What is a bride to do when her father and step father don't get along? How can I make this wedding work?
2007-01-28 14:44:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should sit down with each of them and explain... look, my father is going to walk me down the aisle, and he's going to sit next to mom, and step-dad will be on the other side of mom. For the sake of my wedding, would you please keep your issues with each other put aside for my wedding and reception. I love you both and want you both there. Please for my sake, if you have to, just don't speak to each other, but don't bring your issues to my wedding. Please don't ruin this for me.
I'm sure they both love you and for your sake can keep themselves civil at your wedding, as long as you lay it out prior to the wedding that you're not going to put up with anything from either of them. Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-01-28 14:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where your question leads? Are you worried about them being at the wedding together or walking you down the isle? In truth they should set aside their problems for that day. You need to talk to them both alone. Let them know you're worried their issues might ruin your wedding day. You may even want to have your mom and step mom ( if there is one) walk you down the isle to avoid trouble. If you have an uncle or brother you could ask one of them too. Even a grand parent. Still you have to let them know how much this concerns you. Tell them it would mean the world to you if they could stay civil for that one day. If they love you as fathers should they should be able to act like adults for one day. I'm no expert so I could be horribly wrong. Nevertheless it's your day and they have a life time to hate each other .
2007-01-28 22:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that it is your day to shine! Nothing should bring you down on your wedding day! Make sure they aren't sitting next to each other at the wedding because that will cause problems. Talk to both of them and try to convince them not to cause a scene just this once! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-28 22:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can walk your ownself down the aisle or have them both or have your Mom or tell them if they can't be nice not to come this is your day your wedding it is not a day for you to stress if your guests are getting along they need to be their for you not against each other
Have a very Happy wedding you deserve it
2007-01-28 22:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad when the two don't get along. But... if it is a case of just "not getting along" they will be able to be cordial and civil for one day - your special day. They don't have to be best buddies, or sit together, or do anything together. I think you will find that they both love you and would not let their differences spoil your day.
2007-01-28 22:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it is for them to make it work!! If they both love you they need to come up with a compromise and present to you!! Your Mother should truly be handling this situation!! You do not need this stress. I suggest you talk with your mother and have her to handle it!! Just tell her your concerns and tell her you are leaving it in your hands and you want to know what the resolutions is and I suggest you leave it like that and if the resolutions is not what you expected!! Just understand the only person you should be looking for is your fiance.
2007-01-28 23:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY are the ones who need to be going out of their way to make sure they are being on their best behavior for YOU, not the other way around. Enjoy your day and dont let anyone or anything come in the way of that. If they respect you, they will make the day about you, not them.
2007-01-29 08:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax.
it's not about your father or your step father. it's all about you and your soon to be husband.
if they can't just grin and bare it for a few hours, then they don't need to be there in my opinion.
my wedding went pretty smoothly...considering my husband and my step father don't get along AT ALL!!! lol
but i didn't care, it was our day. and my dad understood that if he couldn't support me for ONE day, then i didn't want him there. in the end, it was a great day, and my dad gave me away like he should have. nobody fought, and we all got HAMMERED!!!!!! lol.
2007-01-28 22:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to them to make your day work. I think you could speak to both of them and tell them that you love them both and that you hope they can put their differences aside for one day to insure that your wedding day is everything you have always dreamed of. Good luck!!
2007-01-28 22:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not for you to mediate. Hopefully they will be mature, and maybe your mom can help out with dealing with them. You decide what roles you want them to play, and hope for the best.
2007-01-29 06:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋