i have had alot of guys want to go out with me but they aren't the ones i like how do i get hot guys if im not super skinny i have a few extra pounds i mean i think i have pretty face no acne or any gross stuff but no1 really notices me at school how can i change that o and another thing i don't dress girly i usaly wear black im NOT GOTHIC i swear but thats me how do i get alot of guys to notice me?????
2007-01-28 12:30:04 · 15 answers · asked by skater_gurl_rawks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also about my wieght it isn't easy for me to lose weight i am on weight watchers and i dance but i have PCOS polycystic ovarian syndrome so i have really trie to lose weight and i don't go out with the guys that ask me cause all they want is my money sad to say but true they are players they ask you out then go and makeout with other girls
2007-01-28 12:42:28 · update #1
One, stop looking for just 'hot' guys. Just because a guy is hot doesn't mean he is a good guy. Of course it doesn't mean he is a bad guy either. My point being that you can't always judge a book by its cover (I know, very cliche' - sorry) I realize that there has to be some attraction there, but at the same time I think you may be denying yourself other guys that you may be attracted because you aren't getting past what you consider your type to be. You may be missing some amazing opportunities for some really great boyfriends because you are only looking on the outside of people.
Also you have to put yourself out there a bit. Try to find some common ground with a guy you are attracted to and strike up a conversation. See what it feels like to talk to him.
You may try experimenting with your style a bit. i don't mean you have to completely change the way you look to match everyone else, but you may do something subltle like change the style or color of your hair or experiment with different types of clothes and such, though don't try to make yourself someone you are not. Be true to yourself, just open to trying new things. Case in point - I get easily bored with my hair so every so often I go from shoulder length to really short, or I will dye it a differet color. Just something fun to spice things up a bit. Don't worry about having a few extra pounds - a lot of guys would much rather that than a girl whose ribs you can see. I am not exactly a skinny minnie either. You just have to build your confidence a bit - self confidence is super sexy and does a lot to get people to take notice you. If the few extra pounds are an issue for them, then those aren't the people you want to date - that is a sign of someone who is shallow.
Most importantly, be yourself. You don't want to sell yourself as someone you are not. There will be some guy who will appreciate you for who you are whether it be for your quirky or wry sense of humor, your intelligence or any other qualities you may possess. Open yourself up to many possibilities, not just one. You may end up wth a hot guy who is a complete jerk and you don't want that. Be willing to consider all types of guys. You will find sometimes that what makes a guy hot isn't always just the way he looks, but who he is as a person and what qualities he posseses. For me, highly intelligent, witty guys are hot. Back when I was single, I dated guys of all types - short, tall, heavy, thin, long hair, short hair,practically no hair, clean shaven and fully bearded - the one thing they all had in common was the fact that they are highly intelligent. Now that I am married, a big part of what makes my husband sexy to me is the fact that he is smart, funny and compassionate . - I LOVE the fact that I can hold an intelligent conversation with him.
Good luck. I hope you find what you are looking for.
2007-01-28 13:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Ask the guy out or make the first move. Guys, like myself, ALWAYS notice that, and we always like girls who make the first move, because it throws that whole "Oh a guy has to make the first move in order to go out with me".
You'd be amazed at what you can do with a little bit of confidence, and the words to back it up. Trust me.
I like girls who have a few extra pounds, there's nothing wrong with that. If the weight question gets to them, chances are they aren't good people to ask out or hook up with.
Even though I'm a pretty muscular guy, I'm shorter than most. (I'm only 5'5"). But that doesn't stop me from getting in relationships. My girlfriend as of now has a few extra pounds on her, but she's smart and willing to hold an intelligent conversation while having fun. Big girls are great.
Just don't set your expectations too high, because one rarely gets that super hot chick or guy that the entire school notices or is very popular. Look for a guy who has more to offer than a nice body. Go for a guy who may look average, but has the mind of a god. Your relationships will be a lot better, and you'll find more guys who are willing to treat you like a queen rather than just a "Buck Fuddy", if you know what I mean.
2007-01-28 20:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Fuh Q. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you have had a lot of guys want to go out with you. So they are noticing you. The most important thing is to be yourself. Keep confident in yourself. If you aren't involved in any school activities that the guys you like are...get involved in them. The more they see you, the more they will notice you. Flirt if it is natural for you. But by flirting I mean be friendly, not sexual, because you don't want to be noticed because guys just think you are easy.
Just don't be anything you are not. Guys may become attracted to you if you put on an act. But they wont stay attracted to you if you are a phony.
2007-01-28 20:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cool with who you are - confidence is attractive. Smile, make eye contact, and be "real". If flowery dresses isn't your thing, don't try to put one on and be something you are not.
If there's a guy you like, go talk to him. Scary, I know, but it's been years since I've heard of anyone dying of embarrassment. ;)
Finally, don't be in any sort of rush to get into a relationship. It'll happen when it happens.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 20:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by zoni_tonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want people to look past your "Extra Pounds" but you don't want anything to do with the guys that are asking you out because they're not the "Hot" ones? If you want success in dating you should target the guys that are in you're league...or you can lose your extra pounds and become "hot girl" so you'll be notice by "hot guy". Got it?
2007-01-28 20:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by rubeninfl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are attracted to people like themselves. It's been shown in tons of studies that people seek others at a similarly physically attractive level. So go for people who you think are as attractive as you are, with similar interests.
Of course, dressing provocatively also usually goes over pretty well in general to attract men.
2007-01-28 20:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be noticed you need confidence. Doesnt sound like you feel beautiful in you own skin. Whatever it is that will show your smile and awsome personality is what will attract any guy worth anything. So if you want attention show your smile and be outgoing.
2007-01-28 20:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to attract a guy or to impress him.from my expriance some girls try to use lot of perfume to get my attention,some put lot of make-up or some are just sweet talker.you dont have to be hot.every guy have different taste:)and also remember DONT BE SHY, guys are not attractive to shy girls.Good Luck!
2007-01-28 20:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by born4mission 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. a lot of guys like me too but the one i have now is the best. i dont dress girly either and i dont have any acne or anything like that. just get to know the guys that you like and show them what sense of humor you have. just get to know them before you do anything, it's best to know the person first, because they may look good but they might act like an ***.
2007-01-28 20:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by monkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like girls with a few extra pounds
im not sure, you just have to be yourself and hope they come around
or if you see a guy your interested in, try to get their attention and go out on a date?
2007-01-28 20:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋