He's one of the best friends I've ever had, and now I'm starting to fall for him BAD. I want to be his girlfriend, but I don't want to lose him as a best friend. Should I go for it?
2007-01-28 11:29:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it can go somewhere, just as long as both are in the same level of feelings. It's a very awkward situation to face, specially since at some point, you know what's to lose and what's to win, and while there's no real solution to this problem, I could only recommend that you should talk with him openly, without expecting anything. If he says he has the same feelings for you, then it's something done! Then if he doesn't feel it like that, try to handle the situation without dissapointment (though I'm sure you would be if that were the case).
Try to talk things easy at all times, with hinting questions like "Have you ever thought what would happen if we were a couple?" or more like "Do you ever wonder what would it be like if you and me...?", or just "has it ever crossed your mind?". I think these are easy questions that mean no harm, and could give you the answers you need.
Good luck, and hope it does work out for you!
2007-01-28 11:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! I am dating my best guy friend and it couldn't be better. Start hanging out with him more, and casually touch him more, on the arm, or the shoulder or whatever, and maybe one day give him a kiss on the cheek when you guys are hanging out alone. If he doesn't get the hint, but you think that he might be intersted, make a move, and kiss him for real. (that's what I did). You have to get used to the idea, unfortunately, that he might actually not be intersted, but it's worth the shot. You have to be strong enough to get over it and make the friendship work anyway. If the boyfriend realationship doesn't work, give him some space for a few weeks, and then act like nothing ever happened, and go back to being friends like before. It might take you some time, but he'll get over it and things will go back like the did before. Just think about the regret you will have if you never say anything? And real relationships and made of best friends. Would you ever want to be involved with anybody who you couldn't completely trust. good luck, and stay strong.!!!
2007-01-28 11:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by i wish i knew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Do you think you could maintain friendship with him after the 2 of you broke up? Otherwise you may end up with a massive void in your life! But on the other hand, he could be the one and you wont know unless you give it a go! You should maybe just talk about it. If you both are willing to give it a go, and you could both work around the fact that if it didn't work, you could still be friends why not?!
2007-01-28 11:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitly go for it. But be sure to tell him that no matter what u will always be friends. Even if one person starts to feel that this isn't working out, the other one won't get offended. But u will still be best friends. Either way u both win. GOod Luck!!!
2007-01-28 11:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about dating. If he says no, I just want to stay friends, DROP IT! Maybe his feelings will change later on.
One of my best guy friends had a crush on me for the longest time, and I told him I wasn't interested in him like that, but I was still able to be friends with him. Until he started pushing it...it just got so weird that now I can't bring myself to talk to him normally anymore.
2007-01-28 11:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should!!! Just try dropping some hints (not too subtle, though). If the hints fail, you might have to go ahead and tell him how you're feeling outright. The friendship might change a little if he's not interested, but you're going to have to take that risk. You might be surprised to find out he's feeling the same way, but afraid to approach you about it.
2007-01-28 11:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, once you cross a certain line, you cannot go back to the way things were. You have to ask yourself if the risk is worth it. Would you rather have a great friend and wonder "what if" or take the chance and possibly loose a great friendship?
2007-01-28 11:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same damn problem and i have no clue what to do about it. :'( *whimpers* i mean, no matter who you ask, they always tell you something different, ya know? and how the heck do you know if he likes you. he treats us like his friend. so he's nice... and funny... and open. but in the end, who knows if he wants more too. sheesh.
2007-01-28 11:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by werley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just say that you like him and if he doesn't like you then ask him to just forget about that and you 2 can stil be friends- if you both like eaach other then go for it cause you cant gain anything if you dont try
2007-01-28 11:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only go for it if you think he might feel the same way. otherwise, you'll just ruin your friendship.
2007-01-28 11:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by clairebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋