my guy seemed like a good guy when i met him, protective over me, wanted me to open up to him, did everything he could not to hurt me, we wouldn't go to bed with bad feeling, we grew together and he said he was trying to help me be the best i could be and do the best for myself. i fell sooo in love with him, i still am, i want him more than anyone and i want to give him everything.
But!! it feels like he stopped giving love, everything seems one sided now. he calls me and tells me to call him right back so he doesn't have to pay, if i get upset about something he gets mad about the way i got upset. if i cry, he says 'look at what you do to yourself' he blames me for any problems at all.
NEVER, ever does he say anything like 'it's ok honey. just come here and i'll give ya a hug'. if i'm busy making him happy is he like 'baby, you are the sweetest most selfless girl' and i melt. but i dont know if he's the guy i met and fell in love with. i feel like that guy is gone or going.
2007-01-28 11:35:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the independence thing, it's actually him that wants me to be dependent. he wanted me to need him.
2007-01-28 11:49:08 · update #1
why don't you express those things to him just like to you did here. you have to let him know how that you feel because if you don't he may not know that your feeling that way. You have to remember that he's a guy and sometimes they just don't get it. Let him know how you feel and i'm pretty sure you'll get the answer that you want.
2007-01-28 11:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don't need a man to make you feel good about yourself. This is something you have to work on. Show him that you can be independent sometimes. I think you were becoming a little needy and he didn't notice this at first and now its getting out of hand. Think about this how did you do on your own before you met him.
As for the phone stuff, if he calls you on your home phone and ask you to call him back, I don't see anything wrong with that. If its cellphone to cellphone, tell him no you will not call hiim back.
2007-01-28 19:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by lisaraye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. Some for the better and others for the worse, If u can't fix this than move on. There will be a guy who will do the same good things he did and never stop. Good Luck!!
2007-01-28 19:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure this was ever a good relationship. He was controlling you by making you "be the best and do the best" for yourself. It was one sided from the start. He is the taker; you're the giver. He conned you in the beginning. He was gone from the beginning...except for the services you could provide him. MOVE ON!!
2007-01-28 19:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning, the person trying to woo the other one with go out of their way to woo them the best.
later on down the line, they will get selfish. its just human nature.
best you can do is point out what he does differently, but you'll see that during the conversation, you'll feel silly pointing out those minor flaws.
its really not that big of a deal. thats just life
2007-01-28 19:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do for your relationship is sit down with your boyfriend and tell him everything you just wrote down. your relationship CAN'T work if you dont communicate with him. so tell him as soon as possible what you are thinking and try to resolve it.
2007-01-28 19:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by clairebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it all out...
you already got your questions and things to say... why not share with him...
communication is what keeps us bonded.
2007-01-28 19:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋