just dropped dead"
My mother died 3 years ago and I wish everyday that I could just see her 1 more time or talk to her 1 more time.

Answer 4

Many people have a difficult time with those three little words. My ex was saying it to me all the time, to the point where I didn't really believe him anymore, so when your parents do tell you this, it sounds very sincere. Parents will always get there kids mad, but please don't say you could care less if they dropped dead. You only have your parents and if they weren't here anymore, just think about it, where would you be? You have to have as much patience with them as they have to have with you. We all grow and learn together. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

,'Honey, I think time will change things - you must be young - you'll be okay - you are going through growing pains... your parents know best (most times) and you just don't know it yet... you will and how very wonderful to have a step dad that loves you that much... step dad? If he loves you that much - I'd just call him daddy... you are very lucky (blessed) to be loved that much... stay cool - life is not that hard and when you get that mad at them - they must be right - we always get mad when we are found being "wrong" - us humans hate to be wrong

you'll be okay - next time they get on your case - step back - and look at the whole picture - are they right? humm maybe - do they love you? Yup! Always if they say it or not - My dad never once told me he loved me... but I knew he did because he cared what I did - when they stop caring - that's when you can start crying....

take care

take time - a slow answer turns away warth....

Good night dear. Enjoy life

Answer 6

u no of course your gonna feel weird about it cos they say it rarely but consider your self lucky and loved cos some parents dont even dare to say it.

Answer 7

the only advise i gotta say is watch what you say. becasue on a serious note! i told my mother i hated her and the next thing i know is i'm a her memorial servises. anything can happen in this world of ours! stright up

Answer 8

All I can say is appreciate & love your parents while you can because one day they'll be gone & then it's too late. Wish I still had my parents to tell me they love me!!!

Answer 9

maybe you're just not used to hearing them say it...you said they don't do it that often.

you should learn to get past the feeling you have when they say it and realize that they're not saying it for nothing-they probably do really mean it!

Answer 10

for me its not specially when that is not your real father. you reaaly think of that because you are not used to it that another p[erson joined in your family would say like that. and because your not used or funed of responding it thats why you reacted like that. for me, in order that your parents will not get mad at you just try to adopt it. because there is no harm when you respond to them also.