My boyfriend and I been having sex a lot, and he's on asking for more and more> i have to say no at times. I think he understands but tries again later on the same hour. Im scared that he'll get too turned on to stop. I even asked him "if i told you to stop, would you" he said no because he'll be too turned on. Im scared to have sex with him now, Guys, what would make you stop. What should i do?
2007-01-28 15:53:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we cant afford therapy
2007-01-28 15:58:27 · update #1
I stop him cause either he has to go to work or i do. or its something else like dinner or cause the child is awake
2007-01-28 16:05:09 · update #2
It sounds like his brain is chemically addicted to sex like a drug. Don't worry, though. I've seen worse cases. One such case was back at the University in '99. We had this chimp named Stu-Stu, and he would not stop for all mercy. We finally had to put him down before he destroyed his own heart, but I would not recommend this same procedure for your boyfriend.
2007-01-28 16:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing, but what he may be saying is that with him there is a point of no return. If you get going and reach that point, he may be saying that if you were to say "no", he wouldn't be able to honor that. That's good information for you to know because you will want to make sure that you know EXACTLY when that moment is.
Guys brains work differently than women's (duh). Women need to understand that with some men the sex drive is so strong that they literally lose control. Not all men are like that, and some would argue that no man is every "out of control", but if that's what he's telling you, I think you ought to have some very honest conversations about how far is too far - before you get there.
2007-01-29 00:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you like sex jes as much as the next girl, but sometimes you look for something else than to be penetrated. Explain to him that sometimes he iz jes gona have to realize that no means no, and if he doesnt want to except that than you will jes cut him off completely. He should respect you and what you want, and not jes use you for sex. Tell him if he would continue to have sex with you after saying "no" that he would be no better than a rapist, because in reality he iznt.
2007-01-29 00:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think twice about staying in a relationship with a guy like this. Sounds to me like he is a selfish jerk. Then also ask WHY you agree to having sex with him in the first place. Are you afraid of losing him? He may be using you.
You can do better. Don't settle for less than a guy who puts you first, instead of his own selfish needs.
2007-01-28 23:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and get a new boyfriend! Anyone that turned on is only after sex and eventually the two of you will split jup anyhow when he gets tired of the sex or somone else gives him more. This is really one of the best arguments for a real committment before sex!!
2007-01-29 00:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you can see, I'm a girl. You really just need to stop and say "I don't want to and if you want to a lot of the time, why." You need to be direct and firm. Show him you mean business. Express how you feel about this and just tell him that he's being really rude asking over and over.
2007-01-28 23:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by devilishangelgirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey well im a guy and my g/f does this too me all the time. I always stop wen she asks an i never let it get to me. sounds to me like u need to have a bit of a chat to ur boyfriend.
2007-01-29 00:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cant respect a no and basically says that hell rape you if you do say no, trash him... on the other hand, why do you have to say no?? you dont enjoy sex? he doesnt own you but people can get resentful when they start to feel as if you control the sex and its available when YOU want to get off, but when they want to theyre out of luck.... seriously though thats not rite that he says he wouldnt stop if you told him no...
2007-01-29 00:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by blackmetalgod2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if he gets out of control go to couples therapy or something tell him that you dont just wanna have sex with him and that he needsto get over it tell him it doesnt feel romantic to have sex all the time and it only feels like ******* like theres no love put into it
2007-01-28 23:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by britt b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand why you are staying with someone who does not respect your wishes, wants to control you, and cannot take no for an an answer. In other words, YOU are the one who needs help!
2007-01-28 23:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋