I have difficulty understanding people?

Question

When I was attending this church I had alot of problems getting along with them. When I was doing well I got stabbed in the back and mocked. Now that I no longer attend people are all about wanting to be my buddy and asking me to come back to church. I don't want to go back because I know it will be just like it was before. The more I stay away the better I am treated. But as soon as I return it will be back to the backbiting and slander just like before. Why do people behave this way? Just like when I asked a woman in the church for a date; she turns me down. But when I left the church she's all about wanting to get to know me. I can't understand this kind of behavior. You either like someone or you don't. I know I should find another church to go to. But that was my home church. That is the very place where i started a relationship with God. Its hard for me to just go somewhere else.

Hey r u Randy you should take your own advice. Its "Cool" not "Kool" unless you are talking about Kool Aid. I'm sure you must drink plenty of it since its obvious in your spelling. Nothing you said had anything to do with the question that I asked. If you don't believe in God, DON'T ANSWER!!! Its that simple. Go find an Atheist catagory to post in.

No Tim I don't use drugs and I'm really a pretty quiet person. I don't really give anyone a reason to dislike me. It just happens. People enjoy getting things started I guess. Its a fun game for them.

Answer 1

Would you say that they're two-faced... hypocritical... intolerant of differences... control freaks... ? Well brother, they're your kind, aren't they? - you figure it out.

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POST SCRIPT to HIlary H: Have you tried using the spell-checker function lately? It's KOOL and it makes you seem smarter than you really are when everything you type comes out correctly spelled.

Answer 2

you sound confused. thats not an insult, just an assumption. I'm feeling there may be more here than you're letting on. You asked a woman out on a date & she turned you down. Could have been a dozen reasons why. Dont hold it against her. Many people dont like to date within their church.
They treat you better when you stay away. If you stay away, how can they treat you good or bad? Maybe your behaviour needs tweaking; are you trying too hard to be liked? Are you an asshole at heart, but kinda likeable so they tolerate you & actually miss you in a way, but when you are around, get annoyed quickly? Are you using drugs that would alter your perception of the way they are responding to your presence? Are drugs altering your perception of yourself? Ask your self questions like these; only you know the real answer. Maybe it is time to find a new church. It could be a sign to follow your destiny. Something better may be waiting down the road. heres an idea; talk to your pastor about it, thats what they are there for

Answer 3

Oh go back to Church. There's always room for one more sinner. I know what you mean though. It usually seems like the weirdest people in the world are the Church goers but, we are the ones that need him the most I guess. I have noticed that at parties and stuff the people who seem to have the best time and the most fun and who are the nicest, funniest guys are the ones that are outside smoking and drinking. Go figure huh? I really think Jesus would have been out there alot with them too as long as there was not any nasty conversation. He really liked the regular every day people and not the snobs so just keep a stiff upper lip and go back to Church. Try to put up with the weirdness because that's something that Christians do too.

Answer 4

Have you really read the bible I love the part about the tower of bable where it says god saw it knew it was ment to reach up to god and came down for a look. When god noticed that the people were communicating and getting along god mixed up the languages to make communication harder. There are many examples of this if you truley believe none of this matters, if you do not look within or at other religions, many same similar things but worship differantly. How you treat others and your self is the most important, respect in all things. I may feel the way I do about the bible because of my own experiences and my own research, Manily I hate hipocrates and have met some of the worse ones in church. Other people just look into other christian churches for one that feels right and has more people willing to be openminded. If you really believe do not let the people make life a misery just look for other churches.

Answer 5

A church is a building just like a school. What's important are the people and activity within the building itself. You choose a school because the teaching staff is good. You should use the same criteria for a place of worship. Choose based on what actually takes place inside the building and whether or not the people are of like mind and behavior. Or...

Why not simply take a walk and marvel at creation? What better way to get closer to your god then by honoring what you have been given?

Answer 6

You may have emotional attachments to this church, but you can draw nearer to God within another church. Having a community of believers and fellowship with other Christians is important for spiritual growth. If your made to feel worse by attending, this is a huge problem!
We are all sinners. Church is full of sinners! The people you attended with have some issues and priorities that are a little off track. I'm sure they have the best intentions, but you are not a toy to be played with. You aren't a prize to be won over by one of them. You are a child of God and should be made to feel this way.
Jesus loved us all despite our sinfulness. If you feel less love and more degraded while in church you either need to find a new one or find other people within your church to look to.

Answer 7

I find it fascinating that you are talking about churchgoers. Backbiting, slander and backstabbing? Wow! Having never been to such religious "socials" I am amazed at the hypocrisy. My advice is that you and God can get along just fine without everybody else's input with their two cents worth of faith. Maybe church was where you started your relationship with God, but I would think that God would be more likely to be close to you far from the madding crowd.

Answer 8

Some people actualy WAN'T to be your friend because they find it naughty fun to pick fun of random people....even if you have known them for 4 years or more. Some people are anberrased to be with you, but when they are out,or away, from the thing there getting enberased about they are your best friend....if none of the people you know are like that then let me know and i'll ask around. Ttly

Answer 9

hey! same thing to me!
but seriously they never talked to me again.

what i do is i just go over in the corner.
and have a girl that TALKED stop me in the parking lot afterwards.

good sign...!
but still.
go in the corner and they will be curious of why your not wanting to be with them...
i was in life teen so it was all teens in a couple pews.


i'd rather not ask this wuestion under yahoo answers u mean its a good question, but alot of these people are basically horny guys that dont care about church whatsoever.

todays soceity dont you love it?

go to church.
but not for or with your "friends"

Answer 10

People can be strange (rude, ignorant bums) sometimes. But it sounds like this is an opportunity for you to really improve your relationship with God. You're about to start your quest for a new church family and find out where you fit in. It may take years. But during the process of looking a lot of different perspectives will come your way to analyze, understand, disect.

Not all people are in our lives permanently. Sometimes they're put there as a stepping stone for us to grow. Don't be angry with them, just move on with your search. Greet them with pleasantness everytime you see them. And if they ask you to come back just say "yeah, maybe I will. thanks"

Good luck.