Awful time coping w/ an ex. Our relationship ended 6 mo.ago. When we were together he showed much interest,?

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called me every minute he had,I met his family, told me he loved me & couldnt be w/o me.But he had a depression problem &I helped him through ALOT,like his feelings of suicide, it was an ongoing issue.He finally confided in me he had a child w/ a one night stand bf we met.He wanted nothing to do them,bc he didnt want achild w/her,he didnt care or respect.Eventually he wanted to meet the child,& I told him he of course he should.Well, he developed feelings for the mom and ended our relationship.But whats worst,she called me & told me he told her that he wasnt attracted to me & that he never loved me.When I confronted him,he said some of it was true some wasnt.I believe he said these things bc he wanted to be with her.But how can he do this to someone that was there for him through so much.He hurt me so badly.I feel i'm very attractive,im sorry,but this girl is trash,looks&personalityI feel used,degrated&feel very low about myself,very sad and angry. We are 29 yrsold.I feel very emptynow

Answer 1

Im sorry to here this. That girl was very rude and I doubt that whole love thing was a joke. I believe the only thing holding/keeping that relationship is the baby. I know it is hard! trust me. But all will be well, I know better said than done. Its hard to continue , but remember this always. YOU ARE IMPOTRANT AND BEAUTIFUL! and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Try to come to terms with the lost , do not try to bury it. Confide ina close and reliable Friend. who can help u through this rough time.

Count your dissappoints as a blessing.
You never know what the future hold. Ill pray for you.
He never knew what he had till he lost you. Remeber, they all come running back, maybe not right away , but he will.

GOOD LUCK!!!

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Answer 3

It's so hard to do but don't believe anything he says. It may have sounded like he was sincere before but after seeing how irresponsible he is to get a child he doesn't want and then to want to end his own life, he can't take care of himself, OR a child OR you. If you've helped him through suicide he's going to be emotionally attached to you in a different way than love. He's taking other people's energy because he's empty himself. Looks like he'll be dumping his problems on the other girl that he should have stayed with in the first place. Don't envy her. You deserve better and she's in for plenty of misery.

Answer 4

You know that everything happens for a reason. You did nothing wrong and you were the better person. Always remain the better person in a situation believe me it paysoff sooner or later. Girl, your 29yrs old your smarter and much more mature than he is. I believe that things like this is a lesson in life so be strong and hold your head up high. yes, it might take you a while to forget about him but someone once told me that if you were with someone for 6yrs it takes about half the time to forget about that person and actually move on, in which in this case for ex.. would be 3yrs. good luck to you and remember your not the first person this happened to or the last.

Answer 5

I have to wonder what is wrong with his current lover that she would call you up and tell you all these things. Sounds like a competition between you two for the affections of this guy, who probably isnt' worth it. You invested a lot in that relationship, but it's over, and you wouldn't want that relationship back again either, even if he wanted to come back. My husband calls things like this a "knowledge bump" one of those terribly painful things in life that make you learn. You will have to experience your grief for that failed relationship, and then move on. You can't make him love you. In the meantime, it may be best to avoid contact with him, and if his girlfriend calls you back, ask her politely not to. You can be the adult here, even if she isn't. all the best to you.

Answer 6

I wont say the usual things like "follow your life" etc, because its not really that way. Its difficult to overcome a relationship like that. The only advice i can give you,is to concentrate on doing things you like most, and that you never did while you were with him. Go out with your friends (they are great in these moments!), have fun!Dont try to hook up with guys,for awhile. you wont be ready for it and it will only harm you more. try to do interesting things, get pretty,etc. You'll see that,in no time,you'll be feeling great!!
Take care of ur self!

Answer 7

He sounds like he needed your help and was being dependent on you. He might have liked the way you cared for him, more than he liked you as a girlfriend.

Guys will stay with girls they don't like until some one they think is better comes along. They are too scared to break up with girls otherwise.

That's what I have found out.

Answer 8

you need to move on he sounds like a bad person, you will be happy some day with a good man, leave all of that drama behind you, it will never end, she is just trying to get you upset, so change your number, or hang up on her if she calls

Answer 9

You dont need that guy. Time heals. Hold on and be stong. Surround yourself with friends and family who value you. Go out a lot but remember you are vulnerable...

Answer 10

Sorry that happened to you, but that's the way it goes sometimes. You fix and someone else gets 'em. Just move on. If that's how he really is, you can find better.