I got with this beautiful girl with out telling her my real age...she thought I was 1 year younger than her, but literally I was two years younger, (she kept on asking me how old I was but I kept own avoiding the question, )...four-five month into the relationship, she finds out what my real age was, she gets really hart by the fact I lied for so long abut it. I told her why I did it, I didn’t think age is that big of a factor and ...(thinking if it meant a lot to her, she would not get with me) I apologized, she said she forgives me and eleven month to the relationship she says she doesn't feel anything for me anymore, she wants a break. Do you think I deserve this? I am 20 she is 22...I love her to death, it painful that she is not with me anymore. What can I do to get her back?
2007-01-28 15:48:20 · 18 answers · asked by God 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her the break...she was with you for six more month after you told her your lie, it means there is something else that she love about you...Be patient and persistent, and hope and pray that she will come back...if love can change the world, it might change her...if not then move on...sometimes loosing is winning...learn form this and never lie again...
2007-01-29 12:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nahom E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She found out that you lied 5 months into the relationship, but didn't break up till 11 months into the relationship. You can be fairly certain that it's not your age that caused the breakup. It's likely not just that one lie about your age either. What I don't know, and what it could be, is that you've been dishonest with her in other ways? Or you've kept other information from her? Is it a pattern? Relationships end. Sometimes it's tough to know why.
2007-01-28 23:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by rainy_blonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww in know what your goign through, you dont deserve anything. You were jsut worried that ur age might have jsut affected ur relationship that was really strong. To get her back is almost impossible because when a girl feels something for a guy and then doesnt anymore its almost impposible for the guy to get her to liek him again. It just has to come natrually, if you want to try id try by making it up to her by suprising her with something. but if she feels that certain way than ur jsut going to have to move on.. Im sure ull find another grl its just a slow process but itll wear out soon enuf.
2007-01-28 23:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think the difference between 20 and 22 is somthing to make a big deal out of. u should have just told her in the first place, girls hate it when guys lie. did she say she was breaking up with you because of your age? maybe she really doesn't feel anything anymore, it doesn't matter if u deserve it or not, if she doesn't feel anything it's over.
2007-01-28 23:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude it's not the fact that you're 20 ,
it's the fact that you lied to her straight from the get go.
Lies break trust. Trust is the key to a successful relationship.
Next time you have an opportunity like that...tell the truth!
This one may never forgive you, but you could ask her if she'd allow you to make it up to her. Then prepare to kiss her *ss, until she's happy again!
2007-01-28 23:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to think it's about your age. She didn't break up with you because of your age if she already forgave you ... so, it was for other reasons. Whatever it is, it's how she feels and chasing after her isn't going to help you. Unfortunately everybody loses at love sometimes. It's just life. There will be someone else for you who will appreciate and love you for who you are. You have to let her go and move on. Good Luck.
2007-01-28 23:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably was what you deserved. But it would be hard to get a girl back when they dont have any feelings for you anymore. If she doesnt want to get back together, then be friends. But if you think you can change her mind. Convince her. Say, you will be honest, trustworthy, and give her flowers and say your feelings toward her. But just dont go begging to your knees...
2007-01-28 23:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U definitly dont deserve that. U wouldnt even chase after her if I were u. So what u lied.......it was a probable cause. I would totally appreciate it because at least u told her and she didint have to hear it from somebody else.
2007-01-28 23:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship.
If you'll ever have a chance with her again, you'll first have to earn that trust back.
She may think that if you'll lie about something as small as age; how can she trust you when it comes to the BIG things...
Good LUCK!!!
2007-01-28 23:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by HJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she says she doesn't feel anything for you, the mature, healthy and respectful thing to do is to accept it.
Don't take it personally, you don't deserve or not deserve her affection. It is her choice. If you can manipulate her into being with you again, that's not love, that's sickness.
2007-01-28 23:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋