ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and up until 8 months things started going bad. like i started breaking up with him because i didnt feel anything anymore. we werent going out for a month. but after that month i started feeling for him again. so we started going back out again. about a month before out one year i started feeling like our relationship wasnt going anywhere because we have absolutely nothing in common and i always just got so frustrated with him. so the other day i broke up with him again. but not even 2 days later i feel like i really like him again. i have no clue why im feeling like this though? please help?!
2007-01-28 11:41:21 · 15 answers · asked by Julia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand i need to move on and ive dated other guys and i have other guys that really want to go out with me but its like i dont want any of them even after dating them.. i always just turn back to him. and i love it. but at the same time i hate it.
2007-01-28 12:01:55 · update #1
sounds like you are very young...If you really...really... liked him....you would not have these on...off....feelings.....Maybe you should just be friends...relax ....don't be in such a hurry........
2007-01-28 11:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really interesting, but what's happening is that you are having a certain withdrawal from being by yourself. Breaking up long term relationships is really hard, specially since when you decide both to split your ways, it's like going back to where you once began.
If you both have nothing in common and spend most of the time argueing and fighting, it's not a healthy relationship at all, and you both could go on like this forever, and there will be some serious time missed that you'll both regret.
It's really hard but unless you're both willing to reconcile and work out all the problems you're constantly on, then nothing right will come out of it. You need to be strong and decisive, and if you know already the answer and what's best for you in your life, stick to that idea, and just move on forward. Keep yourself busy at all times and try to clear your head and thoughts of him with other stuff.
Moving on is hard, but it's the only thing that gives you the comfort to believe in yourself again and find out what you really want in life and in love.
2007-01-28 11:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey julia i have been on the reverse end of this sitiuation and just want to let you know that you are really messing this guys head up. go longer , go a couple of months but just give some time in between. snap decisions are harmful. get out and see if there is something better. weigh ever option out and see how many differences there are and how many there are not. and remember that it takes two to make a realtionship to work. but no matter what you both need to be happy.
2007-01-28 11:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by jamie09racing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to be with him, but it's awkward being single, so you think you want to be with him. End it for good, and try to find another guy to distract you. It's the only thing that works for me.
I had a boyfriend who hates me now because I couldn't stand being off-and-on, and it took me two months to convince myself that I didn't want to be with him. I figured if someone I thought was "the one" didn't like me, I'd never have any luck. Eventually, I wrote out everything I wanted in a man (some superficial, some not), and I realized that I had a good guy friend who was exactly that. I don't think I'm going to get anywhere with him, but it helped me to gain a different perspective.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 11:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably try dating other guys. That would be hard at first but then you might find a guy you like. But right now you are feeling very confused. You don't know what to do so your emotions are starting to get in the way. Good luck!
2007-01-28 11:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has something attractive about him that makes you want him repeatedly, but those things are not enough to keep your relationship steady. If someones hopes, dreams, and hobbies are not in sync with yours you will always have an "empty-going-noplace-feeling". You probably enjoy him as a friend, but not all friends make great bf's. I would just be a friend to him. Start looking for someone new, someone who will give you want you want.
2007-01-28 11:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really care for him, but he is your safety net. If you keep bouncing back just because you don't want to be alone you are not being fair to him or yourself. MOVE ON. You may also be feeling a little guilty having broken up with him. Start over. It will be better for you both.
2007-01-28 11:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First all, stay away from him, DON'T go back. I don't think you have feelings for him, he is comfortable for you. You know him and feel comfortable around him. It is so much easier to stay in the comfort zone then to go outside of it. It is more than obvious you don't want to be with him, so stop being unfair to him, give him a chance to move on, and you move on also.
2007-01-28 11:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by tamlovinlife2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what happened was you stopped liking him and started liking another boy. You told the boy and he doesnt feel the same way so you were desperate and went back to your man. And repeat.
Its either you want to be with him or you don't. Don't treat him like laundry.
2007-01-28 11:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to think of the reasons why you are getting so frustrated with him so much. Are they dumb reasons or what. Then you have to talk it out with him. Then work out your differences....maybe you guys arent meant to be, or maybe you just have problems to out. Good Luck!
2007-01-28 12:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by grown n sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like you do but you don't,yes and no.I think maybe you are ready to move on but you feel too comfortable in the relationship with him.
2007-01-28 11:46:17 · answer #11 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋