How do I deal with out looking like a phsyco jealous girlfriend?
2007-01-28 13:47:13 · 15 answers · asked by viva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have never chosen a guy who works in this environment.
2007-01-28 13:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any girl who hits on a man in front of his girlfriend (if she knows they're a couple) is a skank. I am sorry, but that is the truth.
Any guy who has a girlfriend and lets girls hit on him without stopping them is just as bad. I don't even know which is worse: doing so in front of his girlfriend or behind her back?
How does your boyfriend respond? Does he stop them? Do you get the vibe that he's being a professional/courteous bartender who is helping to establish or maintain the ambiance of the establishment (which does NOT include wronging his girlfriend) or are you getting a vibe that there's more to the picture than professional demeanor?
You should also let him know (you probably already have) how you feel about that. This is a bar, not a movie set. He's not getting paid to make girls believe he's into them.
If he is receptive to that, then you're okay. If not, it's time to worry and perhaps time to reconsider your relationship with him.
Remember, professional demeanor or not, there are ways he can minimize that kind of contact. Does he seem to interact only when necessary (for example when bringing a drink to a customer) or does he hang out with these girls and chat?
It's a bar, not a dating service! Trust your intuition.
Even if they seem more attracted to him because he's "off limits" that doesn't justify any inappropriate behavior on his part.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 21:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him it shouldn't bother you, or dont go when hes working. If that wont work and you two are serious ask him to change jobs. I've wanted to pick up a part time job at a bar doing security on the weekends, but my girlfriend of 4 years says although she trust me she knows i flirt too much so she doesn't want me to do it. still haven't got the job yet cause I know it makes her more comfortable
2007-01-28 21:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Will W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If these girls know hes yours, tell them to back the f*** up (the girls in the bar when you are there). That doesn't come across as jealous pscyho, I think its reasonable
2. If you trust him don't make a big deal out of it
3. Just broach the issue with him subtley and ask him nicely to make it clear to these girls that he's taken because it makes you feel uncomfortable
4. He shouldn't put you in the position of feeling uncomfortable. Your concerns are reasonable. And to me I would again tactfully let him know that it would hurt your feelings if he flirted with other girls
2007-01-28 21:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about this yet? Just by bringing it up you're not hte psycho jealous girlfriend you're the concerned loving girlfriend. Since you trust him he probably trusts you also, so tell him that it bothers you and you two can work something out together.
2007-01-28 21:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by lilmissyme778 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you trust him? i mean really trust him? if so, leave well enough alone, and even start up a conversation with the other gals....like yeah i know he's nice looking, or he does have a great butt..............and just leave it at that............your problems will start when you stop trusting him....he works in bar...he's gonna flirt......as long as you are the one he is kissing on at the end of the night....i would not worry about it
2007-01-28 21:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you trust him I'd just take it as flattery. I mean a lot of girls must want your boyfriend but he's yours, how lucky are you then huh. They want to bring him home but you get to do that. If it really bothers you can ask him to politely decline and let them know he has a girlfriend, or maybe you could get him something or do something like get him a ring or something he could wear, kinda scare the ladies away. I dunno. I'd take it as a complement.
2007-01-28 21:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Will B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just gonna have to learn to trust him.thats the foundation of every good relationship..because girls hit on him doesnt mean he's gonna cheat on you, it just proves he looks good...if it is a case where he has cheated on you in the past...then...confront him with your fears
2007-01-28 21:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bloo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im having the same problem the other way around.i f thats your boyfriend u know he loves you and want only u. it really pisses me off that my friend couldnt understand that i make my money by people liking and flirting with me. stay home or party by yourself some where else. he gotta make his money. can u help me to understand why yall feel this way. answer my question please
2007-01-28 21:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by the truth, do you hear me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you trust him, then what is the problem?...Just look at it this way, you have him and they don't!!!
2007-01-28 21:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋