Ever since I picked up the french horn, i have been enamered with it. I love everything about it and how versitial of an instrument it can be. I really want to attend a college that will allow me to further pursue my dream of becoming a professional horn player and composer for movie scores but that doens't exactly fit my parents dream for me. My mom wants me to play, but at a big university in the marching band and my dad, he just doesn't understand that something like the horn takes as much compitment,disipline, and determination as anything else. How do I explain any of this to them?
2007-01-28 16:20:03 · 11 answers · asked by kiissntheraiin14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What a tough position to be in. It's not as if you're doing something silly like pursuing astrology. Normally parents have a better idea how things work than their children. But from what I can sense, your plans seem as solid as anything else. Go with the straight forward approach, my guess is you're sensible enough to get your point across. And ultimately, your life is yours to live, and your path is yours to choose. Pick your parents path they have chosen for you, or pick your own. Good luck.
2007-01-28 16:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into any and every thing connected to your instrument that can lead you into a successful career. Research it and present it to your parents after you have an idea of where you want to focus your skills in order to pursue your dream. I know exactly how you feel. When I was younger, I wanted to be a professional singer, but my mother dissuaded me, telling me that I needed something to fall back on in case my singing career didn't work. Now I know that there are many avenues that training as a professional singer would have benefited me career wise, but I didn't have that information back then, and I let her gear me in a direction I never wanted to take. I resent her to this day for that.
2007-02-02 06:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents cannot live their life through you; just as you cannot live yours through them. Each individual has the God-given right to make his or her own choices in life.
Explain to them that you appreciate their guidance and opinion, but that you have found something that you want to pursue and that you are going for it. Also explain to them that it doesn't mean all their ideas suck, just this one you have your own feelings about. Encourage them to still give you input and support. See if you can find some material on what it is you want to do and share it with enthusiasm to them. Maybe if they see that spark it gives you, they'll come around. Best wishes. Doot-doodle-loo!(horn imitation)
2007-01-28 17:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by wow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell them. but really i think your mom has the right idea at least if you go to college and play you r horn in the band you can cont. your passion and still have a degree in something if the whole professional horn player doesn't work out. i think everyone should follow their dreams but now a days you have play it safe because the economy is not nice
2007-01-28 16:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start by telling them how much you love them and appreciate all the love and support they give you. Next. tell them exactly how you feel and what you want in life. Inform them that you have to live your life and make your own choices. Tell them that if you make mistakes you can always learn from them and continue. You will be surprise at how much love and support they can continue giving you. Remember, no matter what, they are not going to kill you.
2007-02-04 14:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have learned something in life at age 38, one follow your OWN dreams not someone elses even if your parents want you to do what THEY want you to do. I wanted my oldest son to go to college but he said it wasn't for him but Tattooing was because it made him happy, he is 19 this year, I bought him a Tattoo kit for him why because I want what makes my son happy no matter what, I know he will be happy that is all that matters in life
2007-01-28 17:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them that you have found your tool for happiness, and it happens to be a beautiful instrument that you love to play. If they get pissed well them play them a song, if they don't like it they can shove it up their asses.
2007-01-28 16:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by calsonic66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like you explained it to me i had a son thought would be a doctor and then hes one of the home depot group well hes a leader anyhow and loves his job you just have to let your kid go to what they love and you sound likeyou have the dicipline to do this so go for it and tell them
2007-02-01 16:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start applying to colleges and get that full scholarship they offer in music, That will change their minds.
2007-02-04 12:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you really wanted in life...he will appreciate it if u using a lite tone with him...tell him what u really want.u will never let him down if he give u a chance.tell him that u will do your best and focus what your really wanted..if there any information u wanted to tell him like someone that are really sucessfull in their goal because they really focus and really love what they are doing..
2007-01-28 18:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by haisa_camelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋