Do you consider homosexuality a part of the human condition?

Question

Or just a choice? And why do you feel this way?

Answer 1

It's either the way they were born or something happened at an early age to make them that way. It is not a choice and anyone who says that is not gay. Find me ONE gay that says he was straight as an arrow but then just decided one day to be attracted to the same sex instead. I can't believe there are still people out there who think it's a choice. It's crazy how ignorant people can be. And in my opinion, being that ignorant is a choice. Anyway, The reason I believe this is one of my closest friends since 6th grade was always a little different. He was sweet and sensitive, and he was an amazing person. When he told me right after high school graduated that he was gay, it wasn't a big surprise. He was always more sensitive than all the other guys. We had a big talk about his homosexuality and he made it clear that he knew from an early age that he did not feel the same as the other guys felt about girls. Nothing ever even came close to "causing" this, either, he is just gay. And for other closed-minded people that don't know him to LOOK DOWN on him for that or think he's a bad person, or think he's "going to hell," WELL. Let me tell you anyone that thinks that is going to hell long before he will. Good thing he and I are both atheists and don't believe in that silly, backward crap. I love him and I accept him for the beautiful gay man he is.

And CHEVYREIS, you have been reported.

Answer 2

Homosexuality is genetic, not a choice. No one would choose to be an outcast like the homosexuality community. Look at the way they get treated. Pretty much worse than any other living being. It would be suicidal to choose to live life that miserable.

Answer 3

I believe it to be natural. I have someone close in my family who is gay. Everyone always knew he would be from a very early age. I watched him grow up and come out of the closet and everyone was like about time. He always played with barbies, loved musicals, he even from the time he was four would wrap a towel around his head when he got out of the shower. It can also be a choice for someone to experiment with there sexuallity. Depending on the situation it could be either or.

Answer 4

I think that homosexuality is a choice that becomes a habit or addiction. I believe this because I believe all thing sexual are a choice. It is difficult to deny the sexual side of ourselves, it is difficult to deny ourselves anything that feels good. But just because something feels good or right does not mean it is. Just because we feel love or lust or dependance on someone or something it does not mean we have no control over our actions. Please don't be offended by some of the examples I site, it is not my intention to offend, just to explain my perspective in the effort to understand all sides.

Alcoholism and drug addiction have been termed diseases. But we are not born with them. There is no medical test that can show who has the disease or who may get it. There have been studies that show people in families with alcoholics are more likely to be alcoholics, and people would like to believe there is a gene mutation that makes one person an alcoholic or drug addict and one person not. But the fact is that if a person never drinks or does drugs they are not alcoholics or addicts. These trends are found because of the lifestyle in the home. They are raised with a behavior and copy it in one way or another. But here is my belief, it is not a disease by any definition. It is a self destructive behavior. We have called it a disease to give us an excuse to continue. To give a reason other than weakness or selfishness.

If a man beats his wife and she stays because she loves him. She hides it, she defends it, she loves him, she says she did something wrong, or she fell, it was nothing. She would turn against her children to be with him. She would allow her children to be abused to be with him. She cannot live without him. We just don't understand. We don't know him like she does. Whatever. She loves him, ok. I can see that she must in someway feel something I cannot rationally explain, if she calls it love, fine, I do not know her heart. I can say in my opinion and in the opinion of many it is not a healthy love. It has become an unhealthy obsession or dependance. A type of addiction. Not a disease though. Not something created by God as a natural state. Something created and corrupted by man.

If there is a man who molests childen. When caught many say they cannot help it. They cannot reisit the urges. They love the children. They were made this way. They cannot help it. Is this a natural part of them? Was it in them at birth? Or was it created by life and man? Maybe they were abused. Maybe like the Catholic preists they abstained from women until they began having thoughts about other people around them. The thoughts become a fixation, then they slip and act. Then they can't get enough. Is this an addiction? A disease? To me to call it that is the begining of making it acceptable. It is not acceptable. It is not natural. It is not a way of life to be one day considered as common place. It is perverse and disgusting, and the majority of homosexuals would agree.

And this is where we reach a slippery slope. By saying we cannot help the way we are we open the door for others to just be the way they are. And while to God all sins are equal, to man there are things out there scarier than what adult you have consentual sex with in your own home. But by saying it is just who you are removes the responsibility.

Our actions can be controlled. Our desires can be redirected. Anyone who has been married or committed to the same person for years will tell you, they do not still feel the same way they did when they began the relationship. Love sometimes takes work. You work and compromise to sustain it. You forgive and look for the good. You have periods where you see a lot of bad and then you look around and decide to work again and things get better.

Our sexuality is a choice. All our behavior is a choice. Homosexuality, much like heterosexual promisquity, and the other things I listed, as well as the urge to steal or kill, are not part of who we are when we are born. It is a response to the more base side of our being. It is the side of us that wants what we want. It is the side of us that walks away from God and places ourselves as god of our lives. We make excuses. This is who I am, this is who I will always be, I cannot change. But it is not true. Do we constantly have to be on guard against back sliding? Yes, but this is true of all sin. We just have to go day by day choosing. And when we slip we have to realize it and redouble our efforts. We have to be careful of allowing ourselves to become comfortable and complacent.

Answer 5

It's a part of my human condition, and has been since I first became aware of my own sexual urges.

It was never a choice to be attracted to guys. It is the capacity to love that I've been blessed with. And I'm grateful for that capacity.

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Answer 6

I feel that people are just born that way. To think that a person would choose homosexuality is ridiculous. Why pick such a hard journey in life? I'm not saying that it is bad to be gay, but it is hard for gays to live life around close minded people.

Answer 7

Honey, homosexuality is not a part of the human condition. That is a choice you have to take. You alone decide whether you want to have a natural, wholesome life or if you want to follow the leaders to some estranged relationships.

If God permitted homos, why did He destroy 2 cities; Sodom and Gomorrah? If our Supreme Being said NO to that kind of relationship, why will we continue to lead this perverse kind of life?

There is one thing that we should do in this life and that is to fear our God Almighty.

Answer 8

Yes it is a part of the human condition. Not my human condition mind you.

Answer 9

I do believe that some people were just born that way-so it's natural. Others, where it has taken time to "come out" also go through it naturally. Think about it, many gay people try denying it for years or even putting a stop to it...it's not really something you can control.

Answer 10

Yes, i beleive it is part of the human condition, while some may choose, others, including freinsd of mine, say it' sjust what happend. i even know a person who is gay and tried to be straight (showing he didn;t want to be gay) but couldn't change, and fianlly accepted himself.

So there you go, my answer and reason. I beleave it can be both, but a majority are human condition.