How can i feel so big when everyone says im thin?

Question

It started about a year ago when a guy i really like said some mean things about me mostly that i was a fat pig and things like that. After a little while of hearin it around the skool i started feelin like a failure when i eat. My friends say oh u look nice but, im thinkin if they think i look nice when im fat it feels like an insalt. If im "nice" when im fat i bet ill be perfect wen im thin. I even have a gaol wieght i want to be but to certant things im not going to say it but i feel like i could lose like 25 to 30 lbs. dont juge me just help.

Answer 1

Know very much how you feel. It started for me when my mother told me I was 'chubby' and going to get fat if I didn't do something NOW. She pushed and pushed and made comments about my weight everday. I admit, I was overweight then.

But since then I've had a rather strange road of dieting. Sometimes overeating and hating myself, sometimes starving and still hating myself...and recently purging to get rid of the food.

I am always trying to prove to myself that I'm not fat, not going to get fat...and I think I'm secretly competing with my sister, whom I haven't seen in months. I thought if I couldn't be as successful as her in any other way, I could be thinner.

Hehe, because I know I need serious help; I've finally come to admit. And you sound so much like me...I would say you're a very good candidate for an eating disorder, if you don't have one already. We both need help.

I know it can be so hard to let go of the things people say; some words stick with you for years and years, your whole life if you don't learn to love yourself, learn to forgive. I don't know all the answers; if I did I wouldn't need to see a therapist...but I think journal writing, or venting your feelings in some healthy way, such as writing, drawing, painting, decorating, or even singing...can relieve so much of this. Try to talk to someone, on a regular basis...even if it's not about this. Talk to them about who you are, what you feel, what's inside. If you feel like there's no one you know that can be your ear, then you could definitely use professional help, if just to have someone to talk to.

Problems like these don't originate in the body; they start in the mind. Take care of your mind, and your emotions...treat them well...and your body will come with it.

Answer 2

People around u always need a topic to pass time. Do not bother about what they say about u.

Eat nourishing food with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables being part of it. Chew each morsel at least 32 times. This will activate signal to the brain as soon as u have had enough. Besides this change in eating style, take regular light exercises and brisk walks every day. U will be able to gain/shed all extra weight gracefully and in a reasonable time span. No food or drink in between the food and not more than three meals a day, unless u r diabetic.

Answer 3

You sound like you're still young, so your mind is still trying to figure out things for you.
You're letting what one jerk said to you a year ago (he was probably angry or having a bad day or something) affect how you see yourself.
If you really want to lose the pounds, just do it. Eat healthy, exercise, lots of water, avoid the junk food (chips, burgers, pizza) and go with lots of fresh fruits and vegetables.
If what people say when you're eating with them bothers you, don't sit with them at lunch. Have a healthy lunch then go do something active (a long walk, swim, exercise, something).
And the most important thing is to realize that what anyone says about you or to you is totally UNIMPORTANT. What really matters is what YOU say to you. If you think "I'm fat" your body will follow your orders and make you fat. If you think "I'm the perfect weight for me" your body will follow your orders.
A great book that really helped me with weight, self-esteem, and confidence was "What to Say When You Talk To Yourself" by Shad Helmstetter.

Answer 4

Go to the library and check out some books on Anorexia Nervosa. It is an eating disorder where people think they are overweight when they are really thin. Don't worry about what other people say about you. People can be mean in school, just because it makes them feel better about themselves by putting other people down. The guy who called you names is an idiot and a jerk . Ignore him. It is hard, I know. When he gets out of school he will learn that you can't act like this in the workplace. It isn't tolerated.Perhaps his parents put him down at home, so that is why he carries it over to you.

Answer 5

Honey, this is a serious problem, but it has nothing to do with your body. It does have to do with your perception of your body. And it's a problem than can and does kill people, just about every day.

You need professional help here, so please start by seeing your family doctor. Be absolutely honest and say that you want counselling help here. It is the only way for you to help yourself. Insist on it.

This is not judgement. This is your life at stake.

Answer 6

You feel big because that's what you are thinking about yourself. If you will change your focus from your weight to being healthy, your weight will take care of itself. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables, drink plenty of water, exercise every day, and your weight will take care of itself. Most of all, look in the mirror every day and tell yourself how beautiful you are. And, when people tell you you look nice, believe what they say instead of making up what you think they are saying.

Answer 7

I am so sick of people that judge other people. Your are beautiful the way you are. I had the same problem and felt the same way as you with the "you look fine crap" and now im 50 pounds lighter and anorexic. Need and Want are different words.
Do you feel you NEED to lose weight for of the guy and your friends OR
Do you WANT to lose weight for of you Find new friends girl
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Answer 8

That guy sounds like a royal, moronic, A-hole. I am sure you look fine, but there is nothing wrong with getting healthy. Forget getting "thin". What you should do is consult your doctor to set goals and limits. Exercise. It also wouldn't hurt to talk to a counselor.

Answer 9

ur toooo obssed of how you look that you pay x tra attention of lil details ur body doesnt even have. in other words ur turnning into an aneroxic mind. I bet anything u are skinny. Don;t let the Hollywood disease get to you.

Answer 10

Talk to a therapist or nutritionist. You have problems with body image that may lead to anorexia.