Here's the thing, we met through the phone b/cause of a friend of mine that met him chating on line. She wasn't interested b/c she is to old for him so she introduced us through the phone instead. Now, in our 1st conv. he was already asking me to be his girlfriend, then he started asking me that he wanted me to move in with him, all within the same week and while he still not seen me in person yet! While this whole is happening, he is constantely calling like every 40 minutes asking me how am I doing, and asking why haven't I called him..... bla, bla, bla! It wouldn't stop! So I actually stopped calling, and he still calls like once or twice a week asking me why haven't I called him, and if I don't want anything else with him. A few minutes ago I had my sister tell him that I had gone out because he just wouldn't stop calling the house. When she did tell him, he asked with whom I had gone to the movies with.My question is,how can I make it any more clear to him that I'm not interested?
2007-01-28 12:39:16 · 26 answers · asked by denisse1515 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know why you can't make it clear? Because you are using the coward's way out. You are avoiding him. You have left some nice hints, but you haven't just been a woman and said "Hey, I am just not interested in taking things to that level with you." He even asked you if you didn't want anything to do with him. Just tell him for goodness sakes. You sound like you don't want to hurt him, but that is exactly what you are doing. Don't be a game player.
2007-01-28 12:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. You've got quite the problem. Not only because you have an obsessed male calling you frequently but also because he appears to be the jealous type. (the asking who you were with)
Well, you can do one of two things. You can lie and tell him that you're busy every time he calls. Keep this up for a little while untill he eventually becomes less attached and then you can tell him that you've met someone else or that you just wanna be 'friends'.
OR, you can just flat out tell him that you feel extrememly uncomfortable with his behaviour and that you're not interested in continuing the relationship that you currently have with him. (which to him is a good one)
2007-01-28 12:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be up front with him and the next time he call's just plainly tell him your not interested in him at all he is someone that likes to move way to fast and you have opposite feelings about that. Good Luck and just be straight forward and hopefully if he isnt that much of a stalker he will realize and stop calling you. Other wise block his number by calling your phone company it cost a few dollars but it will most likely be worth it. Hope this helps.
2007-01-28 12:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are often too nice to weirdos like this. He is more than bad news, honey.
Don't be nice. tell him directly that you want nothing to do with him. If he calls after that tell him you will take it up with the police.
The only way to get a restraining order (suggested above) is if you can prove stalking. For that, you must tell him to bug off and he must be harrassing you pretty heavy, but the police would be the last word on that one.
Don't let him continue in this. It can get much worse if you don't take quick action. he sounds REALLY creepy, honey. Keep your eyes open and be careful.
2007-01-28 12:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to your local police department and get one of those things delivered to his mother house asking for him not to come more than 500 ft near you and absolutely no phone calls, don't tell him just sendthepolice and tell your friend you will find your own men from now on, is she really your friend hooking you up with mister Nobody,. Never let a man move in with you anyway, look for someone with something to offer, you deserve that
2007-01-28 12:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word...CREEPY!
You didn't mention how old you are or how old he is, but this guy is acting WAAAAY too familiar with you.
Be VERY firm and clear with him. Tell him "I want you to stop calling me. I do not want to talk to you any more. If you continue to contact me, I will consider it harrassment and I will contact the local authorities."
You can contact your phone company to see about blocking him from calling you. You may end up having to change your phone number to an unlisted one.
Seriously - this is STALKER behavior. I'd get his name, address, and all the info I could on the guy and head down to the police station if it were me.
2007-01-28 12:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by zoni_tonya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try to be more aggressive with him not mean at fist but just tell him that your not interested in him the same way he is you. your flattered just not interested is all. and that you would like him to stop calling all the time or just stop calling period. if he keeps calling tell him that you don't want to but if he keeps calling you call the police and press charges for phone harassment
2007-01-28 12:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by lilbluemaninmyhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend was wrong for setting you up with this crazy nut maybe that why she didn't want him herself. Just tell him your not interest in him to move on and stop calling and if he don't tell him you going to report him to the police
2007-01-28 12:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want a relationship now, this guy seems a little crazy. Just ignore him, and hopefully he will get the hint, if he crazy, take legal action, but if he normal, then you need to let him know what is up. Leave me alone, and Ignore.
2007-01-28 12:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth. Tell him that you don't want him to contact you anymore. Let him know that you mean business. If it continues I would get help from the police. It could get dangerous. You donlt knwo anything about this guy. Be careful....make sure he doesn;t know where you are, where you work etc. He sounds like hes got some problems...Be careful!
2007-01-28 12:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋