My husband and I live with my his father and step-mother, heres the thing...?

Question

We have 2 cars, daycare and car ins to pay, and we are staying with his dad and his dads wife. My husband is wanting to take our income tax and take a realtor course, since he is 25 and has no schooling and this is what he wants to do, his dad doesn't think we should do that, he thinks he should keep working the crappy job he works, and sell our cars so we can move out!!! What do you think we should do? Help please

No no he has been to high school but he doensn't have a college education, something he can make really good money with!!! We have lived on our own but after we had our daughter the bills got overwhelming, so we moved in here! What I am asking is should we take income tax money and put it towards him an education, or sell our cars ( like his dad said) and use the income tax money to move out even though we can't afford the bills until he can get a decent job.

Answer 1

First thing I would say is, that you guy's should follow your heart. I know it will be diffucult to deal with staying with someone but. If your husband heart is into realtor that what he should do. Dont sell both cars if you can help it. I was in the same situation with my fiance, just pray and everything will eventually fall into place. I know it's hard but stay strong and I gurantee you'll make it.

Answer 2

The realtor course does not guarantee that your husband will get a job being a realtor, not does it guarantee that he will be good at it if he does get a job. Realty is a REALLY REALLY hard business to get into, unfortunately.

How about this: Use the income tax return money to move out. Sell ONE of the cars. Have your husband work during the day and you work in the evenings, so that you don't need to pay for daycare. In the meanwhile, enroll in community college. If you don't make much money, you will qualify for pell grants, which will pay for most all of community college classes. Classes would only be one or two evenings a week, some even have classes only on the weekends.
When you do move out, make sure to get an apartment or house that is AFFORDABLE. It does not need to be big or nice, even. Remember that it is just a stepping stone to the REALLY nice house you will have someday if you and your husband work hard now getting your educations.
It will be hard to work opposite shifts than your husband, I know, it will suck because you wont be able to see each other as much. BUT, wouldn't you rather have a shorter hard time now, or a lifetime of struggle?

Answer 3

Sell one car, let your husband take the realtor course and work somewhere while in school. You could work your job and maybe get a part time job waiting tables at night. Move into an affordable apartment, because your in-laws are ready for you to move on. Later, your husband can work while you go to school. Good luck.

Answer 4

If his dad thinks you two need to move out then you need to move out. At this age, he should have done this a long time ago. Schools have financial aid if he wants to go to school. I'm a single mom and able to do it on my own paying rent, electricity bill, phone bills, cable bills, insurance, groceries, I can go on and on.....so I'm sure you two can do it if you give it a try. Bottom line is, it's not his dads responsibility to take care of you two and if he says it's time to go, it's time to go. You may have to sell your cars and buy two that are cheaper so you won't have a note. And if you two have been living there for at least 6 months of last year then his dad could claim you two on his taxes, then he could spend it the way he wants. I think it's very nice of his dad not to do that and let you two have the money to get you on your feet.

Answer 5

Do either of you know about real estate ??? Are you confident enough that you will make money being a realtor??? Is there enough housing in your area to sell ???
If your husband hasn't been to school ( HS ???) then he really needs to get his GED. THEN go to some other school.
If he doesn't like his job, maybe he should look for another...
It sounds like you aren't getting support from the parents, so I'd make a move as soon as possible. (less day care, less of a car payment, etc...)

Answer 6

Move into a low income housing or income based housing. He can still go to college. There are grants and financial aids to "help" him do this. If I were the both of you this is what I'd do! We allhave to make sacrarfices in life...maybe cut down on a few things or something to get by. Good luck and the best to you both!

Answer 7

well you have to consider the options.is there a possibility that the father would tell you'll to leave if you have your money tied up in somthing else?if so you might want to look for a place.sounds like the father just wants his home back and his son is grown now and needs to be on his own.it will be hard on you'll but i think the best thing to do is get a place and save a little each week till you have the money for him to take this course though it will mean making sacrifaces.your family will probably be happier in your own place any way.good luck

Answer 8

Apparently his dad is getting tired of you and your husband living with him and his wife, so wants you to get out. It's yours and your husbands responsibility to support yourselves...but also yours and your husbands business how you spend the tax return. Education in something is a valid reason. It's not like you're using it in a frivolous manner. Your husband should take the real estate course then find you and he a house to live in

Answer 9

Sounds like dad is giving you guys a hint. Both of you should be working and use the money to get your own place. He can go back to school when you can afford it.

Answer 10

It is a mistake to live with parents. Sooner or later your father in law will push the issue and make you leave. Get out now. Find an inexpensive place to live. Both of you can work and he can work 2 jobs. Do what you have to do. It won't be easy but you are working toward a goal.