why is premarital sex considered so bad?

Question

why do people look down on unmarried parents? they can be just as loving and/or make just as many parenting mistakes as a married couple.

lol dude, im married but thanks anyway

small but fierce, i am referring to both

wow people sure get snippy when ya ask an honest question around here.

Answer 1

Ultimately, it's our own irrational views of our own sexuality and self-worth that lead us to condemn others for their choices. Regardless of whether or not premarital sex is wrong, it's hardly "awful," and it hardly makes those who do it awful people.

Personally, I think that thinking less of someone for their crimes is completely incompatible with loving everyone as ourselves.

Answer 2

Because relationship can become different after sex. Some might feel guilty and hate the other. Some might find the other now not so attractive after I have 'seen' everything. (Laws of diminishing marginal utility). Because children can be born at a time when both are not really to give them the proper love and support. When the children grow up, ...

It is not so much as looking down on unmarried parents. Consider and think about the potential headaches and heartaches and trouble caused to the people around you and think if it is a considerate and responsible thing to do.

Answer 3

I don't think this is a religious question, however I think it is considered to be bad because there is a lesser chance of pregnancy and/or STD's, of which if the pregnancy is accidental, this can lead to much turmoil in many peoples lives surrounding them. Otherwise it is a good thing, but from an atheist point of view, the safer you are with premarital sex, the better your future will be. Therefore, if looking down on people for premarital sex decreeces premarital sex, making these problems less likely to happen, it is a good thing.

Answer 4

Unmarried parents are different from premarital sex.

I think monogamy is the word, as long you had only one partner there is nothing wrong, either you are married or not.

Premarital sex are bad because it might lead to pregnancy to a couple who are not yet emotionaly, mentaly, financialy and physicaly
prepared to such demanding task of raising kids and building a family.

If the world today if people will practice marriage first before sex, there is a lot of problem we can eradicate like,

Sexual transmitted diseases, like AIDS
Teen pregnancy ( stop schooling )
Abortion ( health risk and guilt )

Answer 5

Sorry, your premise is wrong. In general, two parents are better than one. There are so many statistics that bear this out, I won't bother posting them. And with that knowledge, Intentionally becoming a single parent is selfish. (You'll note, most of the people who look down on single marriage are parents, who know this intuitively)

Mother's fulfill certain tasks in a child's development, Fathers fulfill others. And some tasks, such as demonstrating the concept of a healthy and fulfilling commitment between two adult human beings, are only fulfilled by two parents. This is why children raised by one parent are so much more unsuccessful at their own marriages and relationships than children raised with two parents.

Additionally, two parents moderate each others decisions, so they do generally make less mistakes in child-rearing.

And unless the single parent is independently wealthy, a single parent is INTENTIONALLY bringing a child into a condition of childcare by someone other than a parent for the significant percentage of their daily lives. Or INTENTIONALLY forcing the child to switch homes every week, or whatever.

It's one thing to be forced into this after the fact in light of a divorce or death, but to intentionally inflict this void onto an innocent child . . . Why??? In the case of a single parent, it's usually done with their own best interest in mind, not the future of the child.

Answer 6

I guess it's because it's just not "the old way." People often frown on mavricks, no matter what kind they are. Slaves to tradition...

But more seriously, marriage is a symbol of devotion. Devoting to each other is beautiful, and marriage is just something that can label two people as devoted to each other under law. Those who aren't married (of course can still be just as devoted) are just seen as less so...more wild and less serious about the relationship. I mean, think about it. I saw this on Dharma and Greg...one parent could just leave and it wouldn't be illegeal...it's a scary and strange thought. Marriage is more binding, therefore seen commonly as the "responsible" thing to do.

I agree that you can be just as loving and devoted not married, but marriage just sort of...labels it yeah? Really spells it out for people and again, there's that whole tradition thing.

Answer 7

God wants the best for everyone and that means trust and respect and faithfulness and security and love and consideration and a clean conscience, and no venereal diseases and a host of other things--not just for the man and the woman but for their parents and their children. God loves us all and most of us who have made these mistakes or had our children or our parents make these mistakes can relate to some aspect of hurtfulness which was involved.

Answer 8

premarital sex is against what god wills. In 1Thessalonians 4:3-8 says: "this is what god wills..that you abstain from fornication. Abstain means to hold ones self back and fornication means....man and women having sex when they are not married. So as we see that god wants us to wait to have sex until we are married.Also in Ephesians 5:5 it says "no fornicator or unclean person can not enjoy the blessing of god's kingdom." So we want to abstain from premarital sex and wait until we are married.

Answer 9

i found your username offensive. if all guys are insane, then all women are insane as well.
what if someone's username account was titled "y_r_all_women_insane? you wouldn't like that, would you? you were wrong for making the user account name that you made.

to answer your question, premarital sex between guys and women isn't bad at all. if anything, it's actually good, moral, and right. it's wrong for guys to miss out on foreplay and sex with women, especially by their thirties and on up. a lack of foreplay and sex between guys and women is bad and wrong, but many christians are too ignorant to realize that. if anything, there needs to be more, not less, foreplay and sex between guys and women(both inside AND outside of marriage).
also, if case you didn't realize this, but guys are just as good, worthy, and deserving as women are, and therefore deserve to have it just as good as women can have it.
if all women are sane, then all guys are sane as well.
i hope this and all of your other questions gets deleted and where that yahooanswers account of yours gets deleted as well if you're not going to change that offensive, wrongful username that you made.

Answer 10

premarital sex is also known as fornication. look up that term in the Bible and see what you get. it has nothing to do with love or parenting, it has to do with a commitment.