so i have this ex boyfriend...we dated on and off for about a year, but we broke up because he cheated on me due to the fact that i was a virgin, and wasnt ready to give away my virginity. After we broke up, he always claimed to still love me, but i was never sure if he did. He went on to begin having sex with our entire drill team, while he was dating my x-friend. (also virgin)
although i love my current boyfriend with all of my heart, whenever my ex comes around i feel okward and helpless putty in his hands. i avoid him at all costs, but always run into him at one time or another and feel butterlies and feel compelled to talk to him...why? and what to do?
2007-01-28 16:18:38 · 21 answers · asked by synphani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Continue to avoid him because his intentions are not for your best interests. It sounds like your new boyfriend is more committed & you should respect & cherish him for that. Nice guys needn't finish last.
2007-01-28 16:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. I am sure he still has feelings as the break up is new. That dose not mean he wants to break up with you. I would give him a little space, the more you crowed him the more he will push you away. Also you really don't know what he was upset about. I know your not a mind reader and might be jumping ahead of yourself. Give the guy a little space and see how things go.
2016-03-29 07:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have such feelings - as he cheated and broke your heart. You clearly have unresolved issues and need some sort of closure. It does not mean that you don't love your current boyfriend, but that you have yet to close the chapter with your ex-- given the blow to your ego and the fact that he hurt you. Given the behavior of your ex, he is clearly not a person worthy of your feelings, but if you get a chance to let him know that he hurt you maybe it will help you move on. He may also represent that "temptation" of sex - he clearly is promiscuous and you are not. So he is the extreme opposite of you.
2007-01-28 16:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you break up with someone doesn't mean you can turn off your feelings like a light switch. God didn't make us that way, no matter what we wanted, or whether we believe in God. So you have feelings for your ex. Don't we all, as I do too. So, you just "deal with it", and don't always act on your feelings. Self control or self discipline might be the recommendation / remedy here. God Bless you.
2007-01-28 16:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is we do not control who we are atracted to. I am still in love with a girl who could care less about me. I wish I could shake it but i can't. Just front when you're around him. Act like you could care less. I know it's hard. But it is so worth it. My ex has been calling me lately. I haven't given her time to really talk tho. I just pretend to be busy. Try that.
2007-01-28 16:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by kobayashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for your ex then you don't truly love your boyfriend. Your doing both of you a disservice by thinking about the other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it to. You will have to sort your feelings out pretty soon.
2007-01-28 16:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you have that much feelings for him than maybe you should talk to him. Don't jump into anything though, because he may not still feel the same way about you, but if he does and you think it's right, maybe ya'll should give it another try.
2007-01-28 16:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically get up the nerve with the new boyfreind beside you for support.And simple say that its over and u never loved me all you wanted was my virginity.So move on and leave me alone.
2007-01-28 16:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by william h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have closure, it's not your fault...and this punk doesn't deserve the time of day. Closure will only come after your wounds have healed and you find someone that respects you and treats you in a way that you know you deserve to be treated.
2007-01-28 16:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by auDREE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just feelings that have never died... and you have to decide... is it worth it? should you destroy what you have with the current guy, or should u go back with the ex? examine the pros with the cons if you get that desperate for an answer.. does he treat you better, does he love you better? does he do more for you? is your world better with him in it? who could you live more with or without???
2007-01-28 16:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋