So theres this girl..?

Question

I worked with this girl who is about 5 years younger than me. That was 2 years ago. We were good friends than & my girlfriend knew it. Now suddenly she is back in my life & on friday night she sent me a picture of herself at 10:30 pm. My girlfriend saw this & freaked out, accusing me of messing around with that girl. I tried to explain that we are just friends as we've always been & that the other girl is in a committed relationship & that she knows that I am in a committed relationship too but that wasnt enough to convince my girlfriend. She went home on saturday morning & never came back or called. She also never answered my calls all weekend & never replied to any of my messages. Im confident that we are going to get back together again but my question is this.. Should I break off my friendship with the ex-colleague even though we weren't messing around in any way?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Im confused as to why your mate sent you a picture of herself!? I have loadsa guy friends but certainly wouldnt be texting pics of myself to them! You seem clear in your motives regarding this girl but are you sure she feels the same about you - it kinda sounds like she could fancy you??
I dont think you should end the friendship completely - but I would have a chat with this girl and tell her that you'd appreciate if you she didnt send pictures anymore - and that you dont see the need for her to be texting so much or whatever. Right now your girlfriend is your priority - and even though you seem completely innocent - I cant blame her for going off on one!
xx

Answer 2

are you sure the picture was actually meant for you, and not her current man?
i have had people drunk send me stuff in error, be that from people i know or i don't.
you need to call your friend who sent the picture, give her your girlfriends phone number for her to explain the error. assuming it was an error. and you want your girlfriends back.
we all need friends, so no don't break the friendship. as long as you are not messing around (having an affair) then your friend should be able to straighten things out with your girlfriend.
while lovers are friends often there are things we do not feel comfortable talking about with them, so a good friend is essential.
try not just calling your girlfriend write down in long hand a letter (pen and ink) not an email or a typed letter unless your hand writing is like the mess a spider wlking through a pot of ink and then walking all over your paper (a damn unreadable mess).
typing would or should be acceptable.
buy your girlfriends something very special based on her interests but not sex related, flowers or jewelery. they are too predictable and shows no thought (or so i'm told).

i hope that helps a little. and good luck.

Answer 3

Choose the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with. Then when you decide go with her and never look back and stop having contacts with the other one. Because girls tend to be jealous to each and don't like that their b/f talk with a girl that they don't know. So if you love your g/f then you should break off your friendship with the ex-colleague and vice-versa.

Btw, as regarding your g/f not answering your calls nor replying any of your messages, I suggest you go over to her place and talk to her and try to explain the situation. But don't let yourselves getting nervous cause if they do, you want be able to explain and she won't be able to understand the real facts.

Hope this helps mate and Good Luck

Answer 4

Wow, you're actually considering breaking off the friendship with the other girl so your gf wont be angry. Thats pretty sweet of you and shows you really care about your gf.

But you don't have to do that. You should talk to your gf first and explain her everything, tell her you are with her and you don't want to be with anyone else so she shouldn't worry. Tell her that she is much more important to you than your friend and that if she really was bothered by it then you would break the friendship off.
By now im sure she will say that its okay and she trusts you and so you`ll have your gf back and still be friends with the girl. Tadam!

Answer 5

NO WAY!
Your girlfriend will come around and when she does just calmly explain to her that there is nothing going on, and that you are totally committed and devoted to her. However, also explain to your girlfriend that your ex-colleague is someone you cherish, as we all cherish our friends. Don't break off a friendship over a fight with your girlfriend... after it is all over you will be glad you didn't. You might just need that friendship later and life and who are you gonig to turn to if you broke it off over a fight?

Answer 6

Get your girlfriend to meet your work colleague and talk to her if she is insecure. If they are friends too then there is no problem. Set up a meal with your work colleague and her partner and the both of you and have a nice evening together. Your girlfriend will see that she is being unreasonable if you introduce them.

Answer 7

Here you go, don't stop being friends with the other girl, just cut down on the out of work contact.

No need for emails at home or pictures. Just cut back and keep the contact appropriate.

Answer 8

That depends: are you committed enough to you girlfriend to break off a friendship that bothers her? Is she more important to you than your pride over being in the right? Because when you truly love someone, you don't keep something that bothers them deeply.

Answer 9

I can see this as a misunderstanding. I doubt your gf is gonna break it off with you, after you explain everything to her, that is after she cools off. Things will be ok. If she finds security in the relationship, and you give her reassurance I don't know why she would still freak out.

Answer 10

If you love your GF and think that you are meant for each other then I would break off the friendship hopefully your GF will realise she was being silly and say she is sorry. So then no harm done


Good luck xx