okay...im a freshman in highschool who likes this girl. we talk alot about stuff and eat lunch together every day and play soccer after school. we even study together with friends and stuff. the bad news...she has a boy friend. we talk about him alot to and she is uncertain about him. he really likes her but she doesnt think she likes him any more. this wknd me and her and 2 ofher friends went to da library to study. later we went for shakes and nachos and she bought mine cuz in broke. later it was just me and her at the library and we were writing on a peice of paper. i ask her about her bf and she said she was thinking of breaking up wif him. then i told her that i liked her. she then said that prbly wasnt good cause she has a bf and now dat she knows dat i like her it makes her think about breaking up wif her bf even more. i told her to do wat makes her feel right. was telling her how i felt a bad thing? or do u think she likes me(lunches, soccer, studying)???help!!!
2007-01-28 12:35:25 · 27 answers · asked by soccerfancmac1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like she likes you, BUT you do not want to get involved with her until she takes care of this boyfriend. Either she is with him or she isn't. I understand your telling her how you feel, but now you need to back off. The ball is in her court. Continue with your friendship and leave things alone as far as the boyfriend goes. If she breaks up with him, I am sure she will make sure you know.
2007-01-28 12:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh well...telling her how you felt was a good thing, but with bad timing. when she was thinking about her bf and wanting to break up with him, she would hafta consider that if she did break up with him, you might make a move on her and she would have to turn you down or start avoiding you. (i'm afraid that she only likes you as a friend)
I guess the best thing you can tell her is that youre willing to stay as her friend and that if she doesn't, you understand (even if you dont)
keep trying if you want, but give her more time until this bf thing is over
2007-01-28 12:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though this girls situation is complicated enough. If you know she is in a relationship you should respect that now. You should give her time to make her own decision. Furthermore, in high school it is probably a good idea to go out with a bunch a people and just have a good time. I am sure that there are a lot of girls at your school. some have to be single and attractive/nice. This isn't the only girl you can talk to. If you go out and are sociable you will meet lots of girls.
2007-01-28 12:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by blankbush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she did say that you having feeling for her wanted her to dump her bf more, right? If she didn't like you,do you think she would have said that? She probably likes you and you just need to play it cool and wait. Pushing her into breaking up with him would be the wrong thing to do, but you can't sit on your butt and miss your chance.
So, you need to wait until she dumps this guy and then ask her after a few days. If she likes you, which it seems like she does, then she'll probably say yes!
2007-01-28 12:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Phyliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're at a tough age right now, and being confused is pretty much part of the teenage experience.
Keep doing what you are doing - be her friend. You aren't pressuring her to make any choices...you just let her know that you like her. The ball is still in her court.
It might not seem like it, but I think you're handling things very well...so keep on being her friend, and let things happen the way they happen.
2007-01-28 12:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by zoni_tonya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it was a good thing...
Persue it...
she obviously has feelings for you if she said "now dat she knows dat i like her it makes her think about breaking up wif her bf even more"
Hang in there
2007-02-05 12:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think telling her how you feel is a good thing. She might actually feel the same way. I would suggest taking her out to lunch, to make up for the food she bought you, plus you can spend some time alone with her.
2007-01-28 12:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds like she has a thing for you. Girls sometimes take a while to make up their minds...so be patient. Girls also have a habit of thinking if the guys feelings. So she may not leave him because she doesn;t want to hurt him. You sound like you really like her, so keep trying. Just don;t be too pushy or you'll oush her away. Girls under pressure sometimes make the wrong decisions. Girls also like a guy that plays a little hard to get. Good Luck!!
2007-01-28 12:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she likes you but she doesn't want that to be the cause of her breaking up with her bf - you need to let her work this out for herself - you telling her that you like her is just putting extra pressure on her - just back off a bit and let her make her own decision - Afterwards you can do whatever you like
2007-01-28 12:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she appreciates your friendship and would like it to remain that way...and even if she does break up with the b/f you so do not want to be rebound boy/oh,crap he's my best friend- that would be way awkward and could cost your very friendship as is. Its great that you were honest...but if she's not doing anything with that info,just hang tight and continue being that friend to her...she'll appreciate you much more.
2007-01-28 12:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by justsayin... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋