My fiance and I have been talking about marriage for a while now.
And he did ask me to marry him..but he didn't give me a ring.
We did however get matching wedding bands a while ago. But it isn't like an engagement ring!
He did take me about 6 months ago to pick out a ring that I liked..but he never bought it.
I feel bad asking him if he's going to get it.
Does this mean that he's changed his mind on getting me a ring?
How do I bring it up?
2007-01-28 16:20:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
And just to say.. he isn't getting cold feet or anything because we've began planning the wedding.
So I do know that this is what he wants!
2007-01-28 16:30:09 · update #1
Just ask him. Really, why do you even need a ring? Does he buy your love with shiny trinkets? Or can you cheapen your love with a shiny trinket of symbolic cliche?
2007-01-28 16:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
First of all I wouldn't bring up the ring situation at all, Even though this is on your mind . Just try not to show it, suprise him with a ring of your own that you may go buy as a gift for him. Then see what he says about that. I think he still plans on getting you the ring but maybe he's waiting for the right time. When you give him the ring and he doesn't say much then tell him how you truly feels.
2007-01-29 00:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by rodnic12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. To me having a awesome engagement ring is the best part about being engaged. But maybe the ring you picked out was to much money. If so usually in February and March Jewelry stores have great sales. Good luck.
2007-01-29 01:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
guess what? we have the same kind of issue here. my boyfriend and i have been planning since 2006 and we already have the date (october 2007). we even went window shopping for engagement ring but he never proposed to me yet. he gave me a promise ring on our 1st year anniversary but i dont consider that as an engagement ring bcoz its not. anyways, i've never asked him if he's going to buy me the ring or not. i know he will. here's what you can try to do (not sure if it'll work for you). tell him that you've changed your mind and you've picked another design or style of your engagement ring (even if you didnt change your mind). then he'll probably take you shopping again - this will just remind him that you're still waiting for the engagement ring. my friend did this and it worked. after a couple of days, she got the ring. i know its kinda awkward asking your man if he will buy you a ring. but goodluck!
2007-01-29 10:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you buy him one?? That would kind of be the ultimate hint - there are lots of men's rings out there now that would work as "right hand" rings. I bought my husband an engagement ring (granted, it was after we were married) when I lost mine and I decided that if I was going to wear something to symbolize our relationship, then he should, too. It's been 7 years now, and he still wears them both - our wedding band and his right hand ring. :)
2007-01-29 00:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Julia L. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps there are more important things that need to be paid for you know food clothing a roof over your head, If you have to have a ring so bad buy one that fits in his budget, Your wedding ring is the important one the engagement is just used as a keeper after you are married
2007-01-29 00:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the money is put to better use for couples just starting out. You can always get an engagement ring later when you don't have to go into useless debt to do it.
2007-01-29 00:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just cannot afford an engagement ring. A lot of women do not get engagement rings. Is it really that important to you?
2007-01-29 04:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't bring it up, he will have his feelings hurt. Maybe you are just not getting an engagement ring. Maybe you chose one that was too expensive, or it was not appropriate for him to buy. That's why it's good to leave it up to the guy to choose one he thinks you might like and that he can comfortably afford.
Congrats!
2007-01-29 06:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to talk about anything with this man, just ask him if you can buy the ring you liked, if he cannot afford it just now then at least you'll know why he hasn't bought it yet.
2007-01-29 04:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAY SOMETHING LIKE, TRADITIONALLY IT IS PROPER TO GIVE YOUR FINANCE A ENGAGEMENT RING FIRST. WEDDING BANDS ARE CHEAPER THAN ENGAGEMENT RINGS. AND BESIDES THERE ARE ALLOT OF SALES IN THE MONTH OF FEB. CHARGE IT FINANCE IT, HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE LABELED CHEAP.I BROUGHT MY WIFE A 1/2 CARAT PLATINUM RING. I FINANCED FOR 12 MONTHS AT $50.00 PER MONTH SO THERE IS NO EXCUSE.AND I AM QUITE SURE YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY HAS ASKED ABOUT THE RING .
2007-01-29 00:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by chris m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋