How do I fix it so that she can trust me and accept me as part of her life? I know that I really messed up and even wished that she were dead, but now I know I was wrong. The only problem is that she doesn't trust me. Help.
2007-01-28 11:29:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her how you feel im sure she would love to hear it from you.Trusting someone again also takes time, you have to earn her trust... good luck!!
2007-01-28 11:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard that "time heals all wounds?"
You need to tell her that you are sorry for wishing such stupid things. Send her some flowers. Make her something from the heart. Take an active role in the family, doing things for her, doing your homework, and don't be sneaky. If you're a teenager, I know it's hard to keep these things up. But if she really loves you, all these things will work.
You must acquire patience, because this is the only way to get her to trust you, and accept you in her life.
I promise that "evil stepmothers" don't exist.
She is already a part of your family. Just love her, and understand that it's just as hard for her as it is you.
2007-01-28 11:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue as you've said is trust and the easiest way to allow someone to trust you is by letting them in. Sharing your life with them.Be open and honest and let them see the kind of person you've become.Someone who has matured and gained understanding of past mistakes. We all mess up ... there is no doubt about it but if you are sincere she will see it.Make a point to tell her how you're feeling and that you're sorry.Taking responsibility for your part in what's happened will go a long way in helping the healing process. Be patient and consistent .... don't give up..... broken trust takes time to rebuild .
Best of luck !! : )
2007-01-28 11:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs time to see that you really are serious about changing your mind. What you need to decide for yourself is that you are going to be nice and polite and respectful towards her no matter if she's accepting of the new you or not. That way, when she's doubtful, you know that you will continue no matter what. Is your niceness conditional on how she reacts, or is your niceness due to the fact that you are growing up and realize the error of your ways when you were younger? Don't play games, either you mean it or you don't and just be patient. Good Luck
2007-01-28 11:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hei.
well.. you can't do anything but show her that she can trust you.
don't expect it to be great from one day to another. It's a process.
just show her that you appreciate her, that you want her to be part of your life.
maybe you can try and see her as a friend.. rather then a step-mom.
that kind of helped me.
I never got a long with my stepdad... and since I wanted to stop fighting I started seeing him as a friend and it really helped.
just give it some time and some lovin'
you guys are gonna work it out.
good luck.
2007-01-28 11:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by tehese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask her to talk to you and sit down with her and explain that you know you were not nice before and tell her the reasons why. and ask her if there is any way that you can make it up to her and hopefully build up her trust in you. GOOD LUCK because you really seem to be sincere. BE PATIENT
2007-01-28 11:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to build trust and only seconds to mess it up.
2007-01-28 11:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've kept up with your questions and your drama with your step mother. I'm glad that you've finally come around to our way of thinking and hope that you do earn her trust. You can't be in her good graces over night. It will take you some time to earn her trust. You've done a lot of really mean things to her--by your own admission. Just be a better you and be kind to her, your father, your stepsister and everyone around you. One day everything will just click and your family will be happy.
Good luck.
2007-01-28 11:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldd talk to her and tell her how you feel. You shoul also try to explain why you have been acting this way. Ask her what could you do to earn her trust. Be obedient!
2007-01-28 11:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take time. Do little things to help her without her having to ask you. Be considerate. Smile. Gradually you will win her over ... and it will be worth it.
2007-01-28 11:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋