my bf was drunk while driving?

Question

my boyfriend was drunk while he was driving and he said it was my fault, that i had upset him by being quiet with him and he had to go out. he phoned to tell me that he was driving back, and then he's saying things like he might drive into a ditch or a tree. i hate what he was doing and i hate that he would blame me for 'making him' go and do it. i dont like conflict i would rather have a hug, but he's the storming out type.

what should i do?

Answer 1

Your bf sounds like he may have a problem with alcohol as well as anger issues. Blaming others for problems is one of the key components found in addictive personalities. If you were smart you would find a boy that would be more interested in loving you then blaming you. Sometimes we think that if we are good to people we can get them to change, but from experience I know this won't happen. Never drive with this guy and if you can try and break away fromt his relationship it will cause you nothing but sadness.

Answer 2

You should have reported him to the police. Perhaps he would have gotten some jail time. When Big, big bubba was finished with him he most likely would not be able to sit on a car seat ever.
With the information you have, which is, that your boyfriend has an antisocial disorder. That is a real nice way of saying that he is an addictive,domineering, controlling, good for nothing SOB.
Get rid of him immediately!!! If by chance he refuses to leave you alone, have your brother, father or a good friend break his fingers. If that does not convince him multiple fractures most likely will suffice.

Answer 3

It's not your fault that he drove drunk. It was his choice, and a stupid one at that. I doubt this will be the last time he blames you for something you have no control over, so don't feel guilty about it or anything that happens about it. I would talk to him about it though if I were you. Tell him what you're feeling because maybe he doesn't realize this. I am almost sure that he does know though, and this is why he's doing it, but there's a slight possibility that he doesn't.

Answer 4

You need to get out of that relationship, its headed for a bad outcome. Someone who does those type things and puts blame on you is NOT a good sign - let me tell ya honey. Down the road, he may even end up being physical with you. Sounds to me like a wolf in sheep's clothing. Stay away from that type person. Trust me - been there, done that.

Answer 5

Emotional blackmail is cruel and indeed a ploy to win over the other persons guilt. Your bf can choose to play the victim or take control of his life. Don't fall for the victim mentality or fool yourself into thinking you can "save him". Drink driving is stupid. I'm sorry you have a bf that cannot take responsibility. Storming off even suggests he cant deal with the truth. You sound a wise chic, think about what it is you want out of this relationship.

Answer 6

Tell your boyfriend he needs to quit drinking,quit blaming you when he does drink and seek help on anger management.
If he is unwilling then you have no alternative but to leave him and find someone who will give those well deserved hugs!!!!!!!!!!

Life is too short to waste time in a relationship where you are mentally and verbally abused.
Don't make his issues yours....................
He plays on your emotions with the "maybe I'll just drive into a tree" He's just trying to make you feel guilty so he can control you.
Call his bluff and call the police and tell them he is talking like he might kill himself......................
That'll Fix His Issues real quick!!!
Is he immature or does he have a drinking problem???

Answer 7

This guy is trying to lay a guilt trip on you so you will feel sorry for him. which makes him a needy control freak who is very immature.
as for driving while intoxicated it show his lack
of concern for the well being of others.
you have to ask yourself do you really want to be in this relationship. if you choose to stay with him promise me and everyone else who reads your question that you will never get in a vehicle with him if he's been drinking and that you will call the cops if you know he's on the road drunk. who knows maybe the life you save will be mine or those I love!

Answer 8

Realize that nobody makes anyone do anything, and how he chooses to handle conflict in his life is ultimately his doing. If he drives drunk then he's a danger to himself and anyone who might come across his path, so you should inform someone when he does this if you are unable to prevent him from driving in that condition.

Answer 9

This is not your fault ! Your boyfriend makes his own choices in life and needs to take responsibility for them.No matter what you do his reaction is his choice. I have to tell you .... heads up because this is a typical reaction of someone who is controlling and abusive ! If this is the case you need him gone from your life now before you're in so deep you feel trapped. Please be careful and don't stand for anything that doesn't feel right to you!!
Good luck : )

Answer 10

It was his choice to get behind the wheel. Were you there to twist his arm? My ex blamed me for getting a DUI because apparently I pissed him off and he got behind the wheel. He lost his license for 2 years. It's funny how when people screw up or make a bad decision, they always try to place the blame on someone else.

If his actions are not something you want to be subject to. then perhaps you need to look for someone else who will not bring such conflict to your relationship.