Do you think getting married at age 21 is too soon???

Question

Both of us have a well established job, we are both in the military so thats already promised finacial stability.

Answer 1

It all depends on the people. Some 21-year-olds are very mature. On the other hand, some 30-year-olds are very immature. It doesn't hurt to just wait a little bit longer before getting married, especially if you still haven't graduated from college. There are a lot of life-changing experiences at this stage of your life, and you might find that it makes you (or your significant other) change as a person in a way that drives you apart. If that happens, you'll be glad you didn't marry. If it doesn't, you'll be all the more certain that you're ready to get married. Good luck!

Answer 2

I got married at 21. Now I have 2 kids and a husband that turns 40 this year and I'm only 27. If I could give you once piece of advice it is to wait. Use your 20s to find out who you are and what you really want to do with your life. Otherwise you might feel trapped and isolated. But go with your heart. I wouldn't change a thing, however it makes the challenges a lot harder when you take on too much responsibility too quickly.

Answer 3

I don't think it's too young. I think if you know in your heart that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then you should do it. Age is just a number... what you feel inside is what counts. Now I'm 20 and I want to get married but I'm not financially stable. If you think your set and your ready then I think you should go and marry him. Just don't have kids for a few years so that you don't overwhelm yourself. Enjoy the married life first. And no matter what don't give up. People need to earn their divorces, it is not just a quick-fix.


I wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 4

So hard to say, it just depends on the people involved. For me I was ready, but it didn't happen and I'm so glad, I had lots to learn yet and the guy ended up being a jerk! So then I ended up getting married at the age of 26 and it is great, couldn't be better actually. So if you are ready then do it - just be sure of the person, the age doesn't really matter if ya'll are sure... :)

Answer 5

I believe that it is highly likely to be too soon. I changed profoundly between ages 20 and 30. I became religious; I switched churches; I figured out my political beliefs; I decided to pursue a career different from my college major; I moved across the country, etc etc etc

In some rare cases it can work, but if it's going to work then you don't need to rush it now. Besides, you'll have a nicer wedding if you wait until you're both older and have some income. ;)

Good luck

Answer 6

I am 22 and getting married this August. I also have friends who got married when they were 19 and they are the most perfect couple and have a great relationship. There is no right or wrong age to get married. Follow your heart.

Answer 7

it might depending on the type of person you are and the type of person he is i got married at 18 and i was fine with it but not my 19 year old husbandd it didn't work but now i am 22 and getting married again and totally fine with but this time my husban will be a well established 26 year old army officer who has experienced life and more ready to settle down now and believes in the sanctity of marriage which i think will make the difference in our marriage

Answer 8

no. However it does depend on the circumstance.
I believe if you have found the person you know you are going to marry and can deal with the responsibilities that follow than do it. Getting married young will be hard but I believe that will make a marriage strong. Many couples that chose to wait until their own personal lives are in order (ie. done with school, career, financially stable) never learn to deal with hardship together and therefore when trials do come they give up or fight a lot.
Not saying getting married older is bad but waiting when you found your mate is. (remember just my opinion).
Also, if you are a Christian the Bible says that some people are meant to be single but those that can't wait shouldn't. It is terrible to be lusting or longing to marry your girlfriend/ or boyfriend when you know that he/or she is the person you want to spend forever with.
Besides in the past people got married way younger. The key is: relationships are hard, they require a lot of time and attention but don't give up. A lot of people are divorcing when they can't deal with each other anymore or they aren't in love anymore. But reality is you may not be in "love" everyday, you make be ticked off at your spouse but true love isn't that mushy, kiss, head over heels, stuff TV says. It is Your best friend, the one you want to wake up to every morning, the one who you may hate for crashing the car but inside you are overjoyed by the fact that he is alive, You may have kicked him out the bed but you still wish he was next to you later that night.
I am 18 and getting married. My parents set a terrible example for me but I know this man is the one I want to spend forever with. I have known many young couples and have learned that I need to rely on God and surround myself with good women to teach me.

Answer 9

Yes, I do. Your brain isn't even done developing until your mid-20s!
Best to complete post-secondary education, get a job, move out on your own and live in reality - paying bills, doing volunteer work, saving money, having fun - get some life experience under your belt first. Then one can bring a mature, educated, better self to another in a relationship.

Answer 10

Wait until you are at least 30 Your not mature enough yet. You will regret getting married so early. People who get married early dont really think the whole marriage thing through, I mean do you have any idea how to handle a marriage if things go wrong? Do you know that a marriage is a partnership and that you have to make sacrifices? That marriage isnt easy street that it takes a lot of work and commitment? Do you know how to balance marriage,/kids/ careers? Do you know that divorce isnt the answer every time something goes wrong?