Here are some strange things I've noticed about my bf after a year of being together...
1. He always carries a bag with him that has extra clothes, underwear, hair gel, deoderant, toothbrush, etc. in it.
2. I sometimes find phone numbers in his room with an unknown woman's name on it.
3. He never lets me get on his computer.
He swears he is devoted and got me a committment ring for Christmas. However, I keep getting these gut feelings. I don't like to nag but I'm curious about several things and am afraid to ask and sound paranoid. Help!
2007-01-28 16:25:54 · 9 answers · asked by paddington_ck 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've read all of your postings from yesterday, and saw some of your earlier ones form a few months ago.
Either this is all an act or you have a serious boyfriend problem.
I'll be blunt: DUMP HIM.
Either he's a player, or he thinks he can snow you, or he's stringing a bunch of women along.
In any of these cases, DUMP HIM.
2007-01-29 23:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he only get you a committment ring... that's just a cop out to keep you quiet and happy. An ENGAGEMENT ring is a true sign of committment.
I would recomend this:
#1- STOP HAVING SEX WITH THIS MAN. Better safe than sorry. and usually withholding sex from a bf is a good way of getting to the truth.
#2- Ask questions if you must. I personally don't think you really need to. From your question it's pretty obvious that you already know what's going on. I would just dump him and block his phone calls. Don't waste anymore of your time with this chump.
You need to be a woman. You need to protect not only your body but your heart too.
Did you know that in the Bible age Jewish men who were betrothed to a woman had to wait one year before they could have sex with her? The reason this was so important is because a betrothal was like a marriage in every way exept the couple doesn't consumate their marriage. So the "husband" had ALL the RESPONSIBILITIES of a husband without getting the pleasures of being a husband i.e. sex. That is what a real MAN does- he waits for his WOMAN.
And that "commitment" ring truly makes me sick to my stomach. Don't let him mock you. This guy is a looser- wake up- it shouldn't have taken you a year to figure this out.
2007-01-29 03:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheater alert!! The first thing, him carrying a bag around, was the clincher for me - I hadn't even read any of the other reasons!
What kind of guy would carry around extra clothes etc if he didn't have something to hide?
And I'm sorry to say but, in my opinion, committment rings are just a fob off......
2007-01-28 17:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you please first answer me this:
Are you having doubt?
Sometimes signs we see or feel makes our instincts kick in...
You are experiencing the feeling of 'doubt' right now and it is starting to take the better of you.
When doubt occurs, therefore there exits questions...
If one was to keep the questions within their heart and try to resolve the question where the answer lies in another persons heart... then that question will never be resolved.
To remove 'doubt', we must introduce 'communication', this will allow questions to be asked and answers to be revealed...
To apply 'communication' you need to hearts.
Life is a hard and long road my friend, we don't live long enough to know everything, therefore we don't live long enough to solve everything... so if you don't know, always ask.
2007-01-28 16:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's smoke, there's fire. If you sense some things are not quite right you have every right to ask him about it.An open honest relationship is what a commitment is based on.Talk to him and ask straight out why he is secretive. Maybe he just likes his privacy but it would be better to know now and easier to move on if he is doing something you don't approve of.
2007-01-28 16:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uum yea, thats 2 weird. something is going on. find out before it goes on any longer
2007-01-28 16:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by mo j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy.. sit him down.. and tell him how you feel and why you feel the way you do.. don't ever assume.. it wont help.. ASK don't be afraid..
2007-01-28 16:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that colour blind?
2007-01-28 16:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Trixstix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to yourself or you will be sorry.
2007-01-28 16:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋