how to improve your self-esteem?

Question

my boyfriend just broke up with after 8 months and i feel like crap what is some of the best ways to be happy agian and to encrease my self esteem? please help me

Answer 1

i kno how u feel. im in the same square as you

there are a lot of things you can do for yourself right now. the best thing is to get excersise. karate really helps, especially when you get to punch or kick someone. sorry something -_- . take some classes and then, after you kno the basics, do some by yourself in the park or something. its important cause when ur depressed or down, you end up eating more. to avoid getting fat, you hav to excersise. also when u excersise, ecpecially with karate or gymnastics, it releases postive hormones that lift up ur mood. karate also helps you to be more confident( ive had experience w/ it)

friends r sooo important right now. i only hav 1 close friend right now, but i only see her once a week. i cant talk to her about things like this because she wouldnt understand. if you hav close friends, you should really talk to them about this.

yell, scream, punch the wall. break something and stomp on it. it really does help. then sit down on the floor and cry. cry it all out. say that you hate him, even if u dont. say that u dont need him, even if u do. listen to sad songs for 1 or 2 days and sing and act them out. if u want to cry, cry. take one of ur favourite shirts, fold it, and hug it really tight. if ur Chritian or Catholic, pray to God for healing. it feels soo good.

over all, be yourself. dont let some jerk who doesnt deserve you destroy your life. forget him and pray that if u do ACCIDENTALLY meet him, u dont spit in his face or something.

Answer 2

Focus on what you have and not on the loss. You will be sad, of course, but pretend you aren't, do something, anything to change your focus, and soon you will be months beyond this moment in time. Sounds superficial, doesn't it...pretend to be happy, but research has shown that this works. If you have important things to do each day, and plan things if the day looks empty, you will soon be happy, and ready for the next wonderful man in your life.
He knew he was going to break up earlier, so he was strong doing it. It caught you by surprise, so of course, you hurt. But you can become strong again, and make him sorry he isn't with you. Sweet revenge. How sweet it was when my ex-husband got a woman pg, we divorced and he later called and said what a stupid mistake he made. Yep. The grass ISN'T always greener on the other side, but let him find that out. In the meantime, go to school, get more education, get a new hairdo, do something for YOU! Good luck. This too shall pass. .... thankfully..

Answer 3

just get used to being alone, or you could be pro-active in this situation. Believe it or not, exercise helps. If you get your heart rate up for about 30-45 minutes, the human body releases endorphines that really make you feel good. Also, do little things for yourself that build self-esteem. For example, work quickly, the accomplishment of a job builds self-esteem. I really hope that you will try these things and you will see that it really helps.

Answer 4

To help rebuild your self confidence, you need to focus on your attitude. Attitude is simply a state of mind. By focusing on the positives in your life, you can begin to feel better about yourself and life in general.

hen your self esteem is in the dumps, it's easy to beat yourself up and think of yourself as a failure. Replace all those self-defeating thoughts with affirmations of the person you want to be. List the things that you are good at, recount your past successes, and remember what people have said about you that makes your self esteem soar. Use words like "happy, strong, smart, resilient, ambitious" or whatever image that you would like to see yourself as. Review this list often to build your self esteem. Remember......... “As you think, so shall you be”.

It is also a good idea to spend time with friends that have positive self esteem. They can boost your mood and give you a different perspective on your situation. True friends always see the best side of you. When they give you a compliment, believe them. In return, don’t be afraid to compliment or do something nice for someone else. Doing for others can boost your self esteem by focusing outside yourself, knowing that you brought happiness to someone else.

Most of all, realize that you have choices in life. You can choose to be content with who you are now. Your inner peace, self esteem, and confidence in who you are determines your success, not what others think about you. Remember that you are a worthwhile person just as you are.

Answer 5

Definitely do not sulk by yourself..get out and have some time with your friends to get your mind off of things. Also try to realize that it's not the end of the world. You are a wonderful person and do not need someone to make you that. Just keep telling yourself that he lost someone amazing and begin your process of healing and moving on sooner than you'd like..like now. Put away the memories for good and enjoy life!

Answer 6

Rejection is always hard, especially when it comes from someone you care about.

You can help improve your self-esteem by treating yourself well. Some things you can try are making sure that you dress well, try to keep your home/environment clean.

If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, remind yourself of something about yourself that is positive.

Answer 7

There are certain steps that can make it easier for you to improve your self esteem. I posted a link below that has all the info.

I hope it can be helpful.

Answer 8

Go out with a few friends and be happy. Be around positive people. Weather good or bad friends they drag you in that way so be around positive thinking people. The more you do for yourself the better you will feel.

Answer 9

sorry to hear that...but your ex-bf shouldn't be a reason to affect your self-esteem. He's a jerk and he definitely don't deserve a special person like you. You should take it as a lesson and never ever let anyone put your self-esteem down.