ever since the age of 15 i was trying to have a relationship with girls. I really never was liked by alot of people. maybe like 40 % liked me. I am one of those people, you have to know me, and understand me inorder to like me. I am a different kind of person. I did have sex last year for the first time in my life. i met a girl, and next night, we were having sex. After that, she did not want me anymore..Most of the time when I asked girls out, they said no. In my 20s I had alittle luck. I went out with some girls, got my first kiss at the age of 20, but still could not get a relationship going. Im not ugly, or atleast I wasnt when I was younger.. I am invisible to girls. Even when i go to europe, its the same thing. Girls dont have a intrest in me. I dont have that spark what other guys have to get girls intrested in me. I go to bars, and a girl walks away from me before I even can start talking to her. Its like girls know by looking if a man has experience with girls or not.
2007-01-28 11:34:35 · 17 answers · asked by joseph g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just need to be straight forward and talk to them and have confidence.
Go out there and get one
2007-01-28 11:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are looking for a girl at a bar then.....there you go! Look within, have you ever taken the time to listen to a woman? Or do you just take care of yourself? Meaning, are you a good listener? Seems as if you were an eccentric person. Things that go beyong "normal" can freak some people out. Let me tell you my story. I am a very straightforward person. This means that I don't have a lot of friends. I appreciate sincerity in a person, even if it hurts. Sometimes people just don't want to hear the truth.....and stop talking to me. I am working on the art of "candy-coating" the things I say. Try to open up, what areas in your life are keeping you from dating? Why did you have sex so late in your life??? I mean, good for you. I'm actually proud of you...not many out there can handle this. Not having sex means that you might be "finishing" too soon, obviously completely unattractive to a woman. This is a hard question, really. How do you see yourself? Do you like yourself? Would you date yourself? Do you smell? Do you talk about comic books all the time? I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to help you figure out what you are missing.
2007-01-28 11:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...well, on the upside you are certainly due. Usually love comes when you are least expecting or looking for it. Perhaps if you stop trying and worrying about it so much it will just happen. If you want to be a bit more proactive, try internet dating sites where you can get to know someone better prior to being forced into a dating situation...that was you will ensure that you are clicking with someone personality wise and even physically as most exchange pictures prior to worrying about getting rejected. I think most of all, you sound like you lack confidence...and I don;t blame you based on your track record. But that lack of confidence is probably somewhat of a turn off to girls...not your lack of experience...as we have all been there at one point or another. Good luck and hang in there!
2007-01-28 11:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by chick33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way of getting a relationship is to get to know someone and not meet in a bar or club. Join some social clubs like sports team or learn to fence etc. Meet people at work. that way you can talk to girls and hang out with them to get to know em. I can't seem to meet people through just going out to a club/bar let alone having a relationship lol.
Good luck
2007-01-28 11:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by andy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to change your outward appearance. Go to an upscale hair salon and ask for advice for the best look for you. Then go to a dept. store like Macy's or Bloomingdales and ask a salesperson to help you with a nice wardrobe. They are trained to do that. Are you well groomed and clean? A nice aftershave is always pleasing. Make an investment in yourself. The bar scene is not a good place to meet women. Take a ballroom dancing course or a cooking class and you will be surrounded by women who will get to know you. Smile and be friendly. Believe me, there are lots of wonderful women looking for a good man. And there's always eharmony.com but try the other methods first.
2007-01-28 11:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pheremones, and looks. Don't sweat it. Women don't want average guys. If you didn't get your girl in High School or college and you're average it's almost impossible. Women would rather be part of a harem of 10 women after some studly arrogant guy than go out with an "average guy'. But hang in there, it will take a stroke of luck but you could find someone who likes an average guy but most of them are married off.
2007-01-28 11:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by speewah2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW!!! Thats sad, maybe the girls just dont like how you look or something, im not sure. But if you aer very nice, cute and romantic then I dont know why you dont have a gf. but dont get to down, i bet the girl of your dreams is coming soon and you dont even now it.
2007-01-28 11:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Kevin Jonas♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you need to stop trying. Just go out and see the world, be yourself, and don't think constantly of all the regrets or misgivings you feel about dating. You'll meet someone, and everything will fall into place.
Remember, there's no day but today...
2007-01-28 11:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u havent had a girlfriend because ur not outgoing insist
dont seem desperate
and dont come on too strong
be suave
2007-01-28 11:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Fellinlovetoday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats cause, you stayed indoors too long. Get out enjoy your ONLY LIFE.
2007-01-28 11:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋