I was discharged from the Army about a month ago and my boyfriend is still in but he is in training so I can't move with him until he gets permanent party status. He won't be out of training for 5 or 6 months. We plan on getting married soon, but it is hard to be away from him for so long. I talk to him every night, but I am scared that I will lose him...
2007-01-28 12:51:38 · 13 answers · asked by Bad_Boy_Lover_4_Life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a biggy. I just got through babysitting for my best friend today whose husband is out to sea. She really needed "down time". Three kids and they've been married for 15 years. There are days when my jaw drops and I cannot believe the things she does in 24 hours without him there and only talking by email and satellite phones.
If you've gone so far as to say you're engaged, well, you won't lose him unless you decide you don't want to live where he's to be stationed. I don't know why you feel like you're going to lose him, unless he's done something to make you not trust him in the first place.
You're talking to him every night? That's a great testament to the relationship. This may sound a little nuts but you may want to try taking a few, um, "sexy" shots of yourself and email them to him. It'll turn him on and make him think about what, and who, he wants to get home to....
Good luck and blessings to you. Thank you for defending the greatest country in the world.
2007-01-28 13:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in long-distance relationship too and i know how hard to keep the relationship! Trust him and yourself. Work hard or study some things new, go to gym... to spend your time. Always busy will help you forget the time and scare of lose him. Also positive think that this is the challenging time for your love and you will respect more your love when you be together!
2007-01-28 21:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes, you cant be taken unless you want to be. You love him right? Obviously, as you want to get married. So in your own heart you have all the trust in the world for him. So If he does leave you he was never worth it in the first place, and he was taken because he wanted to be. Given that you have said you both want to get married and you were there together im sure you will have nothing to worry about, hon it will be ok. the more you think he will cheat etc the more you will become parr thus you will start pushing him away. chill girl all will be cool
2007-01-28 20:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations!!!
Secondly, it is really up to the two of you to make this work. You already know that this situation is out of his control...and you made a choice to be with him. So...you have to ask yourself "Can you handle it?" It is only a few months...and if it is true love it will wait. I am sure that it is hard to be away...but again..you knew that coming into this relationship. I wish you luck...and if you decide that you can't handle it do the both of you a favor and call it quits...that way neither one of you waste time. Good Luck---lots of people in the military make relationships work....I am sure you can too!!!!
2007-01-28 20:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got of the army then you know all the problems that go with it. It will not be the last time you will be apart. If you got the money, move to where his training for six months.
2007-01-28 20:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I go to different colleges in different states so we usually try to talk to each other every night. Make sure you have a high enough trust cause thats the area that will ruin your relationship
2007-01-28 20:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by msX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep the communication lines open and you guys will be fine. Remember that true love can rise above distance, heartaches and time. There's no need for you to be scared of losing him. Love will find its way thru all hurdles and obstructions. Be focused.
2007-01-28 21:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by bethcelis88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is in the navy reserve working in another state. Our love is real I am not worried. On the other note, my husband who I am separated from, was in the military too. He was a bit much. He showed his azzz in Fort Hood. I left him several yrs ago and never looked back. Well the way I see it, real love can stand strong no matter what. What we had was imitation. Think about it...
2007-01-28 20:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by sunshinesmoothoperator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been 400 miles apart from my boyfriend for over 7 months, and it is possible. It won't be easy, there is little else you can do besides talk, but if you are both faithful and you BOTH WANT IT TO WORK then it will, that's all you need.
2007-01-28 20:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a friend that got married 1 month before he went away and they stayed together .good luck
2007-01-28 20:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by therernonameleft 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋