Weve known each other for 2 years, I went out with his best friend for 7 months then him for 2. We broke up and stopped talking but in the past 6 months weve gotten so close were practically best friends. I just found out today from my other best friend that he has a 6 month old daughter. That means that she was conceived when we were dating. Should I be mad ? He doesnt know i know should I tell him I know or wait for him to tell me ? And weve been talking about getting back together, would that be a mistake ?
2007-01-28 15:28:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A) You know he's been unfaithful ALREADY,
and
B) He's going to have to pay child support for at least the next eighteen years.
Two MAJOR strikes against him, if you're asking me. Either one would render a man undateable in my eyes: both at once are the absolute kiss of death.
Dump the loser.
2007-01-28 15:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have right to get mad, i mean he has a baby and hadnt told you about it!!! But, you shouldnt say you know, he would probably ignore you if he heard that you knew. Just ask him if he may want to say anything to you, if there is something that he might be meaning to tell you but just didnt know how to start the conversation. Tell him you can handle anything. If he says no and wonders why, say you just want you and him to be honest with each other. If you have been talking to each other about getting back together, then tell yourself, "Do i really want to be his girlfriend again, or stay friends, do i like the way things are now, or want to take it to the next step like before?" You should really think about it since you broke up with him once before. But if you get back together, you should stay honest with him and he should stay honest with you and you should tell him that.
2007-01-28 23:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're NOT mad, don't start being mad, lol. Just talk to him. Be sensible. Maybe he was afraid that you'd take it the wrong way or think of him differently. It was wrong of him to keep that away from you, but don't be mad at him until after you've talked to him about it. He's only human. You know, he might have not even known about the baby, or it could've even been a rumour. Whatever it is, you're gonna have to talk to him about it. Take advantage of a bad situation, though. This conflict that you have in your head could actually end up bringing the both of you closer together!
2007-01-28 23:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mighty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he married to the woman who bore his child? Is he supporting his child? If there is a NO to either of these questions, then he's a dirt bag dad and it would be a big mistake for you to take up with this loser. As in the words of Judge Judy: The way this guy is going the probability is great that he'll have a very miserable life. All he wants is what's between your legs and no commitment.
2007-01-28 23:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you both sound like a mess.....you dated his best friend and then you dated him? good grief...... well he obviously didnt tell you everything about himself for the two months you dated.... you have no right to be mad that he didnt tell you, you dated his best friend... if you tell him that you know you may piss him off..... he obviously didnt want to be open with you before, why would he now? yeah you guys should get back together, two people who have no couth are a perfect match............good luck
2007-01-28 23:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is important, but so is honesty. If you are talking about getting back together gently bring up that this information has been brought to your attention and give him a chance to appologize. If he doesn't well, just forget about the loser, but if he really wants to get back together explain to him that your trust needs to be built back up.
2007-01-28 23:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have feelings for him than get back together if there isn't any magic then move on. If you don't to get back with him because of his daughter than Idon't know what to say. Hope for the best.
2007-01-28 23:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by twinkie girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably really likes u and is scared if u found out about the girl then u wouldnt go for him. forgive and forget. if he planned on marring u, wt would h do? hide her in a garage
2007-01-28 23:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by simplicity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your ex, move on with your life. Why should you be mad, it's the past?
2007-01-28 23:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget abt it, since he is already an ex .. cheating one somemore ..
move on for better guys
2007-01-28 23:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kiki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋