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My sister did her first communion and Catechism, but I never did. I attended Church through out High School w/a friend of mine and a close family member. I would like to get married in that church, it's a Catholic Church and I would like to get married as a Catholic. Neither my fiance or I did first communion or anything else for that matter, can we still get married in the Catholic Church?

2007-01-28 16:18:24 · 16 answers · asked by hofers65 2 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

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Yes, but you have a little preparation to do first.

The Code of Canon Law states:

Canon 1065 §1. Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before they are admitted to marriage if it can be done without grave inconvenience.

§2. To receive the sacrament of marriage fruitfully, spouses are urged especially to approach the sacraments of penance and of the Most Holy Eucharist.

With love in Christ.

2007-01-29 16:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0 0

Partly, it depends on your local priest. But there are also rules on this.

Was your husband baptised a Catholic? If he was, I think you will probably be all right, because in most of the rules baptism seems to be the key qualification. Your priest may get sniffy if he hasn't seen either of you outside family weddings and funerals, but I think in the end you'll probably be okay.

However, there may be a bit of awkwardness because celebrants are normally expected to receive the Eucharist (ie take communion), and to "prepare themselves for the celebration of their marriage by receiving the sacrament of penance" - if you haven't taken First Communion then you won't be able to do that.

If your fiance in't a Catholic, things get more complicated. There are rules governing marriage "between two baptised persons, one of whom was baptised into the Catholic Curch or received into it after baptism" and the other who "belongs to a church... not in full communion with the Catholic Church" - eg Church of England - or who is not baptized at all. In that case, you need to meet certain requirements, primarily a promise to bring up the children in the Catholic faith. If you do not follow the faith actively yourself, your priest may consider that you are not sincere in making that promise and has the right to refuse to marry you.

You will probably both also be required to undertake a pre-wedding "course", usually a weekend, at which you will be told about the Catholic attitude to marriage and so on.

Just as an afterthought, though, I wonder if you have thought about what you are asking for. You say you want to be "married as a Catholic", but don't you think that doing that when you don't LIVE as a Catholic is potentially a bit hypocritical? Does it have any meaning if the first time you'll go back to church afterwards is to have your first-born baptised? Are you just faking faith to get married in a nice building?

You should be true to yourself. If you want to be a Catholic and the idea of marriage has reignited your faith, start going to church now and get to know your priest, prepare for your first communion and so on - that will certainly smooth things over for your wedding when it comes. If not, maybe a registry office ceremony would be more appropriate and honest.

Good luck - and remember, the wedding isn't even 1% of a marriage. In the end, it's how the two of you work at it that makes it last, not the setting of the ceremony.

2007-01-28 17:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by gvih2g2 5 · 0 0

The Catholic Church will marry you because you've been baptized Catholic (it is your fee ticket to heaven too, through the way!). :) in truth, you'll take a seat with the priest who will be marrying you and along with your fiance, you should describe why you go with to be married interior the Catholic church. you do not must have your first communion or be shown. They in all likelihood will push you to succeed in this although because you go with to embody your faith and be a "good Catholic" through getting married interior the church. yet you're less than no circumstances compelled to do this. And your fiance can't be compelled to do some thing in any respect. it is completely ideal for only one human being to be Catholic interior the marriage. yet, you ought to be able to tell the priest that you and your fiance conform to augment the little ones interior the Catholic faith (and also you should assert that you're open to having little ones interior the first position too). it is it and that is all! you're Catholic through precise of baptism and they're going to marry you and your fiance interior the church because of that. The question of even if there'll be a mass (communion) celebrated in the course of the marriage ceremony is yet another component altogether. it many times has to do along with your prefer to grow to be a practising Catholic in case you at the on the spot are not already. they don't carry out communion and not using a minimum of one in all you being a practising Catholic (someone who is going to church maximum Sundays). good luck!

2016-10-16 06:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No, you cannot as I was baptized Catholic, had my first Communion and Reconciliation, but you and your fiance must be Confirmed Catholic to be married in the Catholic Church. I have not been Confirmed and do not intend on becoming Confirmed for I do not believe the Catholic beliefs are accurate.

2007-01-28 16:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Layla B 1 · 0 1

If you're a baptized Catholic, you can get married in a Catholic Church.

Talk to the priest at your church. Lay out the facts for him. He'll tell you what needs to be done.

And don't listen to most of what's been posted here, as it's wrong.

2007-01-28 17:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

As long as one of you are catholic you can get married in a catholic church. And that your other half is baptised as well. My wife is catholic and i am not, I had to get a copy of my baptismal certif. and we had to attend some stupid classes then we were allowed to get married in the church...

2007-01-28 16:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ken J 2 · 1 0

you will need to talk to the priest as each church can be slightly different as for confirmation you no longer have to have made this to get married that went out the window years ago as for 1st communion they would prefer that you have made it but sometimes they will over look this as you have been baptised as i said in the start talk to the priest good luck (catechist)

2007-01-28 17:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by carol p 4 · 0 0

The best thing to do would be to ask your priest. I would check into RCIA classes too. A priest would be able to tell you for sure what you need to do to be married in the Church.

2007-01-28 17:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by paxicogirl 2 · 0 0

Yes, I think you can. Were you baptised? Actually, I'm not even sure if it matters if you were baptised at that church or not. As long as you consider yourself to be a Catholic, I think you're safe. ;)

2007-01-28 16:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by radiant_sacrifice 1 · 0 0

unfortunately ..for the catholic church to accept a wedding.. you wou ld not only have to have gone through communion...but you also would have had to have been confirmed..you have a long way to go..

2007-01-28 16:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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