I am almost 24 years old and have a 9 month old little girl. Recently we moved away and about two months later we had to move back to where we came from. Me and my daughter are living with my parents and my boyfriend is livign at his brothers in another town. My parents are still trying to control me and are always in my personal life. we are looking for a place to live and I am trying to get a job. My boyfriend has had a job here since before we moved and has been working since we got here. I hate it here, why are they so controlling?
2007-01-28 11:36:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
~many reasons:
1) they don't want to let you go.
2) now they don't want to let their grand-daughter go either!
3) their life was a bit empty when you left before, so, now they put all of their energy into controling you so you won't leave again.
4) by focusing on you/spending all of the time trying to control, they don't have to focus on themselve and/or their own problems.
do you need more reasons? I can give them to you.
Don't let them get to you Sweetheart. They just don't know any better yet.
2007-01-28 11:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten2 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Going back home after you left the first time will never be easy again. Your parents are going to find it hard to treat you like the adult that you are.
I will sympothize with you. My husband and I had much the same situation a few years back, and it was very hard. We lived with my mother, and we had our two year old son with us. My father was in a nursing home at the time. We thought that we would be a great help to her, but it turns out she treated me like a child. Do things like telling me that I was disciplining my child wrong, and telling me the bathroom had to be cleaned a certain way. I got so very stressed out that one day when her and I had went shopping together, we got home took the groceries out of the car, and I had left my door open. It ran the battery down in her car. I heard about this for the next month. Well my husband jumped off her car and had it running in a jippy. The next time we went shopping I insisted we take mine, or I would not go with her.
It is a very hard thing to go back to your parents, and I know you are looking for a place, but it probably want get better until you find you a home and get settled. I wish I could offer you more help. I wish I could say that it is going to get better but it want. I am sure your parents love you very much and they think they are helping. I just don't think they can make the switch from you being there little girl to you being an adult with a child.
At any rate, just grin and bare it, and keep looking with passion for that knew home.
2007-01-28 20:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are back in their home and they are probably thinking that their little girl is back home. If your boyfriend has been working since you got back then why can`t you get an apartment or you and the baby move in with him and his brother. There are also agencies out there that can help you. Your parents are going to continue to be controlling because maybe they are telling you that this is your home to come for visits but not for a residence. They may feel that you are infringing on their privacy even though they love you.
2007-01-28 19:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they don't know how to do anything but be parents.
As long as you are in their house under their 'care' they feel they have a right to expect certain things and behaviors from you.
You may have to remind them (be nice now!) that you are trying to get out on your own and they can help you do that by allowing you to make your own decisions and even mistakes on occasion. That's how we learn. Good luck.
2007-01-28 19:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because, they LOVE you, believe it or not! They do want what is best for you, their "GRANDCHILD" and her Father! It is all about Love and you are blessed! Moving away and coming back within 2 months, is not stable! RIGHT? They have every right to worry about you, their Grandchild, and your Future! Be kind, get a job, love your parents and show them you are able! Take care and God bless!
2007-01-28 20:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by DORY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They think you cannot function on your own and need them to do all your thinking for you. The sooner you are able to move out, the better for you.
2007-01-28 19:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to accept that you are a grown woman. That's why. You will understand once your baby grows up.
2007-01-28 19:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's their house.
They are doing you a favor by letting you stay with them with your baby. If you were to appreciate this, you might be happier.
2007-01-28 19:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋