I've tried ignoring him, but it has only escalated, he chucks it if someone leaves the house and he is not allowed to go outside too. If another kid comes too close to him at daycare, or if they won't get out of his way! I don't want to smack him but I need some ideas, as ignoring it is not working!! We try to give him as much one on one time as we can, but we both work full time so it can be limited, I just feel so guilty!! Help!
2007-01-28 15:44:09 · 16 answers · asked by brolgs 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why does he throw tantrums?Do you make him angry too often?You should stop in a way.About ignoring tantrums - it is working if you are really ignoring them.Tantrums without audience aren't interesting.If you leave the room the child will soon stop.If he follows you,just go to the kitchen or finally lock yourself in your room while it's over.
2007-01-28 17:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, when my son did that the first time, I walked out of the room and let him come find me. He never did it again, he didn't get the attention he thought he would. Maybe he is used to you giving in, when you leave the room do you stay gone and not come back in unless he stops? And if he sees you does he start up again? Leave the room again. He will get the picture. It's all about control and he's got it. You need to stand up and be firm. It will take time out of your day but he will get it soon enough. If that still isn't working try a good swat, don't feel guilty. His behavior is unacceptable and if you aren't careful he will start doing this in public.
2007-01-28 23:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by gymfreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime he does something good, you should praise him. "Oh, that's so great honey" "Good Job Buddy" "That's it babe, you got it!"
Be so proud of him for every little thing he does. When he throws tantums, he is telling you that he wants attention. He has learned that throwing tantrums is how to get attention. You need to break that habit.
Turn off the TV!!!!!!! Try toys, crafts, bath-time toys, helping with supper, ballon races, anything. try it all! Just keep him busy.
Hire a mother's helper to come help for an hour or two while you get supper together, however keep him engaged at all times.
Your daily goal should be to use up all of his energy in activites.
He's bored.
He just wants to play more.
2007-01-29 01:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by melomego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clobber him. Don't be angry when you do it. Catch him when he is making a lot of noise and not paying attention.
As for ignoring him, that will work. You just have to stick with it. He knows if he keeps it up, you will break down. Throwing a tantrum takes alot of energy. He'll wear out.
Nip this in the but now. Wait 'till he's two. Show him you are in charge. Or we'll be seeing you and your son on a morning talk show and 12 years of so.
2007-01-29 00:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We had a similar problem - he'd escalate it by banging his head on the floor.
What worked for us was to laugh at him when he threw a fit. Because while ear piercing and annoying, they can truly be funny.
He will not know what to do if you laugh - he knows enough to know that it does indeed get attention, even if you think you are ignoring it, you really aren't. I'm betting you've not let it go on for as long as he needs. he throws up or exhausts himself doing it, he'll stop himself soon enough. But laughing? That's not the proper reaction in his mind at all! Sometimes, they will start laughing too.
Another thing you can do is if he is screaming and fitting, pick him up and put him in his bed and walk away. He won't expect that either.
What my mom did once that totally cured my nephew of it was when he started tossing a fit at her house, she threw herself down on the floor and started thrashing and screaming just like him. Confused the hell out of him and he stopped.
2007-01-28 23:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is going through this too i think he tries to test me and see what i will do usually he throws his fit on the floor and i just let him and when he calms down a little i hold him. Then he is ok its just a stage their isn't much you can do but tell him to stop he is going to hurt himself. Make sure he is on a soft surface like a rug when he throws his fit. My son usually goes and throws something in the garbage like his shoes or whatever he was throughing his fit about or he throws his sippy accross the room or a toy. I usually don't spank him for this i just let him do it and he gets over it, its been happening less often usually when he is reallly tired he has fits. good luck
2007-01-29 06:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting down to his level and calmly talking with him. You may think yeah right you lost your mind. This really works -- they throw fit to get attention mostly, to see how u will react. Never give in.. you will begin a vicious cycle. Stay firm but calm they will soon realize that this is not the way to get what they want.
2007-01-28 23:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by umindy78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off: why isn't he allowed to play outside? get dressed and go play with him outside when you have the time. he's a one-year-old, for crying out loud. he doesn't understand anything yet. get down to his eye level when he does something bad and make him look at you in the eyes and tell him that his behavior is not acceptable and that if he does it again he will go into time out. don't yell at him, don't smack him, because he won't understand.
2007-01-29 00:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at this age your child knows how long they have to throw the fit to get the desired effect. if you give in after only a few minutes then he will know you will do this each time. if you do ignore it and he escalates more just keep ignoring him, as long as hes not going to hurt himself let him go for it. when he realizes your not going to give in he will stop and they should get shorter and shorter. this is what we did with my son and it works we just walk away form him unless we are in the store. then we just let him throw it anad when hes finshed we continue to shop.
2007-01-28 23:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL WHEN HES FLIPING OUT YOU HAVE TO TAKE HIM AND TELL HIM NO WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT NICE YOU NEED TO SIT HERE AND RELAX FOR 1 MIN AND GIVE HIM THAT MIN TO SIT THERE AND RELAX IT MAY MAKE THINGS WORSE CASUE HES STILL AND DOESNT WANNA BE THERE CAUSE HES MAD BUT YOU HAVE TO TAKE A CHAIR IN THE HOUSE IT CAN BE CALLED THE PUNISH CHAIR AND TELL HIM YOU ARE ON A TIME OUT MOMMY AND DADDY DOES NOT LIEK WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND EVERYTIME HE DOES IT PUT HIM IN THAT ONE CHAIR AND TELL HIM YOU NEED TO STOP OR YOUR GOING INTO THE CHAIR OR THE CRIB WHATEVER BUT LET HIM KNOW WHEN HE DOES IT THERE WILL BE A PUNISHMENT FOR IT I DID IT FOR MY SON AND IT WORKED AND USE THAT AS HE GETS OLDER FOR EVERY YEAR ITS A MIN SO HES 1 HE GETS A MIN AND WHEN HES 2 HE GETS 2 MIN AND THERFORE OK GOD LUCK
2007-01-29 00:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by BoRiCuA MaMi 69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋