I have a boyfriend right...and I already told him that I will have sex with him, but we haven't done it yet. I thought about it and I really don't want to do it!! There are so many risks and plus I have to uphold my Christian values. How do I go back on what I said but still keep him as a friend???
2007-01-28 14:18:18 · 21 answers · asked by Kelly Lytham 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him the truth. tell him you're not ready yet and if he isn't understanding, he's not worth it.
2007-01-28 14:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by DivaHawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be pressured into having sex with your boyfriend. You should not have said that you will have sex with him if you dont want to continue on uphold your Christian values, because lying isnt upholding your Christian values. It was also a big tease for him and it just is not right to do that to someone. But, if he really cares about how you feel, he will understand how you feel about the whole situation. It will be hard and there will probably be a little bit of an argument, but he will probably understand. Or you can try differents things to get close without losing your virginity.
2007-01-28 22:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you listen to how you really feel inside, not on what you promised or what he is trying to make you feel. If you don't feel that it is the time, you need to let him know. I'm not sure if your a virgin still or not, but if you are, it's such a wonderful thing to share. I was pressured into sex when I was in high school and stayed my ground. This sounds very "motherly" but if you tell him honestly that you don't want to have sex and he isn't okay with it, then he isn't worth your time. Hopefully, he'll understand you're not ready and stay your boyfriend. Make sure you do what is good for you, not for him.
2007-01-28 22:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by glassflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I know I told you I would have sex with you, but since then I've reconsidered and I have decided that it would not be a good idea at this time. I have values and that would go against those values." If he doesn't stay with you or want to be friends after that, then he wasn't worth it anyway. There will be more guys in your lifetime, and you will find a gem.
2007-01-28 22:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Tell him you were thinking about it and honestly you think you really don't want to do it. Tell him to respect your decision. If he pressures you to submit to him, then might as well break up. If you do things which you really are not comfortable with, you will only have yourself to blame. Sex should be taken very seriously. In this modern times, it's very hard to go against peer pressure and what's in. Be honest to yourself. Have sex only with the right person and for the right reason. How do you know it's the right person? You will know it in your heart. He is the man who is willing to wait, who respects you, who wants to spend the rest of his life with you and wants you to be the mother of his kids.
2007-01-28 22:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by bethcelis88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him "no." If he really cares about you, he'll accept that and understand where you're coming from as a Christian and a woman. If he still pressures you, then he's not really worth it. He should respect you enough to know that it's your decision, and as a Christian, you want to wait until marriage. Hopefully he will understand that and respect it.
2007-01-28 22:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by beach_blondie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your not ready to have sex with him because of your christian values and you have the right to change your mind, if he don't understand than he not a friend.
2007-01-28 22:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him ! im a Christian 2 . if u loves u and not just want to hav sex with u he will be ok and will still date u . he will wait. trust me . plus u will live a life and not take any risks . best of luck !
2007-01-28 22:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
still keep him as a friend?
you mean hopefully still keep him as a bf.
i am soooo proud of you.
seriously.
im cathloc and i allready made that mistake,
guess what?
im single now.
ruined our relationship.
if it comes to ruining your relationship early before you break all your rules in life.
i forget the word.
i;d rather break up before i made a mistake.
other than breaking up because sex ruined your relationship.
do as all a favor and stick to your ____ motto?no?
if he want's sex then apparently he's to immatuer and not the one for you.
you have to let go.
don't have sex with him just to stay in this relationship.
please.
the soceity now days is opposite.
only a few good people out there now.
2007-01-28 22:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women change their mind all the time. If bf is not used to that yet, he'd best get used to it or live a miserable life.
I think it would be nice of you to inform him of your decision before the two of you get in the heat of the moment.
2007-01-28 22:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him u decided u wanted 2 wait. as every 1 says its a sacred thing. personally i think thats a bunch of bull**** but if u dont want 2 u dont have 2.
2007-01-28 22:40:45 · answer #11 · answered by confused_dazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋