2007-01-28 16:32:40 · 25 answers · asked by sammy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yeah. Just say, "Thanks for attending, it meant a lot to me." This will make them feel a little guilty for having not given you anything, though you still wrote them a thank you.
2007-01-28 16:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yes, you absolutely should. Don't believe anyone on here who is telling you it's "optional" or etiquette doesn't require it. You must send a thank you card to everyone who came to your wedding. You simply say "Thank you for sharing in this special and joyous day with us," or something along those lines.
As someone else mentioned, this is actually really important, because they might have sent you a gift and it became lost, or perhaps in all the excitement of the reception, they simply forgot to leave the card. When they see that you didn't mention a gift in the thank you card, this will let them know you didn't receive it and allow them to follow up if necessary. Additionally, guests have up to 1 year following a wedding to send a gift. Perhaps they are planning on sending you a gift at a later date.
2007-01-29 18:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Technically speaking, no, you're not required to do so.
However, if you had a small wedding reception and would like to at acknowledge their presence, then by all means do so - it's not inappropriate in any way.
It is NEVER, EVER improper to send a written thank you for acknowledging someone's kindness whether there's a gift involved or not - a simple "thank you so much for celebrating with us on our special day! It was so great to see you. We hope you enjoyed yourself and hope to see you again soon!!" is more than appropriate - but in the instance where no gift was given, it's certainly not required.
2007-01-29 11:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By asking this question you show that you are in doubt as to how to feel about it. You are not even thankful that they came. Bringing up the gift or card aspect of it shows that only if they do bring these will make you feel thankful. You should feel thankful and send them a note because they made time to attend, they took the trouble to dress up, they took the trouble to get transportation to attend (those who don't have cars of their own have this problem), and they are magnanimous enough to feel happy for your happy occasion to be there for you. Given the choice, some people would rather stay at home and have a relaxing time than go through all that trouble for someone they don't even know appreciate their presence. In fact the greatest gift they can give to you is their presence. Imagine 50% of your guest don't show up but sent you a gift instead. Only then will you feel how unpopular and unloved you are. So, yes, send them a thank you note thanking them for giving up their precious time to be with you on you happy occasion.
2007-01-29 02:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No need to send a thank you card to a person who comes to your wedding and doesn't bring a gift.
P.S. Great balls of fire, some people went off the deep end with your question. It was a simple one and the etiquette books would say the same thing! It doesn't mean you don't thank them for being at your wedding...it means there is no need to send a formal thank you card. Sheesh, people!
2007-01-29 01:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT send a t.u. card to that party.
You spent a whole lot of money on your wedding and thinking of them and they couldn't get you a gift? Come on. Invitations are costly, the food, the bar, the dance, and the planner and reception, and these cheap inhumane people couldn't give a gift. That is a slap in the face.
Seriously, I would NOT attend a wedding if I couldn't afford to give a gift or be cheap like they did, unless if they were homeless or something.
2007-01-30 16:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think the invitations ask that you come to witness the union of love between the people. It (at one time) did not say come to bring gifts. It may now though, people are having house warming parties with a registry. I would certainly send a thank you note.
2007-01-29 01:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by bajllc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough call. It's hard to imagine that someone would not be able to at least send a card, but perhaps they weren't able to afford a gift but wanted to share the occasion with you. It's up to you whether you think a thank you card would underline the fact that they gave you nothing, or whether it would truly express the fact that you were glad they came, regardless of whether they gave a gift or not.
2007-01-29 01:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - what would you be thanking them for? If they came with someone else and that person brought the gift, then you thank the person that you invited that brought the gift. If I went with another guest and that guest brought the gift, I'd wonder why I would get a thank you just for showing up at the wedding reception. I never have heard of that.
2007-01-29 00:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Consider the reason behind your asking the person to attend your wedding reception. Was it because you genuinely wanted the person to attend because you like the person, or was your agenda to receive a gift? If that person was important enough to you for you to invite, then their presence should have been enough for you. If that person was invited just to fill a space, then you should not expect anything other than their presence. Since you took the time out to invite them, they took the time out to attend, then you need to close the event by acknowledging their presence...whether it meant anything to you or not.
2007-01-29 13:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by nicsmom1999 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Tanks are reserved for those who gifted you in some way. Even sending a thank you for a card is debatable. But if you want to send it for those, do so. But definitely for gifts of any sort.
2007-01-29 01:39:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋