Im currently dating 2 girls(only havin sex with1) and i recently broke up with my long term girlfriend of 2 years last week because she was beginin to notice me "different" so i though the safe thing to do was to end the relationship. i know this might sound crazy but i feel i love them all and dont want to loose none of them. all three are especial to me. i dont know if this normal for a 20yr guy because i have cheated on my longterm girlfriend with more than 5 girls. do you think that as a get older im going to only stay with one or will i be like this all my life? also what should i do about my girls???? I need help!!!!please!!!
2007-01-28 14:50:45 · 22 answers · asked by superman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First things first.. you should go and hide all knives in your house, cuz if they find out you are three timing them, you will need to be physically safe.
Secondly.. whether or not you will be like that the rest of your life is entirely up to you. Only you can make the decision to cheat on someone, and if you truly love them, you would be able to resist the urge and stay faithful.
You say you are only having sex with one girl right now. You should cut off sex entirely with all of them until you make your decision. Also, go for an STD test RIGHT AWAY.
If you want to be in a long term relationship, pick your one girl and stick with her. Be honest with the other two and cut them out of your life. If you cannot decide, try being honest with all three about the current situation and see which one sticks by you.
I'm willing to bet you will be entirely alone and wonderin what the f*** happened to you.. Grow up and keep your pecker in your pants until you can learn to control it.
2007-01-28 15:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the key to every relationship. How would you feel lif you found out your girlfriend cheated on you? Well, in the law, you really can't marry more than one chick, so really, think about what you really want. Of course, now, you're totally involved. If you really love somebody, you will be true with that person & won't need anybody else BUT that person. Communication is also essential. I HAVE cheated before, and I told my boyfriend asap because I didn't want him to found out any other way and because he trusts me, and though we're not together anymore, we still talk and we still love each other. So be honest with who you are with. To me, when I'm with somebody I can truly connect with, it's like I don't even have to do anything physical & we could just talk about anything and everything forever. Think about that: is it just the sex or is it for real? Take a break from the sex. Take some time to think about which girl you really need, which one you really love. It won't be simple; two years is a long time, so dating right away might not be the best way to go; you could end up hurting yourself, so be honest with yourself. Be honest with your girls. Tell the two girls you are dating at the moment that you just got over a long-termed relationship & if they ever ask if you have cheated, don't lie, but never cheat again. Continue seeing them both until you figure out which one you like more, or if it really in fact is that you are still gaga for your ex. There's no wrong way to feel, so figure out which girl you want and do what your gut tells you to. Good luck maw man =)
2007-01-28 15:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mighty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that want it all are egotistical and self-centered. You really need to wake up and realize you are really hurting each and everyone one of these women. You cheated on your long term girl 5 times? Havent you learned your lesson at all? You don't know the meaning of the words loyalty.
I highly suggest you break up with ALL of these women and just fly solo. You like the attention, not the people. You can't do this to everyone. If you just want sex and attention, but cant commit, find a friends with benefits situation. Reexamine the word monogamous and exclusive for your next relationship.
2007-01-28 15:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yeah, i might experience a similar way. there's no want for that style of verbal substitute. And the actuality that they are the two disrespecting your desires for her to renounce calling/emailing/despite is extremely shady. If there grew to become into no longer something happening and that they weren't speaking approximately something approximately what befell between them, why no longer communicate in front of you? Why sneak around? Granted, it does not immediately advise that they are getting lower back together, inspite of the incontrovertible fact that this is totally disrespectful. My ex-husband did that to me extremely some situations together with his ex-lady buddy. they had do it in front of my face, yet God forbid I say something approximately it, much less consult with any of MY ex's. i ultimately blew up on him and adjusted the telephone extensive form. evidently, my marriage ended. If he's well worth it, get him to understand your perspective. If he refuses to grasp your desires (via fact they're broken up, there is only no want for it! i do no longer understand why they are no longer getting that!), then he's clearly no longer well worth it and rather ought to care much less approximately what you think of. Sorry, yet strikes communicate louder than words.
2016-09-28 03:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to make any type of commitment. stay clear of making them think you want more. as long as you make it clear to them that you don't want a relationship, then you're justified. as far as the future, who knows if you will find someone you can really commit to. unfortunately if this is the way you're starting than this is most likely the way u will continue. what you practice becomes your lifestyle. as far as the girls, tell them what's up, and then dedicate some time to getting your priorities in order.
2007-01-28 14:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by gracy808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 20 years old and you don't need to be in a commited relationship with anybody you're still getting to know you and deciding what you want but it's wrong to lie and cheat. Be honest with yourself and let the girls decide if they want to be intimate with you without a commitment. Otherwise you're leading them on only to break their heart. You don't want that karma to come back to you, believe me.
2007-01-28 14:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready for that one girl, that special girl that you will one day meet, you will know. You would not be on Yahoo asking is she the right one or are you right for her. You would not be wondering if you would cheat on her because you will know for sure that you want to devote all your love to just her.
Meanwhile, what the hell are you doing two timing?
LOL.
2007-01-28 14:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read first sentence.
your gone.
cheater.
having sex?
oh im sorry honey, but im cheating on you and im having sex with her.
not only that we havent done it yet.
seems like you have two girls.
ones sexually
ones romantic.
if anything chose the romantic one.
cheaters dont get to keep two girls all there life.
try getting married,
wonder how hard that would be?
2007-01-28 14:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg, theres this song that says "sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same" and i think you need to let all of them go until you figure yourself out, otherwise you're being selfish, and you may end up hurting them, if you love all of them, you'll want the best for them, and letting all of them go until you can pick one is the right thing
2007-01-28 14:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first, im sure its not love if there are three women. most likely its lust. second, if you cheat on a girl more than five times you do not love her. how can you love someone and do something that would break their heart and their trust?
2007-01-28 15:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋